BALH Naya Season EDT Week # 1: Jun 16 - Jun 20 - Page 48

Originally posted by: Jyotsna09

Wow 👌 Manny ,it's a pleasure to read your updates It seems very lighthearted series, his character seems to be fun loving guy ,inspired by Kal ho na ho SRK character and more or less like Aditya Hooda .I will catch up all episodes this weekend yaar..

No worries dear...take your time

Originally posted by: sunshining

true, I was so ready for him to take the burger and drink with him. Would have made the scene much more relatable.

Same I was wondering why he didn't ask the waiter for parcel. It was very clear she was not going to eat it and so why not eat it himself

So regarding the friend's advice -- there are many ways to look at it.

So what she expressed is typical AM search mindset -- basically, you are not going into this thinking that you need love to make it happen. After all, you are both strangers. So instead, you are looking for someone you can adjust with and live a life. Hence, the whole "compromise" angle that everyone parrots.

For some folks, as long as certain filters line up -- caste, community, salary, etc -- then everything else is pretty much up to adjusting with anyone. It is why some parents have such a tough time understanding why some folks stay in AM search for so long and not find anyone. In their head, you should just say 'yes' to whoever.

At the same time, the other extreme is that people are looking for dating experiences within AM search and that does not work either. They get attached too quickly and then are shocked when they get rejected. Or they are looking perenially for some romance walla feel and disappointed.

So if first group (it is just compromise), then what happens is either people are too quick to say yes to whoever and then moan and complain later after marriage. Or if second group (I want to fall in love), they finally get fed up looking and then say yes to whoever.

So in order to have successful AM search, there obviously has to be a balance -- you can't just say yes to anyone with the mindset, it is just compromise, and at the same time, you cannot be expecting some grand love story to happen like in the movies.

okay, this is getting too long. so let me split this up.

regarding the friend's advice -- part 2.

So I think as a culture, we are quite strange when it comes to ideas about love. Look at how appa defined love -- mom gives milk late at night and makes sure Bhagya gets good marks, he worked so hard to provide for the family and made sure they had everything. So within Indian context, that is often defined as love and romantic love is seen as stupid and unpractical.

You also see this expressed within language and literature. So in Hindi, you have three words for love -- pyaar, ishq, mohabaat. My native is not Hindi and so I don't exactly know the difference between the three words but I do know that there are degrees that separate the words.

In Tamil, there are several words for love. The bottom of the pyramid is 'kamam' which is the word for lust and little above is 'kadhal' the word for romantic love. So what is on top? 'Nesam' - godly love, 'anbu' - family love, 'pasam' - affection and so on. Within literature context, the word kadhal denotes a very flaky kind of love, something that is subject to change and kind of whims of attraction. Hence, kadhal is sometimes spoken of as a kind of inferior love in contrast with nesam, anbu or pasam. The other three are seen as constant, true and real.

That is why our culture emphasizes on a whole more family ties, community ties and friendship and so on. Romantic love is seen as unpractical.

So within that kind of context, people often facepalm when someone says, "what about love?" when it comes to marriage discussions. For them, the day to day showing up is love. Staying together after getting irritated is love.

The romance shown on TV or movies is just fantasy in their head...

regarding the friend's advice -- part 3

My final thought I promise! 😂 For whatever reason, most people are very shy to admit that their marriage is good and there is love. Maybe it is fear of nazar.

Or maybe you just hate your MIL and all the idiotic things that happen on a day to day basis and so you can't see that you are actually happy and loved.

It is really funny because people who complain the loudest about their marriage and how frustrated they are are also the ones who want everyone to get married. Not sure if they are looking for support in therapy or what exactly but it is a funny quirk of our society.

It is also hilarious that most people will never say anything good about marriage but somehow think that everyone should also get married. Superbly bad marketing. Do they think it is a reverse psychology tactic?

Also, some people are superbly unhappy in their marriage and disappointed and therefore, they scoff when folks want love in their AM search. Maybe they see it as futile. 🤷

Sorry to write 3 essays but I found her comments amusing actually. I am curious to know if her marriage is happy or unhappy. In previous seasons, the friends actually had a good marriage. Let's see.

Originally posted by: Hopefaith

Nahin No, ILLAI.

I am not watching the show

Not here for Harshad or Shivangi or Ektaa Kapoor

I am here only for

👇👇👇👇👇
My boss 😘Ms Sunshining and Harshad’s hair 😠

Dear Harshad My brother from Bharat

Meri taraf se some suggestions for you👇👇

you better do as I say😡

Please cut your hair 🙏 ( if you wish I can sponsor your haircut but just get it done) and while you are at it please also put on some weight on your cheeks/face.

cc: Ektaa kapoor

cc: The stylist or whoever decided this hairstyle.

Your only well wisher ( don’t believe anything these other ladies say,they are waiting only for your abs)

Your one and only virtual sister

Nitya

Unpaid Personal assistant of the law firm Hope faith and Sunshining

And also part time message delivery person of the slave driver underworld 🧛‍♂️

He’s the one who has ordered me to send you this message

P.S. No discussions or objections wrt this topic will be entertained.

To all the wonderful ladies on this forum 🤗 🤗🤗 and 🥰🥰🥰

You bhai from india needs you to teach him how to cut his hair 😅

His hair needs some gel or grooming or a rubber band to save his fans from heart break. 🤣

Please go and catch hold of your bhai from india and cut his hair 🤣

no one replied to my post?

On a separate note, I am enjoying the styling of Bhagya. I like the choice of kurtis and how it is different and not looking like some uniform (like it happens in many EK shows -- same design in multiple colours like housekeeping)

I also appreciate that they are showing the office in multiple dress styles. In one show I watched, the entire office was dressed in western and I found that so absurd and untrue to Indian settings. There are a range of clothing style happens in Indian offices -- western, Indowestern as well as full on Indian.

So on that aspect, am glad to see that they are paying attention and the office look like normal setup -- not like everyone is some glam model or working someplace abroad.

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

regarding the friend's advice -- part 3

My final thought I promise! 😂 For whatever reason, most people are very shy to admit that their marriage is good and there is love. Maybe it is fear of nazar.

Or maybe you just hate your MIL and all the idiotic things that happen on a day to day basis and so you can't see that you are actually happy and loved.

It is really funny because people who complain the loudest about their marriage and how frustrated they are are also the ones who want everyone to get married. Not sure if they are looking for support in therapy or what exactly but it is a funny quirk of our society.

It is also hilarious that most people will never say anything good about marriage but somehow think that everyone should also get married. Superbly bad marketing. Do they think it is a reverse psychology tactic?

Also, some people are superbly unhappy in their marriage and disappointed and therefore, they scoff when folks want love in their AM search. Maybe they see it as futile. 🤷

Sorry to write 3 essays but I found her comments amusing actually. I am curious to know if her marriage is happy or unhappy. In previous seasons, the friends actually had a good marriage. Let's see.

Thanks for telling your points. Yeah the mindset of AM search rooted in the culture is different. The female partners get adjusted to male partners and maintain the marriage with values and uprprings given to them. I also do not find it practical for the partners to be in love in AM search cuz after rishta is finalized families head for marriage. But love can happen after staying in the marriage for long. As you mentioned quickly saying yes to any guy in AM due to time, age and many reasons can get the person dissatisfied with the marriage.

Shree's friend also represent Asian Parents' mindset . Despite being a friend of Shree, she gave a ridiculous advice to her. Be it either in love marriage or arrange marriage partners do comprise with certain things as coupls are not naturally 100% compatible. But telling a lie to get consent from the prospective partner in AM or any marriage is a big no cuz when the base is set from lies it will crumble one day. Shree is working in a big company as a head, so she will need to find a partner who accepts her position as well as she is gonna continue her carreer. If she wants to leave the job that's a different story but Shree isn't that type of girl. So it is a veey important aspect to look in a partner.

Main aa gayiiiii