Why do i find my self acting fake?

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angel#9

@angel#9

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Posted: 16 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: Neelu.RoX
Okay so i have 2 groups of friends whom i hang out with on a daily basis.
But when i hang out with one, i act totally different. And when i hang out with the other , i act different. And when i am at home i act different and actulley feel like myself.

I feel like I act fake just to fit in, and i dont know why i do that. It just happens. My sister even asked why do you act so different when you are around different people.

Why do i do this? And how do i stop? I dont act like myself, that's why sometimes i get tired of hanging out with them and just want to stay home...If i act like myself, i am scared, they'll think im annoying, or something...

Any suggestions?

i learnt about this in psychology... its a stage everyone goes through, its part of finding your identity so don't worry about it but just remember true friends will love for who you really are not who ur trying to be

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aishwarya

@aish_punk

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Posted: 16 years ago

#12

Yeah I exprience d same thng..I feel it hppns wid evry1..wen u r wid sum1...u hv 2 behave lykk ow dey r n ow dey lykk it..if u don lyk behavin tat way..leave em!!

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prachi

@prachi4AJ

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Posted: 16 years ago

#13

Originally posted by: Neelu.RoX
Okay so i have 2 groups of friends whom i hang out with on a daily basis.
But when i hang out with one, i act totally different. And when i hang out with the other , i act different. And when i am at home i act different and actulley feel like myself.

I feel like I act fake just to fit in, and i dont know why i do that. It just happens. My sister even asked why do you act so different when you are around different people.

Why do i do this? And how do i stop? I dont act like myself, that's why sometimes i get tired of hanging out with them and just want to stay home...If i act like myself, i am scared, they'll think im annoying, or something...

Any suggestions?

What impresses me abt u neelu is dat u r NOT in denial of dis situation of urs,which automatically gets u outta d " fake " category of ppl..so stop thinkin dat way first.

and u knw all of us multiple personalities hidden inside us but they r usuallly in a suppressed form in in our " ego " and " superego " part of d conscious and d sub sonscious brain and its generally one personality dat surfaces on our Id ( conscious ) but dis is not d case always....different personalities can stem up in response to different situations,circumstances,thoughts,moods and sets of people around u,it is a just d defence mechanism of our body thru which it tries to adjust its level best wid d present lot its facing by brining up d most closely-related personality it can to d influencing factor in question....though in sum ppl muktiple personalities r too varied,and turn up abruptly w.o. ay rhyme or reason due to certain factors such as genetic illnesses and past emotional stresses.....but i dnt think dats d case wid u....u r jst like all of us and maybe jst a li'l more spontaneous in bringin up ur versatile sides....try to just make it seem more subtle,less influnced and smoother so dat it isnt too in-ur-face kinds...rest I guess u'll be in fact benifittin frm ur instantaneously adaptive nature if u handle it d rite way

Edited by prachi4AJ - 16 years ago

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thejasseffect

@thejasseffect

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Posted: 16 years ago

#14

I have the same issue, but it doesn't bother me. i guess ur a peoples person? :S

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Eran

@umrao_jaan

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Posted: 16 years ago

#15

Believe it or not-thet's a very common situation. Didn't Shakespeare say something like,
"The world's a stage and, men and women the actors."

We all act to some extend or other. In reality, you NEED to do a bit of play acting to adapt yourself to SURVIVE! Do you behave the same way with your mother and sis?

An extended version of that is happening to you. After a certain limit it becomes a burden. I can understand, as I used to be this totally shy, reserved character in public and a much more outgoing, bold person in private.

Its really the simple problem of lack of self expression, but the solution is not so simple.

IThe first think is to REALIZE who YOU are. Realize your strenghts and weaknesses, likes and dislikes. Make an image of the person you'd love to be-to everyone. That may seem easy-but try it out-write it on a piece of paper.

Then-PUT it to ACTION. Its great you feel yourself at home. Take it out to school. For example I had a problem putting out my rather 'controversial' ideas in public-one day I just let go of all my caution and let my tongue do the talk and have not looked back since!

Wow! You have two sets of friends! That's great. Try to merge them together. Sit with a friend each set for lunch, tell about a great book one has to another, or a great skirt, or a great video. A lot of your problems will get solved then!

Just be yourself! It may not seem easy-but, thats what's needed!

Good Luck!!👏

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Ophelia

@Ophelia

Voyager

Posted: 16 years ago

#16

People spend their whole lives trying to discover their inner selves.

It's perfectly alright to have multiple personalities because at a certain stage we all try to adapt ourselves accordingly to please others.

Your still young but try to devote some time just being with yourself try to evaluate how you've acted versus how you really wanted to act. Try to project the first thought that comes to your mind instead of what people want to hear. Meditation is a good way to allow your mind to concentrate on your inner thoughts.

I'm glad you came to the realization that at the end it's most important to please the self than other people.

Edited by Megha25 - 16 years ago