is Savitri actually unbiased?

I know many people might disagree with me here, but I have a question—

Is Savitri really unbiased?

Renuka openly shows her love for Tejas. It’s clear and visible.

On the other hand, Savitri also loves Sachin and his wife deeply, but she still tries to act like she loves everyone equally. That in itself is a subtle form of bias. She might not show it as openly, but it’s there.

Yes, I agree that Tejas doesn’t have many people on his side because of his behaviour.

But let’s be honest—Savitri doesn’t seem to like Riya much either. It’s not like she dislikes her, but she clearly doesn’t like her either. That’s pretty evident.

For example, when she called Riya a “double dholki,” that was uncalled for. Has she ever said something like that to Saily? Just because Riya isn’t your typical “bahu material,” does that make her wrong? That kind of thinking feels really unfair.

Also, her statement that a daughter-in-law has to adjust to her in-laws’ lifestyle sounded a bit strange. I do agree that a DIL should adjust to some extent, but shouldn’t the rest of the family also make efforts to adjust? Why is the burden always on her?

And then there’s this obsession with living in a joint family, even when they clearly don’t have enough space. Right now, it’s just couples—but eventually, they’ll have children too. How is everyone expected to live in one house where a couple is already sleeping on the terrace? That’s just not realistic.

Riya was even ready to live separately. She came into this house only because of Aakash. Doesn’t the family then have some responsibility to give her an environment similar to what she’s used to at her own home?

I understand that the family is not financially very strong, but why should someone be forced to compromise on basic things—especially someone who has never had to live like that before?

And honestly, if they can’t provide proper space for everyone to live, then why not just say that whoever wants to live separately can do so? Who said that living apart from the family means you don’t love them? They could’ve even suggested renting a place nearby. What’s the point of staying together in one house when someone has to sleep on the terrace?

And the biggest issue

Savitri never really acknowledged or respected the fact that Riya left behind a completely different environment and lifestyle to adjust here. She came from a well off background, grew up in comfort, and suddenly had to adapt to a very different life. That kind of adjustment is not easy.

Yes, I agree that Renuka treats Saily unfairly at times. But how is that Riya’s fault? Riya didn’t come from a middleclass background. She hasn’t seen even a lower middle-class lifestyle before. Everything here is new to her. And still, she has made genuine efforts to become a part of the family.

But has Savitri ever appreciated that? I’ve never seen her even once acknowledge how much Riya has tried. Instead, when they went to the village, even though Savitri knew that Riya wouldn’t know how to do certain chores, she still expected her to do them. Roshni, for example, has grown up in that kind of environment, so it makes sense for her to manage. But Riya’s husband, who actually knows how to cook well—why couldn’t she ask him to help instead? Riya could’ve handled something else. But no, the expectation is always that every daughter-in-law should behave like Saily.

That’s just not fair.

bas itna hi kehna tha, no offense to anyone

Everyone is a hypocrite in this show

Savitri says Renuka ne uske bete ko usse door kiya...is Paresh a doodh peeta bacha?

Even in the starting when sayilee was having issues with Sachin, she told saylee to adjust and understand Sachin, when Sachin was literally a gunda and was manhandling her.

And Oh God the suhaagraat obsession !!!! It was cringy and creepy to watch...idk how till then sayilee had a million problems with Sachin but was blushing and is ready when Sachin was sooo clearly uncomfortable with the idea?

Her definition of a good bahu is the one who keeps the family together, no matter how her own grandsons are.

This is why I enjoy watching Renuka...she is an open bitch 🤣🤣

I enjoyed watching the show when sayilee used to give it back to renuka , Tejas and Roshni...but it was becoming evident that her doormatification was going to happen, I had stopped watching.

No one is perfect in the show. Like any other characters, Savitri is a flawed character. Renuka treats Sayali like a trash. A mother is usually impartial, lekin Renuka maa ke naam par ek dhabba hain. She is the worst mother in the show. She gets so irritating that I feel like giving her two right slaps.

I agree that Savitri loves Sacha the most and Renuka shows love to Tejas openly. But on the negative side, Renuka is also spoiling Tejas as seen in the bedroom scene where Renuka tries to wake him up and talks to him like how a mother talks to a kid.

She made him a spoilt brat I enjoy when Sayali gives back to Renuka. I also enjoy when Savitri confronts and insults Renuka.

I wish she has a bigger role. The makers are putting her on and off the show.

Originally posted by: kavitha_r

No one is perfect in the show. Like any other characters, Savitri is a flawed character. Renuka treats Sayali like a trash. A mother is usually impartial, lekin Renuka maa ke naam par ek dhabba hain. She is the worst mother in the show. She gets so irritating that I feel like giving her two right slaps.

I agree that Savitri loves Sacha the most and Renuka shows love to Tejas openly. But on the negative side, she is also spoiling Tejas as seen in the bedroom scene where Renuka tries to wake him up and talks to him like how a mother talks to a kid.

She made him a spoilt brat I enjoy when Sayali gives back to Renuka. I also enjoy when Savitri confronts and insults Renuka.

I wish she has a bigger role. The makers are putting her on and off the show.

See, the thing is, everyone knows that Renuka isn’t exactly the nicest person, and nobody is denying that. But what I really don’t understand is why Paresh and Savitri are being glorified so much.

Let’s talk about Paresh for a second. When his father-in-law gave him a house, that too in his name, he had no problem accepting it. He was perfectly fine with that. But now, when Riya’s mother sent an AC suddenly it became a big issue? Why the double standards?

No matter what Riya's mom's intentions are, the way her mom is constantly treated just isn’t right. I am saying this because riya is genuinely a kind hearted person, and if nothing else, the family should at least respect her mom for riya's sake.

I mean, take Renuka for example—she’s Sachin’s mother and openly disrespects everyone all the time. Yet, Sachin and Saily still treat her with so much respect. Compared to that, Riya’s mother hasn’t even done anything close to what Renuka does. So why is there such a problem when it comes to showing basic respect towards her?

Now let's come to Savitri, she’s always painted as this perfect, balanced mother-in-law. But if we look closely, her biases are subtle, not loud like Renuka’s, but definitely there. She’s quick to expect, quick to judge, but rarely shows appreciation for the genuine efforts people like Riya make.

This is my opinion that Just because someone isn’t as loud or toxic doesn’t automatically make them right. Quiet unfairness is still unfairness.

Also her definition of a perfect DIL is very weird and problematic, she does not understand the other side I think.

Originally posted by: Nehaha57

Everyone is a hypocrite in this show

Savitri says Renuka ne uske bete ko usse door kiya...is Paresh a doodh peeta bacha?

Even in the starting when sayilee was having issues with Sachin, she told saylee to adjust and understand Sachin, when Sachin was literally a gunda and was manhandling her.

And Oh God the suhaagraat obsession !!!! It was cringy and creepy to watch...idk how till then sayilee had a million problems with Sachin but was blushing and is ready when Sachin was sooo clearly uncomfortable with the idea?

Her definition of a good bahu is the one who keeps the family together, no matter how her own grandsons are.

This is why I enjoy watching Renuka...she is an open bitch 🤣🤣

I enjoyed watching the show when sayilee used to give it back to renuka , Tejas and Roshni...but it was becoming evident that her doormatification was going to happen, I had stopped watching.

I agree, that suhag raat thing was sooo cringy, I mean I have never seen a 65-70+ person being soo crazy about suhag raat of his/her grand children

bhai unki suhag raat, unko jab manana hai manaenge, aapko kya karna, joint family kaa matlab ye thodi hota hai ki bas ghuse raho sbke personal matter mei.

and as I said, her definition of a good bahu is very problematic, before expecting anything from her bahus she should look at her own grandsons

Also, there’s something I’ve noticed and maybe I’m wrong, but it happens quite often.

Whenever Renuka says something to Saily, she usually doesn’t respond immediately. She stays quiet at first. Then later, she tells Sachin about it. After that, Sachin gets angry, creates a scene, and only then does she start speaking up. But by then, things have already escalated.

And Once the situation blows up, Saily herself ends up scolding Sachin, saying, “Why did you interfere?”

bhai chahti kya hai?

earlier she was upfront now I don't know what's happening.

Also earlier, Saily used to correct Sachin when he was wrong. She would make him understand, even if it meant going against him. But lately, it seems like that has completely changed. Now, even when Sachin is clearly in the wrong, she still supports him.

Take today’s AC drama, for example. What Sachin did wasn’t right, regardless of what anyone's intentions were, there was absolutely no need for him to create such a scene. It was completely uncalled for.

But instead of calling it out, Saily said things like, “You were absolutely right," That’s not okay. When someone is wrong, they’re wrong. Sugarcoating it or blindly supporting them just enables the behavior.

Also may be I missed something, but roshni ne genuinely apna mangalsutra girvi rakkha tha (again may be I missed something) but ye kehna ki usne ye jaan boojh kar kiya was not good I think.

roshni vaise drama karti hai, but today I don't think so, or may be I missed something.

Savitri does have a favourite and it's Sachin so automatically Sailee will be her favourite too, which makes sense since she raised him like a mother. Despite that, she hasn't shown a lot of partiality between her three grandsons. She has her favourite but doesn't just give him everything. When it comes to wealth and offerings, she has divided things up more. And I think the little favouring she does towards SaChi is fair seeing how they get treated by Renuka and Paresh.

Renuka is openly partial and favours Tejas the most and then Aakash. Paresh acts like he's impartial but Aakash is definitely his favourite and most favoured son (remember, he didn't leave his room for Sachin but actually gave it up for Aakash and didn't like Aakash sleeping on the terrace). Compared to that, Savitri's small amount of favouritism isn't a big deal imo. \

Savitri and Riya belong to completely different generations with different ideals and viewpoints. It's not like Sailee and Roshni who have actually grown up with those traditional values and being doormat, which Savitri prefers. Riya's too bold for Savitri, which is why there is a different behaviour but Savitri hasn't done anything bad to her. Savitri's clear priority is Sailee because she is the one who is treated bad between the three.

Though I do agree that Savitri has this thing where DILs are the ones to make a home, keep the family together, blah blah blah. I despised her when she became so pushy for SaChi suhaag-raat like it was too much. Also, I get her trying to make everyone contribute to household chores but her expecting only women to do so is completely wrong. She always wants women to compromise.

I also hated the way she and Paresh were so obsessed with making Sailee compromise with Sachin because irrespective of how Sachin is now he was a terrible and abusive husband to Sailee in the beginning who manhandled, gaslighted, and emotionally abused her.

Originally posted by: Nehaha57

Everyone is a hypocrite in this show

Savitri says Renuka ne uske bete ko usse door kiya...is Paresh a doodh peeta bacha?

Even in the starting when sayilee was having issues with Sachin, she told saylee to adjust and understand Sachin, when Sachin was literally a gunda and was manhandling her.

And Oh God the suhaagraat obsession !!!! It was cringy and creepy to watch...idk how till then sayilee had a million problems with Sachin but was blushing and is ready when Sachin was sooo clearly uncomfortable with the idea?

Her definition of a good bahu is the one who keeps the family together, no matter how her own grandsons are.

This is why I enjoy watching Renuka...she is an open bitch 🤣🤣

I enjoyed watching the show when sayilee used to give it back to renuka , Tejas and Roshni...but it was becoming evident that her doormatification was going to happen, I had stopped watching.

I blame Shobha for this. That woman is so annoying. When Sachin and Sailee got married and Sailee calls her when Paresh sets up their suhaag-raat this woman is like you shouldn't say no and just consummate. Because of this Sailee starts believing that that was the only way to get close to him.

I hated the way Shobha would always gaslight Sailee into thinking she did something wrong when Sachin would come home drunk, pull some shenanigan, or try to hit her (i.e., remember when she had to walk home midnight 4 km alone only because she trusted her husband and he returns home and tries to hit her for leaving or the time when he sold the gold chain she gifted). Parents like Shobha ruin their daughter's life and then cry when she faces domestic violence.

Originally posted by: IWasHareeshFan

Take today’s AC drama, for example. What Sachin did wasn’t right, regardless of what anyone's intentions were, there was absolutely no need for him to create such a scene. It was completely uncalled for.

But instead of calling it out, Saily said things like, “You were absolutely right," That’s not okay. When someone is wrong, they’re wrong. Sugarcoating it or blindly supporting them just enables the behavior.

He's still doing that? Why does he think everything is a jab at his baba ka izzat🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️it's annoying to watch his blind faith on Paresh.

Akash and riya are the only sane ones in that mad house. I wonder why Sachin had to beg them to come back home when they left the house, bas suffer karo as long as baba ka izzat is intact😒

Originally posted by: IWasHareeshFan

See, the thing is, everyone knows that Renuka isn’t exactly the nicest person, and nobody is denying that. But what I really don’t understand is why Paresh and Savitri are being glorified so much.

Let’s talk about Paresh for a second. When his father-in-law gave him a house, that too in his name, he had no problem accepting it. He was perfectly fine with that. But now, when Riya’s mother sent an AC suddenly it became a big issue? Why the double standards?

No matter what Riya's mom's intentions are, the way her mom is constantly treated just isn’t right. I am saying this because riya is genuinely a kind hearted person, and if nothing else, the family should at least respect her mom for riya's sake.

I mean, take Renuka for example—she’s Sachin’s mother and openly disrespects everyone all the time. Yet, Sachin and Saily still treat her with so much respect. Compared to that, Riya’s mother hasn’t even done anything close to what Renuka does. So why is there such a problem when it comes to showing basic respect towards her?

Now let's come to Savitri, she’s always painted as this perfect, balanced mother-in-law. But if we look closely, her biases are subtle, not loud like Renuka’s, but definitely there. She’s quick to expect, quick to judge, but rarely shows appreciation for the genuine efforts people like Riya make.

This is my opinion that Just because someone isn’t as loud or toxic doesn’t automatically make them right. Quiet unfairness is still unfairness.

Also her definition of a perfect DIL is very weird and problematic, she does not understand the other side I think.

Paresh and Savitri didn't want a rich bahu , just someone who has a good "charitra" / character.

As if their son wasn't a bewda and gunda in the beginning, why were they hyping up like he was Lord Ram? What about his character?

Whenever sayilee went to Savitri crying about her problems, instead of genuinely consoling her , her only advice to sayilee was to understand Sachin. I don't think she ever reprimanded Sachin for anything!! Just got mad when he said no to suhaagraat.

Originally posted by: Nehaha57

He's still doing that? Why does he think everything is a jab at his baba ka izzat🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️it's annoying to watch his blind faith on Paresh.

Akash and riya are the only sane ones in that mad house. I wonder why Sachin had to beg them to come back home when they left the house, bas suffer karo as long as baba ka izzat is intact😒

Honestly speaking Riya's mom did pull major things and harassed them a lot, especially during Aakash and Riya's reception. Even sending Paresh to jail was due to a personal vendetta so I don't disagree with Sachin's decision to return the AC. Riya's parents are always trying to insult his family.

Sachin just gets super rude and disrespectful though. Like his beef with Riya was stirred up because of his own behaviour. It was Riya's kindness that actually makes her ignore it. His behaviour towards Aakash was also very bad and uncalled for, especially after Paresh gets over it.

His whole baba ki izzat has been blown out of proportion when Paresh is not even a good father to him, to the point where he even kicked out his wife.