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With that .. I don't mean to say that I am not on Damini's side. There is no question of them being on either side .. I still believe they are on the same side, just standing facing different directions. They are not Prithvi & Damini ... they are PriDa, remember?
Anyways .. on the onset, I'd like to apologise to everyone. Firstly, this is gonna be long 😕 Secondly, with this post .. I don't intend to hurt anyone, nor am against what anyone is thinking or saying .. I'm just posting my POV, which may not be the same as everyone here. This may be the last post I make in the LNMDJ section .. so please do forgive me if anyone is hurt.
Last night I did not watch the episode .. and had no intentions of watching it either. But decided to watch the last shot and precap, after Maz posted Damini's pic in the PriDa thread. And now, I'm more than glad I watched the whole episode.
I just couldn't stop thinking about all of them .. PriDa in particular. And one thing became even more clear to me. Everything is a matter of perspective .. and how you look at things. Each person has their own perspective .. You have yours, I have mine.
The scene where Damini admits and takes responsibility of Suman's death .. and Prithvi's subsequenct reaction - IMO, all of you who are angry at Prithvi, saw Prithvi "the husband" who did not believe his wife. I ended up seeing Prithvi "the son" who lost his mother. Sorry .. but I thought his reaction was very natural. All along, he held onto his belief that his wife could not do anything wrong, coz he had seen how well she took care of his mother .. and next minute, that faith is shattered as she herself admits to being responsible, albeit, it was a mistake which was being projected as murder. At such times, when a person is in complete shock, its very difficult to look for reasoning .. and Prithvi's walking away from there, IMO, was natural. At that time, he was a son grieving his mom's death all over again! IMO, Prithvi's reaction yesterday .. was much stronger than when Suman actually died! GK excelled in the scene when he was walking in the corridor and entered his mother's room.
I know .. most of us will think "what mother .. who mother?!" where Suman is concerned. She was never as popular as Ila Gujral was .. rather, Suman was popular amongst us for all the wrong reasons. But bottomline is.. both, Ila & Suman were MOTHERS. Suman loved her sons as much as Ila loved her daughters .. and same goes for the boys & girls who loved their respective mothers more than anyone else. We loved Ila Gujral coz she was the coolest mom ever .. but that doesn't mean Suman was any less than Ila. We just didn't get to see that side .. but we can't deny that she was a mother. I'm sure .. as daughters .. we all think our parents are the best in the world! Like the girls mourned Ila's death ... the boys too have the right to mourn their mother's death. And thats exactly what happened ..
Tell me one thing honestly .. would we all not react in a similar fashion if such a situation arises in our family? If any one of my parent dies .. and I realise my husband is somewhat responsible .. I think I'd react quite similarlyto how Prithvi reacted. Even Damini reacted the same way .. and blamed the brothers for Ila's death. One can only begin to see reason, when you're out of shock. Only later did Damini realise that Ila was terminally ill and would have died eventually .. had the brothers been in their lives or not! Also .. for the brothers .. at some level, the pain must have been immense and very intense. Just when they had somewhat recovered from their father's death .. their mother died too. In between, Ila died too .. whom they had come to love & respect like their own mother (in the last few days atleast)
I think what I felt for Prithvi .. the pain he was going through .. was more personal than anything else. When Ila Gujral died, I could completely relate to the pain the girls' were going through .. having experienced the pain myself. And now again .. I felt the pain. My aunt is in a coma .. and a "Veggie" in the true sense of the word. That lady has seen me grow .. and really, its hard to imagine that she is lying in a hospital bed .. almost lifeless! I'm feeling the pain .. so I can imagine what her daughter must be going through .. holding on to the anything and everything possible .. praying that her mother recovers. So, funnily .. I began feeling terrible about making fun of Suman .. and just thought of her as a mother who loved her sons. And now her sons are mourning her death. So, to some extent, their reactions are justified .. be it Prithvi's shock, Sameer's anger or Varun's indifference. The girls too reacted similarly initially .. but then slowly began to recover. The same will happen with the boys.
Speaking of Sameer's anger .. and his impulsive nature .. at some level, aren't most of us like that? Even in real life .. we play the blame game. If we have been wronged (for whatever reasons) .. we find reasons to blame someone for our condition. I think its quite natural to react like that .. don't you think so? Its wrong to a certain extent .. but it is like that. I mean .. when we are angry about something, we don't stop to see the reason behind the things that happened. Why go far .. lets talk about the forum here. In any serial .. when we don't like what is happening .. or when things are not going according to the way we want it to .. we get angry and start blaming the CV's and everyone else! Again .. a very natural reaction .. and something we all succumb to. Can't help it na .. coz we love our show so much.
Having said all that .. I think it was necessary to show Prithvi, Sameer & Varun the way they did. Its more like a norm in Indian television .. and definitely there is a reason. Also, after watching yesterday's episode .. I think I have now somehow begun to understand why & what happened to LNMDJ from its launch until now .. But will post a seperate topic on that later today, or else it will become too much in one post 😛
Sorry for all the rambling .. and if I have hurt anyone with whatever I said. I hope you know it wasn't intentional .. just my POV .. and something I needed to take out from my system.
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