[quote=bsingapury]....My biggest weakness was my language power. here all knows that my Hindi is good but y English is very very poor ....so from the beginning I had my thoughts but I could not convey them to people because of language barrier I had to face. My education done completely in Gujarati till i went to college.
I Still remember when I got engaged, in my in-laws family all English professors and especially with me they used to converse in English and I had very difficult time talking with them. After marriage when I came to Singapore again my problem was i could not talk with people properly so always feel inferior and shy. But my husband helped me a lot during that time and i manage to converse little bit.
My husband always used to tell me to learn English but I was busy with my small kids and family or you can say lazy also. Though I read lots of book but mostly I prefer reading in Hindi and Guajarati that feel near to my heart. my husband advised me to read children's story book to start with English learning I tried but I am very speed reader especially books so lazy to see dictionary.....till I came to this forum..........first i tried to write in SP forum but as I said I had language barrier so was not able to express myself and slowly I lost interest in drama at all so I stopped coming to forum itself..........but when I started watching RKAB in march slowly I again started coming to forum and here we made good friends ......
Again I started writing short analysis and predictions. one day I was helping my son with his creative writing in English that time I realized that I was having problem describing things and then I felt how will I able to teach him? so as for try I wrote first part of my FF. in my surprise everybody liked it so I continued with some more and when one day I was writing my son who was reading something beside me peeped into my laptop and was reading whatever I wrote and he told me " mamma you can write very well .....only little grammar mistake otherwise your content is very good" I was very happy and he informed that to my husband and really I did not want my husband to know about it because I knew that when he will read I will get long list of correction but again I was surprised that my husband volunteer himself to edit my two parts to teach me how I am supposed to write and construct sentences. Then he advised me to take this entire thing as learning process to improve my English. And I love challenges I accepted it. So from that point my FF became my English learning journey I started going through dictionary. Now while I read my books I give preference to language also so in short my perspective changed towards my reading.
And most important thing after writing few parts of my FF I was feeling demoralized and disappointed because suddenly this forum became very dry because people just ran away from hereonly me and Payal left. But in this time Payal stayed with me like great support. she always appreciate my writing and kept giving me moral support and only because of her I kept writing and kept telling me I have to improve my English and that is important. I must say here that if Payal was not here I would have stop writing and would have stop coming to this forum also.
But thank you Payal for everything you have done for me I truly from bottom of my heart telling you in my journey you are like my strength thank you very much for that.
So in short di my language that was my weakness. once I started learning and mostly whatever my broken language that still I have but I got lots of love from all the friends in this forum.....and that's why I cherish all the moments I have spent in this forum and that has really helped me to gain my confidence........
and you know di what great remark I got recently ....when I was newly married my FIL was bit disappointed because I could not speak fluently but recently last month when we had guest and I was talking with them he was listening our conversation and next day my MIL called me that your dad is really proud of you that now you can speak good English
still this is just beginning for me still I have to learn a lot I have not even climbed first step in my journey towards learning English but help from all of you and love from all of you and yes from my family also, I will achieve my goal preserving my love for Hindi and Guajarati[/quote]
Oh Beena, it was so touchy. I am sure it will be encouraging for those silent members who visit the forum regularly but are hesitant to join as an active member because of language barrier.
I think there is nothing to be ashamed of if we don't have mastery over a language. It's pretty obvious that nobody would be knowing all the languages. The main purpose of a language is communication, and if we are able to convey our thoughts properly without creating confusion, that's enough.
One more thing is clear, practice makes a man perfect. Unless we bring a particular skill to practice we can not gain confidence over it. More we use, more we learn.
You are so lucky to have a supportive husband and understanding children. I felt, it was so so soooo sweet when your son said encouraging words to you. And you know, you write really well in English also. It's a pleasure to read you. You may be thinking that you are committing mistakes but the feelings, thoughts, expressions you convey through your writing are just so wonderful that not even for a moment we are attracted towards your grammatical mistakes, if there are any. The most important thing is that what you want to say we take it as it is. It's the 'bhaav' part, which is just so perfect in your writing.
I wish you to achieve greater heights in your writing. And, I would suggest you to write in Gujarati also, because you have a great command over your thought process, and when the same expressed in mother tongue may create wonders.
Edited by jibi - 17 years ago
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