Yeah exactly that's how she trained both Mihir n Anupam. Mihir was stating Mumbai ke log bahot khatarnak hote hai could be hinting the same.
khana peena I understand body ki maang hai, chalna, bolna bhi theek hai kuch had tak. Ye partial Amnesia hai Mihir ka, he knows everything after the accident, wife, colleagues, malwani/makhwani's house pooja, celebration etc.
Anupam ko sab kuch yaad hai, only thing is he is scared of getting hated by Tulsi n his children also the imprisonment if proved guilty by Virani's. He is blackmailed by Mandira surely.
That not actually look like memory lose becoz he knows everything about puja rituals and language and convince that ma dura is his wife easily no hesitation may be he live with mandira in these 10 years so he think like that but phir bhi it's more like mandira brain washed him and he changed at the age 60+ ek 60 + ka brain washed successfully by her merely in these 10 years
and about anupam he waked up after so many years or what confused what they show ie when he presumed death pari is may be at 4-5 year old I think then it shows she is in 20's then 7 year leap after that 10 years leap so her age may be 40 + so he wake up after these 40 years from coma or he is fully active and healthy got visa and all and then he is fast runner up no one notice him how strange which magicmedicine he take and his memory so sharp or mandira brainwashed him so easily bahout jhol hai yeh sab
And these virani's relation like these puzzle and confused one but try to solve 
Ekta be like accha Ronit ko cast kiya hai to uske 3-4 affairs aur half dozen bachhe to dikhaane hi padhenge 
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