Sid is now a part of Ridhhima's Identity!

Honestly the reason am opening this topic is coz just now, me n my sis were having an argument bout 'Y do girls change their names after marriage'...n she was like i'd like to keep my identity n i was saying marriage gives u a title as well as an identity - tht of a wife!

So i found these explanations n wanted to share it wit u ppl:

When a woman marries a man she signals to the world her new IDENTITY by changing her name to her husband's. Through this action she acknowledges God's new creation - 'The Couple' and thanks Him for bringing her husband and herself together. Upon marriage she enters into a covenant between her husband, herself and God. She becomes part of something greater than herself: a union blessed and created by God.

and sid indeed has become a part of ridhhima's identity now!

The above explanation was from a religious standpoint n this one's from a psychological POV:

"The married change-name is, among other things, a psychological act, an imprinting by society on the (bride-bridegroom) initiate's consciousness. A newly-coined married name encodes new information about the man or woman. It connotes primarily that a new social relationship has occurred. A new name is a symbol of allegiance to a new person, a new nexus of relations, a starting-over."

I guess this is what ridzi meant wen she said Abb Main Ridhhima Gupta se Ridhhima Modi bann chuki hoon!

hi

ncie post rapunzel84

enjoyed reading the explanations you posted, esp the first one

and i agree with your statement that marraige indeed gives a women both a title and identity,

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And in the process of creating this new identity, she lost her real self somewhere. If thats what marriage does to you then maybe I'll step back and think about my decision thousand times. I don't want to lose myself for a new relationship.

Originally posted by: *Reemz*

And in the process of creating this new identity, she lost her real self somewhere. If thats what marriage does to you then maybe I'll step back and think about my decision thousand times. I don't want to lose myself for a new relationship.

I agree. I want to be independent and marriage should not be percepived like this.
And actually- in western societies- some girls are not even changing their last name- coz they dont think its necessary (some recent examples I have come across)- so yeh..... I like their open mindedness and appreciate their view......so a name change doesnt matter forget about personality
And yes- she completely lost herself somewhere- she needs a bounce back. Riddhima needs to be happy and find her inner self back- a modern young girl with strong ethos and beliefs- who stood up for people in need (seen in Kash times) and loved every relationship. I dont like this ridzi- the poor girl is so confused. Sometimes-I feel sorry for her coz she's completely lost.

Rapz amazing post totally agree

Originally posted by: *Reemz*

And in the process of creating this new identity, she lost her real self somewhere. If thats what marriage does to you then maybe I'll step back and think about my decision thousand times. I don't want to lose myself for a new relationship.

she lost herself when she was with armaan or have yu forgotten that she went totally crazy after he left so much so that she disregarded every relationship she had if that what this so called love does to yu then i wouldn't want that kinda of so called love.😆

Earnest request to all AR fans
Treat this as an SR post n stay clear!

@rapunzel84 I beg to differ... Why do we always talk about the identity change of women after marriage? I mean when men dont have to go thru any of this then why should women. Love can also just change you as a person, but I guess nothing can and should change some one's identity.

He is not only her world but becoming her universe.........and soon she will know that "he is the meaning and the reason for her very existence"\

The magic comes from Sid-Riddz , their story and the writers writing their track. KW-JW of course have brought the Sid-Riddz saga to life.

Originally posted by: AnuN

@rapunzel84 I beg to differ... Why do we always talk about the identity change of women after marriage? I mean when men dont have to go thru any of this then why should women. Love can also just change you as a person, but I guess nothing can and should change some one's identity.

hey..thanks for looking at this objectively n initiating a healthy discussion..wat a refresher! 😊
well the point i was tryin to make is sid is now a part of her identity..am not sayin she shud change or marriage shud completely change a person...its just tht wen u marry someone - u allow him / her to become a part of ur world, a part of u...a part of ur identity 😊