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Shwetha

@Shwets1502

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Posted: 15 years ago

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i also had another thought guys...

remember the flashback...wer little suhaana doesnt like the presents...the way she throws things..get upset and all...that quality is still with suhaana now...though not sanjana...

so just had a thought that KK has brought up sanjana better than suhaana...

(dont mistake me...iam not telling that her mother was the reason for suhaana's attitude now..😊)

i am trying to say that we cannot say that KK has done mistakes in suhaana's upbringing due to the absence of her mother...

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Posted: 15 years ago

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Originally posted by: shwetha.spring
i also had another thought guys...
remember the flashback...wer little suhaana doesnt like the presents...the way she throws things..get upset and all...that quality is still with suhaana now...though not sanjana...

so just had a thought that KK has brought up sanjana better than suhaana...

(dont mistake me...iam not telling that her mother was the reason for suhaana's attitude now..😊)

i am trying to say that we cannot say that KK has done mistakes in suhaana's upbringing due to the absence of her mother...

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beautiful point shweta.....👏

Infact..... contrary to your views, shwetha i feel he outdid his parenting in case of Suhana which made her more adamant.....😭 and sanju more understanding....😃.If a couple has 2 kids, in most of the cases, one is more understanding and mature than the other.... well the case varies only that either it happens to be the elder one or younger one.....

CASE 1: Suppose here a couple's thinking is so that since the elder one is got the love and affection for a longer period of time.... some parents shower more attention on the little one always pressuming the elder now is elder and can manage ...... the words 'can manage' or 'should manage ' makes the situation worse in a child's mind....which results in neglection and possibly aggressive qualities too will tend to arise.

CASE 2: Sometimes some parents tend to shower extra attention on the elder one thinking they must not neglect the first one just b'coz the entry of second as they feel the first one should not be neglected and very conscious efforts will be taken to make the first feel at home and prove again and again that their love for the first one still remains the same to avoid any insecure feeling creep in.... In this case what happens is the younger one learns to live independantly with wise thinking and the elder one is still dependant on their parents and are more immature than the younger one.....

Here the case of Suhana is the CASE 2 where she was showered with more attention.......or I can say even more to compensate a mother in her life....where as Sanjana emerged more independant and mature thinking creeped into her much before her age......

I don't think any parent can intentionally do mistakes..... yes mistakes happen unintentionally due to circumstances and they realise it too late in life......😃

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Shwetha

@Shwets1502

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Posted: 15 years ago

#13

very nice post...great work...

this discussion has indeed brought up many different ways we can look into a subject...😊

hoping the discussions will continue...

Edited by shwetha.spring - 15 years ago

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111192

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Posted: 15 years ago

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When i go through this forum(SGP) i see healthy discussions going on ,on different topics related to real life not like other places where people are bashing one or other or supporting blindly to a character simply because they find him/her attractive.................and IMO this difference is because this serial gives us things to ponder upon which are related to real life and not just unrealistic love stories with over the to vamps.

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Posted: 15 years ago

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Originally posted by: 111192
When i go through this forum(SGP) i see healthy discussions going on ,on different topics related to real life not like other places where people are bashing one or other or supporting blindly to a character simply because they find him/her attractive.................and IMO this difference is because this serial gives us things to ponder upon which are related to real life and not just unrealistic love stories with over the to vamps.

A lovely treat for u dear for that posting..........👏 ..........................

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Shwetha

@Shwets1502

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Posted: 15 years ago

#16

another thought...

taking the two people here KK and Badi Maa...

i feel he has become weak in mind at the loss of his wife...a fear of raising two girls properly is present..he has done it successfully though...suhaana is a good girl guys...😊..

but i feel if a woman was present in his situation the fear and weakness would have been there at the start but she would have grown stronger in mind later...as a result the children would be more practical...

Badi Maa

i think the love she has got from her family is a big plus...in her case...the fact that their father left their mother and them will affect the children a lot...they might feel unwanted or sometimes the reason...the motherly love can alone save the children from unwanted thinking...

in case of a man in this case in the same situation of Badi Maa...i think he would have been at a difficult situation to make children understand why their mother left them...and if they are not in a big family in either cases it will be the most difficult situation...

there are many reasons why people become single parents...but the difficulty would be the same...

iam happy with KK and Badi Maa and many others like them that they din abandon their chidren...or send them to boarding school or somewere distant from them...cos there are many people who just want carry on with their lifes not caring about their children...

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@allizzwell

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Posted: 15 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: shwetha.spring
another thought...

taking the two people here KK and Badi Maa...

KK

i feel he has become weak in mind at the loss of his wife...a fear of raising two girls properly is present..he has done it successfully though...suhaana is a good girl guys...😊..

but i feel if a woman was present in his situation the fear and weakness would have been there at the start but she would have grown stronger in mind later...as a result the children would be more practical...

Badi Maa

i think the love she has got from her family is a big plus...in her case...the fact that their father left their mother and them will affect the children a lot...they might feel unwanted or sometimes the reason...the motherly love can alone save the children from unwanted thinking...

in case of a man in this case in the same situation of Badi Maa...i think he would have been at a difficult situation to make children understand why their mother left them...and if they are not in a big family in either cases it will be the most difficult situation...

there are many reasons why people become single parents...but the difficulty would be the same...

iam happy with KK and Badi Maa and many others like them that they din abandon their chidren...or send them to boarding school or somewere distant from them...cos there are many people who just want carry on with their lifes not caring about their children...

Your observation is so true shwetha..... I just found that beautiful contrast hidden in the concept that KK as a single parent has brought up Suhana and sanjana in a nuclear family set up and here Badi maa as a single parent has brought up Inder in a joint family set up... though the pain is the same in Inder, Suhana and Sanjana, i guess the difference in the characters is largely due to the set up they are brought up in....

Inder has possibly seen the hardships of his mother and has never strayed..... Suhana too has seen the affection and trust in her dad and never strayed....

Possibly what u said about Inder that had it been if he would have been brought up by a single dad and his mother woudl have left him, it would have developed an aversion in his mind against woman too possibly....

but here he is an easy going chap.... the serious intense scene of his with Badi maa was a marvellous act ..... as that was the first time he reacted himself when he spoke about his dad.

This show will def. give us lots and lots to discuss if we study each character minutely.......😉

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Shwetha

@Shwets1502

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Posted: 15 years ago

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in yesterday's episode i loved the way the feelings of a single parent was portrayed...i dont know whether you guys felt this...but this is wat i thought...

Badi Maa

she has always seen that her family is happy...she is doing all the work for that...that she forgot wat her problem was...or rather she does everything so that she doesnt get time to think all that...she also doesnt want her children to see her breakdown...she doesnt want to show anyone that she still cant forget that incident....and she shares this with radha bua as she understands it better because she herself being asingle mother...

here he doesnt have anyone to share his feelings...he is lonely...just thinks about his daughter and thinks whether he has done right or wrong..he has always done everything for his daughters thinking wat their mother will do...he has no other thinking other than his daughters...but wen he is in a dilemma wat to do about his daughters....he will never get to a conclusion because he has no one to tell him or rather he doesnt have his wife with him...

badi maa wants to keep her problem to herself and that she doesnt want anyone to know that she is still sad and thinks about it..KK also doesnt want anyone to know his sadness(here only sanjana...)...he doesnt want his children to know that he still misses his wife...both doing everything for their children but still cant forget their partner...whatever reason it may be..

i always love this show...but now i have lots of respect for it tooo...

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