SOTW - The toughest one you could ever ge

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Posted: 17 years ago
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I'm sorry if I have scared you already .. :p But since I'm returning with an SOTW after such a long time.. So it had to be a tough one.. Don't you think? 😳 It's the toughest (erm, not sure thou) BUT I bet.. it's the longest one by far.. ;)
Situation of the week:

Suppose 'A' is the person you love and 'B' is your best friend of the same gender.

You've shared this secret only with 'B' that you love 'A'.. A and B have known each other for many years now but you are not a fast friend of A. You ask ur best fren to get things working between you and A. So, when your best frens sees that you are truly in love with A, she first helps you to become a good friend of A and then does several other things for you .. like, once she invited both of you for a dinner at some hotel.. so she calls up A and asks him if he could pick up you from your home. A agreed. Then, when A and you reach the hotel.. she calls up one of you and make some excuse for she can't make it to the hotel for dinner. So, it was just you and him at the dinner that nite! What more could you ask for ;) Lol.

Anyway, you and A talk to each other almst every other day on phone now and finally one day A proposes youuu! You happily say yes to him.. and u rush to your best fren's place to inform her about it.

Everything's going good between you and A... until one day when you are at your best fren's place, she goes to kitchen to get you something to eat and while she is away.. you come across a personal diary of hers about which she never told you and out of curiosity, you decide to read it. What really shocking inside was, there were too many pics of A attached in that diary and everything written about her love for A. You are really shocked to know that she loves A but she never told him or anyone about it bec she thinks that she is not the type A has ever wanted and that it's only one-sided love.. Waitttt, there's something written about you too in the diary. What's that? 00/00/00 (date) -- "Finally A found the one he always wanted... it's my best friend ___your name___"

You run away frm her house without telling her anything. Your boyfriend also gets to know frm your best fren about this behaviour of yours and everytime he questions you about it, you change the topic..

Next scene (After a couple of months):

You are out with your bf and he tells you that he wanna share something with you which he hasn't ever shared with anyone before and even thou he should have told this to you before but better late than never... He also apologizes before telling you the story which he had been hiding from everyone.

With much hesitation, he says, "You are not my first love.. My first love was a girl who never loved me.. I was just not her type! So, it was only one-sided love. Althou I never told her how I felt about her.. but what I felt from our conversations was that she always considered me only a good friend of her. She never said it herself thou.. but I didn't want to break our friendship by telling her that I have fallen for her...

And after we (you and A) became friends, one day she told me that you love me.. I wouldn't have figured otherwise, seriously! And she told me that she would love to see her best friend (You) happy with me (A). By now you would have already guessed who is she.. she is none other than your best friend B.

That was one of the two reasons I proposed you! Her happiness.. and the other reason bein that I myself knew very well the pain of loving someone and not getting loved in return, so, I proposed you. It's true that noone can ever replace the love I've for her.. but I care a lot about you and promise to keep you happy!"

Now that you know both of them love each other but they don't know about it at all.. What would you do in such a situation? Knowing that they both love each other STILL... Would you get their relationship working? Do you think that your bf is cheating on you? err, i don't think thou. He cares about you and respects your love for him... B loves A and A loves B yet they don't know that they both love each other!

Would you sacrifice your love for your best friend as she did? Agreed that she didn't know A loved her but she was the one who got your relationship working. What would you do in this situation?
Alrite now.. I think I have confused you all TOTALLY :) My job is done. Waiting for your views on the situation.
The winner will get a prize ;)

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ambarinaaltaf thumbnail
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Posted: 17 years ago
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Originally posted by: shizajaved

Now that you know both of them love each other but they don't know about it at all.. What would you do in such a situation? Knowing that they both love each other STILL... Would you get their relationship working? Do you think that your bf is cheating on you? err, i don't think thou. He cares about you and respects your love for him... B loves A and A loves B yet they don't know that they both love each other! Would you sacrifice your love for your best friend as she did? Agreed that she didn't know A loved her but she was the one who got your relationship working. What would you do in this situation?

first of all shizuu hats off man!!! u have soo much of patience to writee such a biiiiigggg postt....goshhh u noe first i was lyk i wnt read it...infact in the middle was dam confused so had to read it agn inorder to push my conphooosion outt lol....n ab bata wat prize u gonna gib as me toh answering casually bt stl answer is frm heart....chal back to ur post...
welll seriously speaking being a girl i know its veryy veryy hard to digest as have seen many ppl crying in love...which is totally one sided....but but as its my view lemme tell u first before my love friendz mean alot to me....i noe i noe luv is sth which we cant forget...bt frendz are sth vich we cant live without...(its my view PPL dont Shout LOL)and here when i noe that the person loves someone else and that "someone" is my bestt friend..when she got to noe that i love the person who once she loved she didnt even think fr a sec and sacrificed...she supported me and bought me and my love together which she could have done for herself...but she didnt...its not like she did it for me and im doing it fr her...bt its becoz LOVE means to GIVE not to rule....when i noe my best friend and my bf both love each other why should I come in btw them...either if i be with my bf nor he nor my best friend nor me wont be able to live life the way we want i.e., happily...instead of starting a relationship it be a BIG end....its like destoryying 3 lifess and ya i dont think my bf was cheating....and yaa i would surelly try, not actually try WILL surelyy get them together...bt still it would be hard for me to forget him...as u see FIRST love is first love...
anywayzz this was my view...supporting my best friend...getting her love...
phewww shizz it was preettyy hardd lol....while writing it was hard fr me lolxx hehe well writin sth after a long tym....hehhe actually participating in sth after a long period of time heheh lol..
Mrs.Brett Lee thumbnail
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Posted: 17 years ago
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Shizu..did u cum across dis situation or wht??Haha..a gr8 situation..Criousli..u hv sum creative mind!!n brains😛..bt for me it's an easy answer..
When..I hear about..this..I will immedietely..tell A. the truth..For me..friendship..is anyday...more..important..!n even if I hadn't known..tht My best friend..B doesn't lyk..him..I wud still hv left..A..cuz..thr is no meaning..to carry on wid a person..who truly luvs sum1 else..If I come..in between..dem..I will always have the guilt in me..for seperating..both..the ppl..hu luv each oder..Ok i agree..tht
even I love the guy..bt..dis bcums..one sided..love..n I may get a better guy in future..I no I will be hurt..bt I can get a new outlook to my life..and this quotation "Sacrificing your happiness for the happiness of the one you love, is by far, the truest type of love."..!!in dis situation..If I am able..to do nything..for my best friend..it wud be my pleasure..Sumtyms..u do hv to giv away sumthing..to get hapiness..for urself..and others..The guy whom I lyk..respects me..bt doesn't luv..me..den wht's the point..of staying wid him..He cn still respect me..wen I sacrifice..him..for B..!!People..do bcum..stubborn..n dey act lyk villain..wen dey r in luv..n obsessed..wid sum1..bt..one..shud be happy in relationship..and for one..to be in a relationship..dey shud luv each oder..I would..have felt a bit cheated..wen he tells me the truth..cuz..he cud hv confessed the truth..much much b4..proposing me..bt..maybe after..sum days..I wud..hv realized..tht he ws hesitant n scared..to tell me..the truth..!!
I think..no1..understud wht I wrote..cuz...even I donno..wht did I write..bt nevertheless..dis ws my opinion..n a gr8 situation..Shizu..hope..no1 goes..thru dis situation..n Amby gr8 to c u reply..Missed u..man🤗
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Posted: 17 years ago
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I will make sure A and B confess their love... And the reason for this is simple and it is because A does not love me, he respect and care for me... He is with me just because of B...

And one thing is, nothing will be the same between us knowing the fact that my best friend love my boyfriend and vise versa... I will make sure that A & B confess their love... I am just like a third wheel between them, am someone who is their to make sure they both say their love since they will never say it..
My job is like to bridge their love... It will be hard but i will have to do it
Thing might have been different if A does not love B but thing is different here and A is still in love with B.. I will not impose myself of him.. And what B did for me is true friendship and now knowing the fact that A & B love each other and if i still don't do anything, it will be selfish and this will make my love selfish which i am not... The sacrifice that B made for me is nothing compared to the sacrifice that i will make for them.. if i stay with A none of us will be happy... So what i will do is very simple.. Step back and make sure the 2 person i love the most confess their love for each other..
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Posted: 17 years ago
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oh my god shizu !!!! it is so difficult man...
initially i was very confused about it..but after much thought, i think that i wuld tell both A and B the truth..since they have done all for me..n if i dont tell them i wuld b cheating them..
but at the end i know its easy to say than to do it..so..i think i'll choose the option in which atleast 2 out of 3 of us r happy😳 kisi ek ka toh dil tootna hi hai, chahe jiska bhi ho, dard toh utna hi hona hai na..but then the satisfaction of seeing true love getting united is just infinitely healing n soothing..and moreover its better to cry once than to cry for the rest of ur life by feeling guilty..
aur waise bhi..from the above situation of urs ^ it is very clear na that the one i love, doesnt love me actually..he respected me n cared for me..n so did my best frnd..therefore if they can sacrifice their love for me, y cant i do anything for them when its my turn?
Edited by amrit23 - 17 years ago
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Posted: 17 years ago
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i dont think this is a very hard decision to make.. for me atleast i wont have to even think about it. i will bring A and my best friend together because obviously A doesnt love me.. hes just doing his duty..
which is not fair for him or me or my best friend.
i will never be happy with someone who's there with me just becuz they have to for their own love's sake.

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Posted: 17 years ago
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This sounds like Mere yaar ki shaadi hai a little bit. I wouldn't ever be in this situation because I don't think I'll ever fall in love but I have a simple solution to the problem.

Everyone has the right to know the truth and especially in this case as so many feelings are involved. The truth is that the guy loved your best friend not you. Yes, he cares for you and respects you but he doesn't love you. He only loves your best friend and they should be together. I know it'll take a lot of courage to actually tell him that your best friend does really love him and it's not a one-sided love.

Why you should do that? Well, first off, I hate triangles because when two people love each other they only have the right to be together not a third person who's getting into the relationship by force or because of the situation. Your best friend has already proven her loyalty to your friendship by sacrificing her love for you. I know she thought he didn't like her, but still takes a lot of guts to get another people together with your love. She did her share of sacrifice and now it's your time. He even proposed you because your best friend told him. It's only fair that they get together as the feelings are mutual and both of them love each other but don't know about it.

Besides, even if you decide not to tell him about your best friend's love then in the long term it's going to cause a lot of problems to you. As he said nothing can replace his love for her, then what will you do? What if he never truly loves you although he does respect you and understand you. What if one day your best friend comes to know that your boyfriend actually confessed about his love for her and you never told her? Wouldn't she feel betrayed after doing so much for you? Then you'll lose your love and your best friend. Isn't it better to lose just your boyfriend and keep two great friends? The bottom line is that you should tell your boyfriend and your best friend about the whole truth. They have the right to know about each others' feelings that you only know about. After that, it's their decision. If he wants to leave you and develop a relationship with your best friend, then take it lightly and support them as your friend did. If he doesn't, then it's his decision too.

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Posted: 17 years ago
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wow gr8 situation and very scary also...But this story is exactly like Mujhse Dosti Karogi - Hrithik - Rani - Kareena
Kareena finds out that Rani Loves him and He loves Rani...so she moves out of the way
I'll write in brief...so that everybody wont b bored to read my post...
I can make you sure that my answer is very different from everybody else posted above...I guess bcoz I m BOY
If ever in life I come accross this situation first I'll cry a lot in a lonely room. 😭
Reasons (1). My bestfriend did not tell me (2) I did not get love in return ok...I'll relax and make myself normal
I love her that means I want her happiness. I m sure I can give her al the happiness but the happiness that she can get by being with my friends is ungiveable. So I'll try to give her hand in his hand and that will be the greatest happiness that I can give. and I'll b happy that she is happy
Now I aint a bad person do definately there will b atleast one person who will love me and marry me bcoz she loves me...I'll love her but never forget her...
I'll give all those happiness that I had planned for her to my new wife and never make her feel that she is the second love in my life.
What say Girls???
Edited by Ali - 17 years ago
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Posted: 17 years ago
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*sigh* what a LONGG postt shizaa !!
will edit after i read it !
lmaao
edited:
WOWW !! just amazing yaarrr !! 😳 WHAT a situatioonn. hats off too yu 👏 👏 yu have a brain of creativity yaarr !! 😳 👏
Okiee ssoo,

Now that you know both of them love each other but they don't know about it at all.. What would you do in such a situation? Knowing that they both love each other STILL... Would you get their relationship working? Do you think that your bf is cheating on you? err, i don't think thou. He cares about you and respects your love for him... B loves A and A loves B yet they don't know that they both love each other!

Would you sacrifice your love for your best friend as she did? Agreed that she didn't know A loved her but she was the one who got your relationship working. What would you do in this situation?
in this situation i would be confusseed. like giving up da one yu LOVE da most is relle haarrdd.
even tho it will hurt like hell yess i would try n get them togetherr.
No, i wont think dat he's cheating on me. like come on honestly if MY bestfrend can do dis for me i doubt dat she'd let him cheat on mee.
Yess, it's all fair in luv n waar. if she did this for me i would do da same too her any day .
it's heart breakingg even thinking about itt ! but this is E X A C T L Y what i would be. not letting my love interfere betweenn deem ! 😳
^^ i guess dat's what i would do. tho i wish dat i NEVER get into dis situation ! 😳
Edited by animerocks - 17 years ago
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Posted: 17 years ago
#10

Thanks to everyone who participated =) The game has reached its deadline and I'll be announcing the result of this game pretty soon so just wait for it ;) Youuuu can be the one.

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