Originally posted by: Insomniac
Opti this was a thoroughly enjoyable fic, which conveyed a clear message and sensible piece of advice that I think alot of us can benefit from - thank you so much for writing this.
I owe the idea for this fic to a dear friend who has been through a similar situation. Her experience helped me formulate my own thoughts on this subject. Yes, many of us face this situation at some time or other.
I like the style with which you wrote this - very matter of fact and therefore managed to put in a fair amount of detail in such a short story, where one could clearly decipher the basic characteristics and personalities of Milind and Prachi.
I was never confident about writing a one shot fic because I tend to get lost in the detail. that is why I tried to make a conscious effort here to limit my details and get the facts down.
Opti you described Prachi's emotional state of sadness and anxiety on the plane while she anticipated her arrival so well - there was a certain amount of suspense attached to this as I kept wondering will Milind be there and what was their break up all about. Glad that this thought came through. Had to keep editing my text quite a bit. I always struggle with the openings of my fics.
Also the whole scene with Milind picking and dropping Prachi off with so much anger and focus was depicted so clearly and felt very real. Again Thanks
I Loved the way that you made them to be bosom buddies from early on in their lives, and how that deep friendship and trust turned into love - quite a novel way of using a rabies inflicted dog in order for Milind and Prachi to confess their love for one another - really cute!! - I really did not know how to bring out the love confession and then was reminded of a dog bite I had in my childhood. Luckily the dog was not crazy but used that opening here.
Quite beautiful and rare how they decided to wait properly before taking their relationship to the next level, so as to complete their studies, and establish their jobs. Both Prachi and Milind are pretty focused in what they do.
I think I can understand Prachi's ultimatum at the time when she gave it to Milind - she obviously loves the guy so much and wants him to share all his problems with her, she is a part of him after all, and from her point of view him divulging his secret with her will be a show of deep trust and faithfulness that is a prerequisite for any marriage and loving relationship. Yes, one always wants to mknow what trouble the person we love.
However having said all that, Milind made perfect sense with the way he approached the whole matter about his secret with Prachi - the one word that kept coming out of the page in his dialogue was RESPECT - 'in the complex dynamics of human relationships' as Milind so eloquently put it, respect plays the most important role for a successful and fruitful relationship between any set of people - it can break or make relations. In this case if the secret does not affect Milind and Prachi's relationship in any shape or form then why is there a need for him to tell her, especially with the fact that there is a risk that Prachi may think less of Milind's parents because of it then there is really no point whatsoever - this disrespect that Milind may see in his wife's eyes for his parents will only help to cause him pain and guilt for betraying his parents by highlighting their shortcomings to his wife. Milind is right even if Prachi will not accuse or lose respect for his parents then even the tiniest of issues arising between his parents and him can trigger off judgmental feelings that were once dormant in her heart, where she will inevitably take sides, and Milind is a very shrewd and practical guy for foreseeing all of this. You have explained it better than I did! Yes, if respect is violated the relationship can fall through.
It is better that once married Prachi makes her own judgments and decisions of people connected to Milind on the basis of what she herself experiences and feels about them, and vice versa goes for Milind. Yes, Michi will learn more about each other's family dynamics and form their own view but it will be unbiased and unprejudiced.
Nevertheless I do believe that if this secret does create so much emotional stress and anxiety for Milind then this is surely going to creep into the section that overlaps the two circles in Milind's Venn diagram - and in this case I think Prachi will have a right to ask Milind what the problem is and perhaps help him overcome it - it is a risk Milind may have to take!! Well, I think it was not as serious because Milind seems to have resolved that problem already. It is not to say that another one would not resurface. If it starts interfering with Michi's marital life, I think Milind will confide in her for he seems to be quite intelligent and he will not want to put is marriage at stake.
Opti this was a wonderful piece of work - extremely thought provoking and quite a complex scenario where I don't think there can be a definite right or wrong way to deal with this type of scenario, but if respect and trust is on the line then one should endeavor to maintain it at any cost but is it worth the cost of losing your true love over? - that is a question that I really don't have the answer to!!! Yes, most of life's problems are like this. There is no right or wrong. as they say shades of grey are more than black and white. the solutions have to be person (couple) specific and situation specific. So what may hold true for a couple at a particular point of time may not suit another couple. Also the same couple may have to react differently at another point of time (when it creeps into the Venn intersection). The learning never stops in a marriage.
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