Marriage v/s Love
In DMG, love was an impulsive, spur of the moment desire that clouded the mind with every thought that it crossed paths with. It was a thrilling and breath-taking emotion of longing and attraction that followed every tortured soul it consumed with watchful eyes, waiting for its inhabitant to finally succumb to its calling. Then everything was elated. All the problems of the world would bow down before it and expire, releasing the two people from the pains that they had encountered, and allowing them to come back to Earth to focus on what they what they wanted most: each other. Okay, so maybe I got a little carried away with that one. But that was the way that it was meant to be in DMG, the way it was intended to be for every hopeless romantic couple, at least this was the way AR came, loved and conquered!
Coming to "marriage", it is a blessed, most precious and most beautiful commitment, a union of two souls for time and eternity. It includes love, understanding, shared values, and the ability to complete one another. But, marriage is NOT about sacrifice, it is NOT about the so-called "farz", it is NOT about tying the knot under parental or social pressure. Infact, if based on these factors, a marriage is not a marriage at all.
I do feel you should marry who you love and not who was chosen for you. We can't pretend to love someone when we don't. It's important the person makes you feel happy inside and vice-versa. Riddhima married Sid not because of their love or mutual understanding or even friendship. She caved in to parental pressure. No religion in this world supports this type of forced marriage. It is illegal! No wonder, there was no magic in their relationship. SR have tried to do away with their unwanted bond numerous times. They can't be like AR, because there is no love between the two. They had no reason at all to get married.
Who should be together?
SR? For what?
Ridhimaa does NOT love Sid. She wants to give their marriage a second chance (parental, social pressure again) but not because she loves him. Sid might have developed a crush on Ridhimaa before their marriage; but I cant understand his love for her. Love includes respect, trust and mutual understanding; all these are missing here! Saving lives, sacrifices isn't love; it is humanity. Being mesmerised in other's presence isn't love; it is infatuation. Ridhimaa will never grow to love Sid. She can like him, but never love him. Armaan would always be the love of her life. Whatever the cvs come up with otherwise, about "mera aaj, mera kal, mera aane waala kal", this would never overcome the love for Armaan.
In marriages (based on love), divorce is like a death statement; it is ripping that melded soul apart. But for SR, it was like taking the easy road; the road that leads away from dealing with their problems they have with their partner and permanently alter the honor of their word. SR were never confident in their commitment! They dont want to be together! Sid only wants to be with Ridhimaa when he thinks about his own self and personal gain; his inner conscience knows that Ridhimaa still loves Armaan and would be happy with him only. He has resorted to using Armaan's advices to get Ridhimaa back; and if he does get Ridhimaa, it would not be cauz of his love for Ridhimaa, but because of Armaan's love.
AR? Why not?
Because they have no reason to not to be together. They love each other too much. They complete each other. Ridhimaa cannot help herself from falling into Armaan's arms, she cannot prevent herself from losing herself in his gaze. Just one glance speaks a million things! Isn't it only the thought of marital pressure which is keeping Ridhimaa away from Armaan? Doesn't it look like she would love nothing better than to love him back? I don't think I need to give instances to prove their love. It's redundant. We all have felt the AR love, extraordinary and improbable, amazing and incredible.
Armaan's actions can be more than justified. He knows Sid isn't capable of getting Ridhimaa back on his own, he knows Ridhimaa wants to give marriage a second chance, and he also knows that Ridhimaa still loves him. That's why he keeps dodging out of the way, so that Ridhimaa can try and concentrate on Sid, rather than losing herself in him. He deserves Ridhimaa like no one else. He deserves to be loved, he deserves to have a "happy-ending". No one else deserves it more than him. His love has been unwavered and undiminished, matched only by Ridhimaa's love for him. She made him conquer death. She caused him to be the person he is today. Armaan's love can try to goad Ridhimaa towards the path of her happiness, which he believes is through her marriage, but he himself cannot deny that when AR are together, Ridhimaa would not have to search for her happiness. Happiness is in their being together.
I do believe in true love, and that whichever way it happens, AR should be and have to be together. That's the one thing that's intended for sure.
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