IF (keyword: IF) she signs them to save kaushi only!!!! seriously, if she signs them for that reason, i'll be soooo disappointed in her. that to me will show that sadi never really cared much for alekh, that he never was that important to her, that she's willing to end all relations with him, as long as it saves the life of another...that, to me, is just WRONG!!!
BUT if sadi signs them cause she doesn't feel there's anymore hopes for alekh and her to be together, and because alekh's not been a good husband to her, then i'll be behind her 100%. cause she'd be right. alekh has been a TERRIBLE husband to sadi. even before the whole ranvir-case hoopla, even before vasu was mad at her, alekh treated her terribly. doing nothing but yelling at her and avoiding her. being not only one of those uncaring, workaholic husbands who completely ignore and devalue their wives, but ALSO one who just scolds the poor wife for absolutely no reason. that's exactly how alekh treated sadi even BEFORE the ranvir-hoopla!!!! afterwards, he became, i'd say one of the worst husbands on the planet. not only did he abandon her, but he completely took her for granted as well. he also yelled at her on many occasions, w/o even knowing the whole truth (ie. when ranvir and sadi met by chance right after ranvir got out of jail). so if sadi decides to sign the divorce papers for that reason only, because alekh's been a terrible husband and she can't live with him, then like i said, i'll be behind her 100%. BUT if she signs them to get money for mami's operation, then she'll be nothing more to me than a golddigger. i don't care what your intention may be, if you marry/divorce someone for money, then you're a golddiger. marriage or divorce is not supposed to be taken as contract. it shouldn't be done as a matter of give-and-take. they're BOTH very serious matters. that is why when sadi endured all that pain when alekh was still mentally retarted, i felt that she deserved all that she got. she had married him ultimately for money, so she could pay off her uncle's debt, and she got her money, so she deserved every bit of that pain she got. and now if she divorces alekh for money, then IMO, she'll deserve all the inevitable pain she'll get in the future.
thanks for hanging in there with me during this long post 😊
Edited by pricey28 - 15 years ago