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Sam

@RonitPallaviNR

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Posted: 16 years ago

#31

You are correct Rani, no one can make or break a relationship other than two people involved in it.

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@pksanam

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Posted: 16 years ago

#32

you're somewhat right, Rani..

but the presense of an outsider also ensures that the problems are never worked out, because the focus has shifted..!!

see, i can play the devil's advocate too..

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MrsMahyavanshi

@MrsMahyavanshi

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Posted: 16 years ago

#33

@Sanam - I can see why you would say that. But I have a philosophy in life, which has been influenced from faith and through my mother...

...zindagi main jo kuch bhi hota hai humaray saath, sirf issiliye hota hai kay hum usse honay dete hain.

This perhaps is one universal truth that I can bet my life on, is true. If in a relationship, the forcus shifts because one or both parties will LET it. I suppose it is one of those things that one either believes in or does not. Perceptions do vary :)

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@pksanam

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Posted: 16 years ago

#34

Rani, alrite tell me.. why would i say that..? lol..

but yeah, that is true.. but buzurgon ne ye bhi kaha hai.. 'kuch cheezen aisi hoti hain jo tumhare haath mein nahin hotin, sab uper waale ki marzi hai'.. now, you'll tell me ke 'uper waala bhi un ki madad karta hai jo apni madad aap karte hain'... then i will tell you, 'kabhi kabhi qismat humaara saath nahin deti hain.. agar aap dariya mein hain aur aap ki kashti doob rahi ho, to aap ka bachna qareeban namumkin hi hota hai'..

well, so if one of the person does not want to make it work, what can you do..? but the reason remains the same.. they don't want to make it work thanks to that outside influence.. some people are fickle that way.. but if that outside presence was not present, don't you think they might get another chance at that relationship..

yes, that person 'also' needs to be blamed who is in the relationship but the outside influence plays a negative part, then they also carry the blame.. perhaps, little less but still..

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MrsMahyavanshi

@MrsMahyavanshi

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Posted: 16 years ago

#35

Jahaan tak baat hai qismat ki etc...mera maana hai, as once again my mother taught me, kay dua main itni kashish hai kay insaan ki taqdeer badal de. Badalne wala khuda hota hai, aur insaan kay aik baar bulaanay par wo kitni baar unke saamne aata hai...kissi na kissi zarriye se.

If someone is not interested in a relationship, thats different. But I still would not blame an outsider merely by their presence. If they are targetting and aiming to break a relationship, then the couple are already predisposed to a threat, and any interrelationship weaknesses can be exploited.

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@pksanam

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Posted: 16 years ago

#36

Originally posted by: MrsMahyavanshi
Jahaan tak baat hai qismat ki etc...mera maana hai, as once again my mother taught me, kay dua main itni kashish hai kay insaan ki taqdeer badal de. Badalne wala khuda hota hai, aur insaan kay aik baar bulaanay par wo kitni baar unke saamne aata hai...kissi na kissi zarriye se.

If someone is not interested in a relationship, thats different. But I still would not blame an outsider merely by their presence. If they are targetting and aiming to break a relationship, then the couple are already predisposed to a threat, and any interrelationship weaknesses can be exploited.

part in blue.. completely agree.. my mom keeps telling me about the same thing.. dua mein buhat asar hota hai..!! 😃

part in red.. exactly.. If they are targetting and aiming to break a relationship, then the couple are already predisposed to a threat, and any interrelationship weaknesses can be exploited... so just because some of the couples lack that basic understanding or are still yet in the discovering stage, should someone exploit the situation to their advantage..?? that's wrong.. so both the people involved are to be blamed..

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MrsMahyavanshi

@MrsMahyavanshi

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Posted: 16 years ago

#37

Very true you are...blame would be on both sides but the loser would be the couple who succumb to the breaker-upper. I wish love stories worked out most of the time! :p

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@pksanam

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Posted: 16 years ago

#38

me too.. that's why even if one of the party is a bit fickle, i would not want any outside influence trying to make the situation worse.. see my point..

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roneeta

@ronitfan

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Posted: 16 years ago

#39

I guess the fact remains that no relation is PERFECT .. you have to constantly work towards making it work .. and it does not help if both the people (as it happens nowadays) are unwilling to change ..

well what I have seen in all the successful REAL life stories around me is that one of the partners has to be a little giving.. a little EGOfriendly to the other person .. and NO I am not saying that it has to be a woman all the time .. but according to me, that's a secret to a love-filled relationship...