Is it right to leave your in-laws house?

Is it right for a girl to leaave her in-laws after her marriage and live her life peacefully with her husband and children.I don't mean that she will ignore her in-laws.She will give her in-laws respect,money and will perform all her duties.But she will not live together with them.Because in-laws never understands thier daughter-in-laws pain and torcher them.

Originally posted by: MRS BANI WALIA

Is it right for a girl to leaave her in-laws after her marriage and live her life peacefully with her husband and children.I don't mean that she will ignore her in-laws.She will give her in-laws respect,money and will perform all her duties.But she will not live together with them.Because in-laws never understands thier daughter-in-laws pain and torcher them...I read that Eve is a luckiest women....cos She dont have MIL...😉

Generally an Indian youth is living in this dilemma. He has to see his career and also he wants to see his parents happy. Much depends what type of life partner u get. Truelly speaking it is pure gamble😉

Originally posted by: Believe

I think its good after marriage couple shuld live separately...BUT if their parents is old and nobody there to take care them...then its not good choice to leave them alone too.....😊

And After marriage How many girls like living with their parents..!!!!???😊 I think majority dont like it....😊

if she is ready then the concept of Ghar jamai born... (Ghar jam gai)😉 Most people view a man living in his in law house as a looser or something!! They feel this man has no self respect and is happy to live with his wife's family....But they not just accept but feel its right for a daughter ...

My sis always says about her small small cold war's ...its funny to hear lol...😆.The usual MIL and DIL fights are common.. but the basic human nature is 2 people who face same problem get closer and be friends, only blood relations have strong bonding .. so a Mom cannont see her DIL as her daughter .. and a wife can never see her MIL as Mom ... and women are possesive .. so all DIL and MIL has to know this truth and lead the life without expectations ... also if Wife feels that she got a great husband she shud understand that its because of her MIL he is like that and she shud give some respect .... no solution to these problems ... it will all come to a persons attitude at the end...😊

Generally an Indian youth is living in this dilemma. He has to see his career and also he wants to see his parents happy. Much depends what type of life partner u get. Truelly speaking it is pure gamble😉

SAMJHAUTA 😛

if all this is true, then the girls parents should also live together with them and the guy needs to give equal respect to them too.

what obligation does she have towards the old gums?

Totally!

Even if the in-laws are the nicest people around, I don't think it is at all justified that guys get to stay with their parents while girls have to leave their home. I think that a girls parents requires as much attention and care from their children as a guys parents does. Our parents even did the same things for us as the guys parents did. But due to this pathetic norms of society, a girl has to spend her life taking care of her in-laws and husband. What about her parents?

No matter how liberal the in-laws are, no girl can give equal time to her parents and her in laws by staying with her in-laws. Its not an easy task even when you stay separately, but in the latter case its a lot easier to manage.

Sorry, got a bit carried away, but am sick of the norms that this society sets for us. Things should be equal. If a girl can spend her life taking care of her in-laws, then a guy should do the same😃

What If she Is the only daugheter, who will look after her parents? I think she should live with her family If her husband has a couple of more brothers.

personly what i see in my own household, i would not want to live with my in lawas. i would resect them as i owuld to my own parents. but living with a MIL is not at all easy. The husband is torn b/w wife and mom. after i marry i owuld want to creat my own fmaily and live independently with my husband.

Right now my niece is going thru the same dilemma.. she is being ill treated and not respect at her in laws.. but she does not want to separate her husband and in laws..

Now the situation gotten so worse it is her husband who took the decision and decided to move away from parents.. only thing is they moved just few minutes away from the in laws place...

My in laws came to visit us when I was bedridden due to pregnancy.. they expected my mother who was here to take care of me will also would take care of them.. It was very hard time.. still I kept quiet and suffered..

Some In laws are good some or bad.. it depend upon people to people

Maximum times the girls are ill treated in their in-laws.The ML always have an insecurity that her DL is snatching away her son from her.So she mentally and physically torcher.In these cases I think a girl and a guy can live a more peaceful life in a separate house.

No offense to anyone.But I really love it when people say in-laws torcher instead of torture. It gives a whole new perspective on bride burning.

The old fashioned family dynamics of a woman staying in her in-laws house with her husband no longer works in today's day and age. It is not always just about whether in-laws are flawed or not. It often is a question of sensibilities and practicalities.

Even the best of in-laws can be smothering and intrusive. Even if they treat their daughter in law well, there is a certain need for separation and privacy. I think sometimes the husband and wife need to start out separately on their own, and create an identity for themselves and their family. Sometimes distance is necessary for a healthy relationship.

There are also situations where the girl maybe the only daughter and the only support for her parents. Perhaps even the only family they have. Sometimes the girls parents have to be considered. Perhaps the couple needs to live somewhere closer to the girls family. Maybe even live with the girls family. There is absolutely nothing wrong for a man to live with his inlaws.

Ultimately, each family has to assess their needs and choose whats right for them. And sometimes goodbye is not the breaking of a relationship, but a second chance to build a better different relationship. When in-laws get difficult women should not be looked down on for wanting some separation. Similarly men have rights to distance their in-laws too if need be.