In Ridhima's Place (Both for AR and SR fans)

Hello Everyone,

IF i were Ridhima, first of all, no amount of societal pressure would've made me marry someone who i didn't want to marry. Then again my parents would never force me to do that.
Secondly, if for some god forsaken reason i was married to him, i would've broken the marriage, the day my husband asked me to do stupid things like clean his shoes or behave with me like i am some tool not a human being.
Even after all this, for some reason( i can fathom what reason would compel me), i was still with my "husband" i wouldn't rush into anything because no matter how good of a person he is, i could never forget how he behaved with me, even if his anger was justified i don't want to be treated like that EVER in my life.
And then, if after giving up my self-importance, i decided to give the marriage a chance and then suddenly my ex would come in front of me, who by the way is/was(depending on whose point of view you are looking from, AR or SR fans) a big part of my life, i wouldn't behave the way ridhima behaved with him, and i definitely wouldn't treat Sid the way she is treating him either.

After saying all of that, now let me answer the real question, whether i would choose Armaan or Sid. At this juncture, i would honestly want time for MYSELF, not either one of them, and i would tell them that in a way BOTH of them will understand. No matter what, NO ONE deserves to be treated the way Armaan and Sid are treated. Of course i can't forget someone like Armaan who can't imagine his life without me, and i can't ignore Sid who is/was(again depending on how you look at it, since Ridhima did sign the divorce papers) my husband.
If after my decision, BOTH of them support me, i will analyze my feeling for both of them, because honestly married or not, Ridhima's life and happiness are above everything. And also, whoever i choose, they would HAVE to know what i feel about the other person, otherwise it would be unfair, be it Armaan or Sid.

So i guess at this point, finding herself is more important than deciding who she wants to spend the rest of her life with. Because, NO ONE can deny she has feelings for BOTH the guys. And till she knows what she feels, it is UNFAIR for her to take any decision in a haste.

Trust me when i say this, once you love someone more than your life, those feelings NEVER disappear no matter what. So, i can't really blame ridhima for not having enough control over her emotions when with Armaan, because she isn't crossing the line. As for Armaan picking her up, she was hurt, he was concerned, and there is no denying both have feelings for each other, but any decent guy would help a wounded girl. That DOES NOT make it wrong.

Before the SR fans get down my throat for justifying AR, let me tell you my view points on marriage. I believe in the institution of marriage and will NEVER do anything intentionally to jeopardize my marriage. Now, with that said, I also believe a marriage is based on trust, happiness, the ability to communicate, to be there for each other no matter what, and definitely NOT something i have doubts about. If i believe my husband can't trust me, then in my opinion i can NEVER reason with him. If he doesn't listen to me when i am trying to explain something, what does it say about our marriage? I agree, that the anger/bitterness in Sid is because the way ridhima is behaving, but a husband should NEVER, under any circumstances accuse his "wife" in front of anyone, even if it's the person who he thinks she is cheating on him with, because if she thinks she isn't doing anything wrong, she is going to defend both herself and the person being accused.

All in all, Ridhima should go on a vacation and clear her head, while Armaan and Sid control their feelings. Armaan knows his feelings and he isn't confused about his love, all he needs to know is whether ridhima needs him or not. But Sid needs to decide that what he wants to do. We are clear that he is HOPING ridhima chooses him, but then he doesn't make his feelings clear to HER, so that's why i think even he needs some time to find a way to "confess" his feelings for her without losing his mind. Basically, ALL THREE need time to themselves, clear their heads and TALK, COMMUNICATE, AND STOP ASSUMING THINGS.

Oh and lastly, Armaan and Sid NEED TO STOP TALKING. The more THEY talk, the more Armaan hopes, and the more Sid gets angry/sad. And i really really really wish both of them to be happy(doesn't matter with who), just want their smiling faces back and of course i am hoping after the triangle gets sorted out, we see a lot of COMBINED mischief from both of them. That's my last hope with DMG, to see some masti created by Armaan and Sid, i guess i want to see both of them bond like the way Armaan and Rahul used to be.

I am going to stop rambling now. I hope i haven't offended anyone, and i definitely hope that this post doesn't turn into a war zone, because i believe it is a NEUTRAL post.

Take care,
Shina