Is it love?

I have been noticing Abhi's behaviour for quite some days now and today when I was watching the US episode, it really really bothered me to ask this.
Abhi sitting and shedding tears thinking what Simi said (that she has agreed to marry Nakul) and screams out loud "Ma! Maa!! Maaa!!!" and hugging his mom.

Simi treats Abhi so badly and wants him only as a shoulder to cry on. But what about Abhi? In that scene he was acting as if a kid has been deprived of his favorite toy to play with. Even after repeadtly being humiliated by Simi, Abhi is behind her proclaiming his love, electrocuting himself and getting thrashed too. For me, it simply looks like a stubborn kid who wants to get Simi at all cost. Does Abhi really love Simi and does that behaviour from any angle be called love?

Originally posted by: bee5

I have been noticing Abhi's behaviour for quite some days now and today when I was watching the US episode, it really really bothered me to ask this.
Abhi sitting and shedding tears thinking what Simi said (that she has agreed to marry Nakul) and screams out loud "Ma! Maa!! Maaa!!!" and hugging his mom.

Simi treats Abhi so badly and wants him only as a shoulder to cry on. But what about Abhi? In that scene he was acting as if a kid has been deprived of his favorite toy to play with. Even after repeadtly being humiliated by Simi, Abhi is behind her proclaiming his love, electrocuting himself and getting thrashed too. For me, it simply looks like a stubborn kid who wants to get Simi at all cost. Does Abhi really love Simi and does that behaviour from any angle be called love?

this is the same question many of us have............................😲😲. at least he says he loves simi. and makes sure she is happy what about simi , she always annoys him an seeps him apart.

for abhi simi is an obession. Like a toy for a child that he saw in teh shope and he has to have it. Or some other child has it and he has to have it.

Bee I think the magnitude of love has spilled over the scale of love and patience has gone and he is really soo pissed off that he is now turned into anger in love
'Even if you notice in today's India eoisode Simi says something like pyaar turns into anger

I pity Abhi He did everything on the face of this earth to make Simi happy
'She was the one who fell for him and its like he was complelled to fall for her after hearubf trhe sister talk and the biggest dialogue she gave in the park " LEKIN PYAAR TO NAHI KARTHEY NA !!" Infact he was not in his sense3s i guess when he blurted it out !!

Maybe also its a kinda of a zidd !!
Its soo hard to figure out what exactly is Love

Originally posted by: bee5

I have been noticing Abhi's behaviour for quite some days now and today when I was watching the US episode, it really really bothered me to ask this.
Abhi sitting and shedding tears thinking what Simi said (that she has agreed to marry Nakul) and screams out loud "Ma! Maa!! Maaa!!!" and hugging his mom.

Simi treats Abhi so badly and wants him only as a shoulder to cry on. But what about Abhi? In that scene he was acting as if a kid has been deprived of his favorite toy to play with. Even after repeadtly being humiliated by Simi, Abhi is behind her proclaiming his love, electrocuting himself and getting thrashed too. For me, it simply looks like a stubborn kid who wants to get Simi at all cost. Does Abhi really love Simi and does that behaviour from any angle be called love?

Originally posted by: ramas

for abhi simi is an obession. Like a toy for a child that he saw in teh shope and he has to have it. Or some other child has it and he has to have it.

Like nakul wants simi and now abhi has to have her.

he always claims himself he is young and immature and it shows up in everything.

Actually I feel abhi wants to be grown up by taking care of simi as she alwasy needs him for protecting her or for crying on his shoulder.

So it like more pity and needs to protect her than love.

This all started when Simi said "LEKIN PYAAR TU NAHI KARTHEY NA !!"
Till that time he was normal and acted completly sensible

Originally posted by: shanti05

Bee I think the magnitude of love has spilled over the scale of love and patience has gone and he is really soo pissed off that he is now turned into anger in love
'Even if you notice in today's India eoisode Simi says something like pyaar turns into anger

I pity Abhi He did everything on the face of this earth to make Simi happy
'She was the one who fell for him and its like he was complelled to fall for her after hearubf trhe sister talk and the biggest dialogue she gave in the park " LEKIN PYAAR TO NAHI KARTHEY NA !!" Infact he was not in his sense3s i guess when he blurted it out !!

Maybe also its a kinda of a zidd !!
Its soo hard to figure out what exactly is Love

Shanti ..... bhi to pehle simi se pyaar tha abhi woh zidd ban gaya. thanks to our great simi.

Originally posted by: Laila2009

Bee, it is not love. I have studied the concept of "love" in my masters program and often the love we see in Indian dramas and Bollywood films is known as passionate love. It is where there is no real intimacy with the other person, commitment, etc. The love is very frivolus, romantic and with it you will see intense emotions sometimes labeled as obsessive love, puppy love, even a crush. Abhi's behavior mirrors that of someone who has an intense longing to be with someone. If the love is unrequitted then there is emptiness, anxiety and despair. Passionate lovers love and want to be loved in return.

True love or companionate love has far less intense emotion and is combined with a feeling of deep attachment, commitment and intimacy. A couple who are in this type of love are able to engage in intimate communication, develop a mutual understanding and give each other emotional support.

Thus the relationship between Abhi and Simi is not a healthy one at all. Abhi really has an obsessive type of love for Simi whereas Simi's love is non-existent. Neither have reached a staget of companionate love for each other where they can understand each other. If Simi really understood what she was doing to Abhi, she wouldn't be so horrible to him.

Unfortunately, people like this type of love - the passionate kind.

Simi's form of love is pyaar mai balidaan chahey Khud ko sacrifice kardo apney pyaar ko tokrakay !!
Abhi's forum of love is Nahi balidaan is not the end of the world we both toghetr can fight the problems.. Love is support for him which he wants to give 100% but when the support goes overboard it turns into obsession like u mentioned..
Who wud like if your Roka is taken and you trash it the very next day coz I am going to marry some other guy coz my family needs my support and its required for them as I love to sacrifice my love and I beleieve in that form of love

Originally posted by: ssree

Shanti ..... bhi to pehle simi se pyaar tha abhi woh zidd ban gaya. thanks to our great simi.

infact any one would do the smae i wont blame abhi fully for his behaviour.. even v are getting angry on simi for her behaviour towards abhi.

neetu knew vicky and met him just once or twice........ but she still stood for vicky where as simi never stood with abhi. right from the day one she has been keeping restrictions on abhi.........and not showing her love . at least once she should have. we would be happy.

Aaj ke baad thay karenge ki kya hoga abhi aur simi ke zindago main.

O yes she never !! When she wanted to hide the relation he said Ok as you say madam..
When the world came to know and she accepted that she will take the Roka he was pleased and who will not be
But the very next day trashing it is any day frustrating and commands explanation which she has is O i am doing it for my family I am sorry you are freed

Originally posted by: shanti05

Simi's form of love is pyaar mai balidaan chahey Khud ko sacrifice kardo apney pyaar ko tokrakay !!
Abhi's forum of love is Nahi balidaan is not the end of the world we both toghetr can fight the problems.. Love is support for him which he wants to give 100% but when the support goes overboard it turns into obsession like u mentioned..
Who wud like if your Roka is taken and you trash it the very next day coz I am going to marry some other guy coz my family needs my support and its required for them as I love to sacrifice my love and I beleieve in that form of love

acutally I am with Abhi. poor fellow he dosent have any one with him. 😉 so i am for him.