"Is Our Education, Our Choice" or "Parents' Choice?" - Page 2

In India, parents play an important role in paying for their children's professional education/ further studies, which is usually expensive, in lakhs or if it is medicine, the cost will be in crores. While some students pay for their education through scholarships or part-time jobs, the majority relies on their parents' financial support. Parents frequently plan and prepare for this expense years in advance, using a variety of investment strategies and savings plans.

In this context, if parents pressure their children to enrol in professional courses against their will and the child is unable to adapt to the course/environment/subject, the child will experience psychological distress and, in rare cases, become insane and commit suicide. Who is responsible in such cases?

Children who couldn't convince their parents of their interests and life goals, or parents who forced their dreams on them?

I was influenced by my friends and current trend n college and of course interest in the main subject.

I preferred studying from home rather than a hostel. So that also influenced by decision.

Originally posted by: Viswasruti

In India, parents play an important role in paying for their children's professional education/ further studies, which is usually expensive, in lakhs or if it is medicine, the cost will be in crores. While some students pay for their education through scholarships or part-time jobs, the majority relies on their parents' financial support. Parents frequently plan and prepare for this expense years in advance, using a variety of investment strategies and savings plans.

In this context, if parents pressure their children to enrol in professional courses against their will and the child is unable to adapt to the course/environment/subject, the child will experience psychological distress and, in rare cases, become insane and commit suicide. Who is responsible in such cases?

Children who couldn't convince their parents of their interests and life goals, or parents who forced their dreams on them?

The parents , they are responsible for it.

Recently, I saw one of my close relative's son returned from engineering college hostel and refuse to return because he failed in a few subjects and was unable to cope with the syllabus. The parents tried to convince him by stating that they had already paid for his second year and he needed to complete the degree.

After three days, they were informed of his suicide. They are now devastated. If they had listened to him and allowed him to change his course, he would be alive today.

I believe it is always ideal to think from the child's perspective, understand his state of mind, and, if necessary, assist him out of depression and despair.

Nice topic Madhu thanks for the tag .

I know my class mate …. who was so much into medico side but was forced by parents to do engineering . After completing engineering he reappeared in medico entrance , cleared and joined medical college . He completed his internship and got his medical degree certificate n licence . he fought with his family and is now practicing in Badrinath .

In my personal case , my parents left the choice to me .. in fact they always told me that I should do what makes me happy …..one should not get disheartened by failure . Try n try again until you get as close as possible to what one wants …

I watched my mom dad working and I just followed their footsteps …

Thanks

My education has always been my own decision. Bas University choice was of parents.. but stream, subject, everything was mine..

This is such a great topic. I agree with others that parents and children need to talk it out and listen to each other when it comes to making decisions.

I wish I had that chance, even during high school, my mother was happy with whatever direction I wanted and whatever I got as long as I passed my exams. She never wanted to put any sort of pressure on me or my siblings. I had way too much freedom but I also felt sort of lost because I jumped from one decision to the other so was quite indecisive for a couple of years and wasn’t sure what I was good at. I didn’t recognise my own strength and skills which spilled into adulthood. I went from job to job from 16-21 until I finally found myself in my current job and loved my development and career climb. I do wish I’d done more though in terms of developing.

This freedom continued with my siblings and I think we could’ve benefited for my mum being more involved in guiding and being firm with us. Even now, she’s like do whatever you feel is best for you 😂

parents who forced their dreams On To Their Children

Who Can't Cope With The Pressure And Commit Suicide

Originally posted by: Viswasruti

With so many courses available that cover every possible field of knowledge and opportunity, is it appropriate to study something our parents do not want us to study? Is it considered disrespectful to our parents to choose our favorite course instead of following their judgment? In turn, by limiting our ambitions and objectives, will we be able to concentrate on our studies, despite our desire?

Well, I feel that everyone should be able to demonstrate their abilities in the field of their choice. Suppressing dreams will only result in dissatisfaction for both the child and the parents.

Foisting ur perspective onto others is insipience in full bloom 🙈