Ganga - no more a dumb blonde!

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RadioM

@RadioM

Voyager

Posted: 16 years ago

Today, Ganga and batallion put a lot of thought into presenting a gift to their dad, JW. They chose to give him a wheel chair and their mommy felt proud of their decision and appreciated it much.

In my opinion too, kids showed a lot of maturity in taking their decision and clearly indicated that they not only love their dad dearly but are also ready to face the world with all the unexpected tragedies it may throw on them. Instead of continuing to feel sad and pitiful for their dad, they decided to move on and help him see light at the end of the tunnel - Wheel chair is what a paralysed person needs to be more mobile around the house. Its all about the right attitude - sooner you come out of your grief, better it is; otherwise you will suffer mental depression too in addition to being physically disabled. And what better way to move ahead than having a positive support and attitude of your family. If they believe you can do it, yes, you can do it.

If anybody on the forum read Danielle Steel's novel, Sisters, they would know exactly what I am talking about.

Can I request your thoughts on the same?

Thanks for reading!

-Anjali

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MrsKhan-Sobti

@MrsKhan-Sobti

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Posted: 16 years ago

glad to here ur viewpoint butterfly..

but i prefer to differ from wat u said...i think dat dat it was pretty idiotic for kids of a dying man to present him wheelchair ...how hurt wud a man who has been perfectly walking feel wen his kids do such dumb thing???

i rly wanna ask wat maturity did ganga show in gifting dat wheel chair to her dad...?? i think it only highlighted his sense oh helplessness n ganga's lack of respect n care towards a man who had looked aftr her..how can she be soo heartless ??

i dont think any daughter wud do dat to an ailing father...he needs ur luv n care n not bits of sympathy...

i felt disgusted to see her doing dat...sorry if i offened anyone....

these r my feelings towards the thing dat KS showed...im sure no one wud do n shud do such horrible thing to der parents

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RadioM

@RadioM

Voyager

Posted: 16 years ago

Thanks Teenz for your reply....you know the best for your dad...

I would only answer to one part of your post where you said -

"i dont think any daughter wud do dat to an ailing father...he needs ur luv n care n not bits of sympathy..."

My dad is the person whom I love the most in life. God forbid if something like that happens to my dad, I will buy the best wheel chair in the world that I can afford so that my dad can be independent and not feel miserable being stuck to the bed in his bedroom. You are right when you say father needs daughter's love and not sympathy which is exactly my point. My love for my dad is responsible and mature and I think my dad will be proud of me for doing the same. Of course dad and daughter both are hurt as the dad is in pain but the best way out of this misery is to fight it out together and move in the positive direction 😊

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iqbalslover

@iqbalslover

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Posted: 16 years ago

🤣 haila ohmy Ganga really behaved maturely . So she did very well, presented her dad who was able to walk few days back a wheelchair with ribbons 😆😆

Edited by steffroc - 16 years ago

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Gingerly

@Gingerly

Dazzler

Posted: 16 years ago

Bfly even though it may have been a thoughtful gesture on Ganga's part but I honestly think that they should've mentioned and discussed it with Jai to know his opinion and how he would feel about it. I say this because I speak from my own personal experience where I was incapacitated (details I'm not going to get into) but by the grace of God everything is well now. So I know how Jai felt upon seeing the wheelchair and also when he says that noone would understand his internal pain. When something unfortunate like that happens a person hasn't fully accepted it, it's fresh in their mind still and by someone bringing something as simple as a wheelchair to them would appear like a confirmation to a fact which they are heavily in denial about. Your emotions are in over drive, you feel frustrated, hurt, sad and angry, why, because here it is once upon a time you used to do everything for yourself and now you have to depend on others to do everything for you even the simple tasks and also you feel frustrated and angry when people feel sorry or pity or start crowding you when you just want to be left alone and just cry. Everything is just time and that's what the incapacitated person needs, time to just accept and come to terms with what happened as well as words of encouragement and love and support.

Edited by g_spice - 16 years ago

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RadioM

@RadioM

Voyager

Posted: 16 years ago

Originally posted by: steffroc
🤣 haila ohmy Ganga really behaved maturrely . So she did very well, presented her dad who was able to walk few days back a wheelchair with ribbons

I seriously don't understand why you people are having a difficulty in accepting that JW, Ganga's dad can't walk anymore - he is paralyzed!! He walked maybe one day before but that is what life is.....you are alive one day and then dead the next day-just like that!! Would you argue about and criticize a son who is cremating his dad's body today just because the dad was alive the day before 😲

Its shocking to me that you fail to understand the change in circumstances and the need to take an action - be realistic!

About the pink ribbons, may be one day when JW is doing better either on the wheel chair brought to him by his daughter or standing on his two legs because his daughter and the family tried to help him come out of his grief and the room....then that day, JW may have some sense of humor and joke about the pink ribbons with her dear daughter 😳

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RadioM

@RadioM

Voyager

Posted: 16 years ago

GingerSpice....thanks for a reasonable response!

I agree that if anything like that were to happen to me, I would first sit next to the sick person and let him or her know that just because it is in his/her best interest so I am planning to buy a wheel chair.......I can understand that giving a wheel chair as a "surprise" gift may not be such a great idea and thus may not be well received...

I am sure once the concerned person is out of grief and doing better, he/she will surely be able to appreciate this little gesture of love, kindness and support!

Also, I would repeat again that my sentiments are influenced by the novel "Sisters", it was really inspiring and educating in many ways and dealt with a more serious issue....Unless family shows love, strength and support, a sick person is bound to stay in denial and will fail to see a better future for himself

Edited by BUTTERFLY12 - 16 years ago

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Sanchali

@tweetyangel

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Posted: 16 years ago

There is something about showing "love, strength and support" in a sensitive manner rather them clobbering someone over the head with the fact that they have lost mobility and will need a wheel chair. Ganga bringing in a chair by herself and telling her father it is temporary, but he needs it for now and she will help him is smart way, bringing in a wheelchair with a whole gang and a bow on it is height of insensitivity towards a person who has just found out he is disabled. It's cavalier and shows no intelligence.

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RadioM

@RadioM

Voyager

Posted: 16 years ago

tweetyangel....appreciate your response!

Can't think of anything better to say than what I have already mentioned.....would like to comment only on one part......"bringing in a wheelchair with a whole gang"

Well how can we forgot that the "whole gang" is JW's product...the gang owns him as much as he owns them.....

Edited by BUTTERFLY12 - 16 years ago

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Sanchali

@tweetyangel

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Posted: 16 years ago

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Well I did not realize Varun and Vidya are also JW's product, or rishi, but I guess somehow everything in KS has to be made JW's fault so why not make the gross insensitivity demonstrated by ganga and company somehow be indirectly be made into JW's fault. I guess it's too much to hope that Ganga has enough sense not to bring the new son-in-law rishi to see her fathers helpless state, but I am sure you will figure out some way of making that JW's fault too.

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