Just went through the enlightening discussion in this thread .... So few points from my side.. 
Before Islamic invasions started happening Gurjar Pratihars, palas, rashtrakutas were at loggerheads with each other.. Rashtrakutas and Chalukyas were fighting down south.. No instance of en masse suicide or self immolation recorded
Post islamic invasions Marathas started expanding and at one point held a major chunk of Indian territory.. Again no instance of Jauhar..
Jauhar, an extreme method of suicide, clearly happened in a definite time period when Islamic invasions were happening... How come women were not getting indoctrinated regarding honor and chastity by Hindu patriarchs before and after muslim invasions ?? Since empires and kings were falling before and after them also...
Fact of the matter is that those women might have lived with or without their kingdom, with or without their men had the marauding army had some principles at least... Shifting blame for their agony from Muslim aggressors to Hindu patriarchy does not make any sense whatsoever..
By 1947 people did devise better ways to die btw.. Painful method of burning ur body got ditched... Drinking poison, death by drowning.. The methods of killing oneself evolved .. What did not evolve is the mentality to capture women, parade them as cattle and sell them off... Happened to us in 1947, 1971, 1991... Happened to yezidis to as recently as 2014... From medieval India to modern times....and these are not the only incidents unfortunately... If Indian military falls, again we would be facing same critical choices to die or become sex objects or flee....which people in pockets of India still face.. Its just that laws, the policing, the civil society keep things somewhat, just somewhat in check...
Fighting against patriarchy, honor killings and for rape survivors can happen and need to happen.. But it can be done without bringing Jauhar into the context.. Jauhar is the thing of the past which happened at a specific time period when confronted with blood thirsty and lust driven army of uncouth men who had no dignity for the living or dead... No rape survivor today needs to feel that she needs to die looking at Padmavat.. She deserves support, counselling and healing.. Rape is a crime in today's India, burning women is a crime in today's India ... It was not the case in Khilji's era ...
Lastly its not about glorification of Jauhar.. Fallen soldiers are respected... Those who do not change their principles as in case of these women, even in the face of death are to be respected.. Even if principles itself can change and evolve over centuries.. The sentiments driving the decision, those who understand, will always revere them...
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