Is it posible to hate your best friend ??

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Posted: 15 years ago
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ok here's whats happened:I am best friend with this girl for over 7 years now.She is a good friend but now a days,i feel like I am with a different person altogether.She is the kind of girl who has a reputation of being rude and insensitive towards others.But I never actually thought of her that way.Some of my friends even used to ask me how could I bear with such a person,but I always defended her .But after all these years I can actually see that people's opinion was actually correct about her.Her behavoir is unbearable now,she tends to be dominating and sulks whenever things don't go her way.I have tried talking to her but its no use.I am just so tired of this behaviour and want to stay away from her.But at the same time I feel guilty becouse we've been friends for such a long time.I am in a huge delimma and just want your opinion on this matter.Is it even slightly possible to hate your best friend?

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Posted: 15 years ago
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I think you hate her, so you've answered your own question.
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Hmmmm, if I were you, I'd tell her about my feelings about her and other people's opinions about her and that frriendship should be mutual. If she still doesn't stop with her attitude, forget her. But it's important to get to a mutual understanding before taking action.
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Posted: 15 years ago
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A friendship is a bond of love and trust between two people unlike a family member whom we have a bond of blood with or we gain by the virtue of marriage...................so the moment the bond of love turns into hate the friendship is over...............so no u cannot hate ur best friend because the moment u start hating her she is not ur friend anymore.....
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Well, the kind of friend you have, rude and insensitive, its possible not to be friends with her but hate? Thats a bit much. She is a human and can be like that. Ofcourse its not good...and I totally dont like people like her and cant bear them like you have for all these years but I still wont hate her....specially after having been best friends with her.

I had this girl friend...we became great friends within a year but then I found out she used to lie alot, change boyfriends at the speed of an eyeblink, be with one at a time then suddenly theres a 2nd and 3rd one and back to the first one. I dont like these kind of things, on top of it, she would never live upto the IMP. promises she would make and so on n on. I stopped my friendship with her but even today we meet in college we exchange a nice hi hello. But no friendship anymore. But I still dont hate her.
Every human is different and have their own way of being. Some people have this more than needed attitude in them but from hearts, they are absolute sweethearts....so you kinda like them on some level.
My answer would be a No to hate a best friend in your situation but again, there are these "ugghh" best friends which you can hate. For example, a best friend who cheats on you by going out with your boyfriend. Now in this situation, not only will I hate her, I can possibly murder her....I ofcourse wont practically murder her but in thoughts, for sure I will wish to. Especially if my relation would have been a long one.
I ll just say, stay away from her or if you feel guilty then maybe you can talk to her sometimes and rearly a few times hang out and not completely disassociate yourself but dont hate her...definetely not if she still feels the same way about the relation you two share/shared 😊
Now I have given my thoughts but there are far more absolutely great debaters her with sound advice so keep a lookout for them. Hope they help better than me :)
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Posted: 15 years ago
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If she has a good reason to be rude to others then its ok.

In any case, is she really rude? Sometimes in India when people are not nice then they are automatically termed as rude. If they dont smile then they are rude. If they don't help others then they are rude.


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Posted: 15 years ago
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Maybe she's an acquaintance and not a friend.. i love all my friends.. i have known my best friend since kindergarten.. everyone has goood and bad qualities.. if you really love them you'll overlook their bad qualities and appreciate them for their goood qualities...😳
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: karandel_2008

If she has a good reason to be rude to others then its ok.

In any case, is she really rude? Sometimes in India when people are not nice then they are automatically termed as rude. If they dont smile then they are rude. If they don't help others then they are rude.


I wuv you, Karan😆
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Your best friend is showing her middle finger to you. Now howz that for being such a good friend to her, hunh?😛
Hope that solves your dilemna😆 , Mr. evil trickster.
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Your best friend can hurt u ten times more than your enemy ...and its also true that a enemy will accept ur fault but a best freind ,criticize ur wrong deeds....😊

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