Effects of crossing the Lakshman Rekha???

Anu,

You are very right. If certain boundaries are crossed you have to face the consequences.

Unlike in the Vikram incident Radhika has been shown going through an inner struggle to take the right course of action. The right course of action being letting Dev know about Vishaka's call and taking his help to find Vishaka.

So, in this case she knew her boundaries and yet crossed it. She ended up choosing the easier course of action thinking she does not have to confront Dev's anger or disapproval. But the fact remains, while she was free to choose the course of action she wanted she is not free to choose the consequences of those actions.

And facing consequences can be a good thing. If this current track, leads to her facing consequences of her actions which then will eventually lead to growth and self realization in Radhika, then I will be ecstatic.

I want her to realize that

1) Whatever she does, she should do it openly, honestly and with dignity.

If she had walked up to Dev and told him respectfully that she understands his position but Vishaka is her sister no matter what, so she needs to make sure if Vishaka's life is not in danger, I am sure Dev would have been right by her side in Sunsan Gali looking for Vishaka.

2) Understand the true meaning of responsibilities.

Responsibilities to someone shouldn't work to the detriment of your self or the other person. If Vishaka truly needs her help then help her but if Vishaka comes to her to take advantage of her or any other member of her family then in unambiguous terms let Vishaka know of her boundaries.

3) Most importantly understand the meaning of soul mate, confidant.

Her logic shouldn't be:
Radhika needs to do something Dev wouldn't approve --> Radhika goes behind Dev's back and does it so that Dev is not angry or hurt at her

Instead her logic should be:
Radhika needs to do something Dev won't approve --> so Radhika makes Dev understand her worries --> together they reach a compromise --> together they solve the issue --> united their relationship is strong, divided their relationship could falter.


I wonder how many times will she have to cross the Lakshman Rekha to have these realizations dawn on her.

Anu and Angake - excellent post.

Anu - how true boundries in a relationship has to be respected.
Radhika still thinks that her bahu dharm did not break. Actually she broke it the moment she stepped outside. "Dharm woh Nahin Jo sab ko acchaa lage. Dharm woh hain Jo man ko saccha lage". Deep inside her heart she knows she did adharm.

Angake - I really liked your logic part. It is so true. It is said that both husband and wife grow together. And the logic explained is a way to achieve it. This is how husband and wife gets hardwired in their thought process. As they grow older they don't have to put extra effort in conveying their other half. Spouses automatically understand why and how the decisions are made. Inclusion is the key.

loved ur posts anu and angake and rightchoice,,deep thoughts really

according to me ,,radhika has certainly done mistakes and she will have to face the consequences too and may be that opens her eyes and mind which blindly trusts.also in the process i am worried more about dev,,if rad goes on with hiding things from dev,,dev's trust upon will also be affected very badly .

but one thing i liked in today's episode was radhika did allow dev to ask her that why did she needed money,,but dev didnot question her ,,,and the reason for this according to me is that dev somewhere knows that rad didnot try to misuse the locker's money and also she wants money not for her but for something else,,,,my main idea behind giving this example is that dev knows rad very well that rad always thinks about others and then about herself...

but i donot want dev also to believe rad blindly bcoz blind trust never wins,,,

now about crossing the lakshman rekha ,,one teacher of mine told that sita knew that ravana was the man who was acting like sage,,,and it was all predestined,,if sita would not havebeen kidnapped by ravana,,,ram would not have been able to kill him and also there was no valid reason to kill ravana....
this was my teacher's viewpoint,,,which i recollected now,,,,

now connecting it with CB,,,if rad has crossed the line and has decided to help visakha,,there are also reasons behind this,,,may be she will be able to know about her sister's intentions later on and would be able to save her grihasthi or household bcoz by that time she would have known visakha verywell and would be able to deal with her in a better way,,,,
but still i want rad to apply her presence of mind and take dev into confidence ,,,,one more reason not to tell dev about vish may be she doesnot want dev to become more restless and tensed,,and not bcoz he will get angry on her,,,

what may happen,,,but i want to see radev always together and their trust and love growing stronger....

sorry for the lengthier post but there is so much to write on this topic but i will stop here....