Aditya's irresponsibility and Arti's wedding

Perhaps I do not appreciate Aditya's love for his sister and, hence, why he spent so much on Arti's wedding. I understand it is his responsibility, as her elder brother, and that Sameer's wealthy family had been pressuring him with their expectations. However, A's "generosity" has come at a cost to his family: borrowing money from goons, being threatened and having his family threatened, not having enough money for Antara's therapy, not enough money to pay back the loans, day-to-day expenses, etc.

In short, he put his family in peril, making them insecure and uncertain. I get really annoyed when I hear about the luxe weddings people arrange despite it being well out of their means. Compromise a bit. Explain to Sameer and Arti about the honeymoon--give them a small one now and promise a better one later, one where they can even join them for a few days.

Don't get me wrong. I feel for Aditya. He does love his family and sister so much and works so hard for them. However, he made the mistake of thinking this is just about him--that he'll have to earn extra money, etc. to pay for the wedding. His decision impacts everyone in his family. He should have thought just a bit about his wife, daughter, and son too.

What do you think?

I think it is all in sync with his character. Aditya is very emotional, and tends to act out of feeling first, then deals with the consequences later. He is very young also, and his parents are no more, so he could not have known what a wedding costs.

Mahika.

i agree completely why to spend more when u dont hav a penny

Originally posted by: MahikaL

I think it is all in sync with his character. Aditya is very emotional, and tends to act out of feeling first, then deals with the consequences later. He is very young also, and his parents are no more, so he could not have known what a wedding costs.

Mahika.

i agree with u...aditya is very emotional...whatever he did for arti's wedding was to make up for the fact that their parents are no more. he thought he's doing what their parents would have done.

thts y indians r called emotional fools! i mean dont get me wrong..i am proud to be Indian..but the thing is tht things r expected to be done...like daughters have their own duty, bahus, mothers father saas brother sisters..and if u dont fulfill them then it means tht u dont love or r irresponsible...

I think the concern of what society or in-laws will think, while very real, is a cop-out. I don't think Aditya should do a poor celebration, given what it conveys. However, you don't need to go all-out. It's not as if A's in-laws care about her at all--they already have labeled her as a part of a "common" family.

Sometimes you have to be creative with what you need to do to carry out your duty. Sometimes you need to accept that you cannot stretch to certain desired heights. In this, I think Aditya is a bit of an idiot. Some kindly call it being emotional. A loan shark? In India? Give me a break.

loan shark's in india are quiet common actually.

Originally posted by: gp00

I think the concern of what society or in-laws will think, while very real, is a cop-out. I don't think Aditya should do a poor celebration, given what it conveys. However, you don't need to go all-out. It's not as if A's in-laws care about her at all--they already have labeled her as a part of a "common" family.

Sometimes you have to be creative with what you need to do to carry out your duty. Sometimes you need to accept that you cannot stretch to certain desired heights. In this, I think Aditya is a bit of an idiot. Some kindly call it being emotional. A loan shark? In India? Give me a break.