Dysfunctional dynamics

Wanted to make this post a while back but was a bit lazy. So here goes: I totally appreciate that we get to see a dysfunctional family in all its glory! Sometimes, ITV does a super sweet unrealistic portrait of a family which does not make good for TV because it is boring.

So I totally appreciate that the CVs are keeping it real and giving good characterization and depth to these relationships. It gives us lots to analyze and discuss if the CVs choose to give us arcs that also focuses on these characters.

The problems here are complex that it won't get resolved in one episode where someone just says, "okay we are all good" like weirdo idiots. Instead, these are problems with deep roots. In the real world, it may never get resolved and so it will be interesting to see if the CVs put these dynamics to good use to push the story forward.

1. Dislike -- noun as in antagonism, hatred toward something

We have a couple who really despise each other. At one point, there was loads of attraction and perhaps even affection and love. Now they repel each other and neither have any respect. He sees her as a gold digger who is only obsessed with money and control. She despises him because she sees him as a failure -- more importantly, he has failed her. He failed to be a success and his continuous business losses have caused the marriage to break down. It frustrates her that rather than enjoying a good life that she dreamed, she has to go out there and hustle to maintain their lifestyle. She is the one who had to pull this family out of their financial mess.

In the real world, financial troubles do cause tremendous stress on a marriage and can lead to divorce. There is blame game, frustration and anxiety. Given that their marriage has deteriorated to a level where they barely tolerate each other, can it really recover?

What do folks think?

... part 2 next...

Okay, on to part 2 of the glorious dysfunctional dynamics of this family. While I enjoy the barbs, I hope the CVs add some fun to these interactions because otherwise, it can become boring. Maybe some word play? maybe some stingers appropriate to the situation. Keeping my fingers crossed that the CVs not only add depth but also add some fun

2. Disdain -- noun as in hate; indifference

I like that these scenes are done with some thought where the body language shows so much emotions. We can see the physical distance where Gagan and mom are close and Aish is excluded. Rather than feeling left out, there is scorn and disdain from Aish. So there is mutual dislike between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law but it is not because they are competing for the same man like it happens in other saas bahu dramas. No, mom is free to have as much of Gagan's attentions as she wants.

Instead, mom hates Aish because she makes Gagan look small. In other words, Aish is a competitor for Gagan in the field of business and life. So her success naturally makes him look unaccomplished. Is this the case of having a woman smarter and more qualified than a man? Or is it because Aish despises Gagan and so mom in turn hates Aish?

3. Aversion -- noun as in dislike; opposition

It is not only Gagan that has failed marriage. His parents are no better. I like how the CVs framed this shot with the dad on the outside looking in while mom and son are together. However, it does not look like a bond out of love but rather a team because they are the outsiders. Does mom cling to Gagan because she has no respect or identity in her own marriage? Her son's failures are equated to her by her husband? He despises his son and finds him disappointing and by extension does not think much of his wife either? Are mom and Gagan a team because they have no one else?

What do folks think?

Part 3 coming up.....

Final part -- I hope the CVs give us clues to the history behind these fractured relationships. Was it always the same? Was it the case of a parents bitter marriage spilling on to the dynamics of the son? Did dad's disappointment with the son lead to Gagan trying harder to please him and failing spectacularly in business? Or is Gagan just not someone who has aptitude to run a business but has talents that can be utilized elsewhere? Is it a case where he had no one to appreciate and mentor him in the right direction? Was it a case of pushy parents where the child is always failing to match up to expectations?

3. Loathing -- noun as in hatred

I like how the CVs show clearly that this isn't a happy family by any percent. It is interesting how they have framed the camera shots where Aish is behind dad like an evil looming shadow sitting on his shoulder whispering bad things. So if dad wasn't there to encourage her behaviour, would the dynamics have turned out different? Did dad ultimately cause his marriage as well as his son's marriage to fail?

Finally, in all this madness, we have sweet ditzy Malla. It is amazing that despise the dysfunction of this family, she is so sweet and innocent. Maybe, her ditziness protected her from getting corrupted and becoming bitter?

What do folks think? Can this family become better or will it just get worse? Will we see well drawn out arcs that are interesting or will it be footnotes? Will we have a proper resolution or like all ITV serials, they will randomly hug it out in the final episode and become magically cured from this dysfunction?

P.S -- appreciate all the sets. That is some nice chandelier! Didn't realize it till I made these posts. hahahah.

Sorry wrong thread moving it

Wrong thread

It will be interesting to see how much of Aish's love for Malla is really love or just a continuation of her own self-hate and therefore need for control the circumstances around her. Her relationship with her daughter does not look healthy. Poor Malla is scared of being herself and at any point, Aish can go from love to despising Malla -- and bringing the same kind of dynamic that Gagan and his dad share. Just like Gagan, Malla is not up to the mark -- the kind of cut throat person who can hustle or enjoys the rat race. So Malla in that sense is more closer to her father in spirit than Aish. Since Aish despised Shruthi who did not understand the need to hustle, she will probably turn on Malla too.

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Posted this in the EDT but in case anyone missed it because there are so many pages... here are some thoughts on Aish and her motivations.

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Suprisingly simple psychology -- people who are insecure find faults in others because it makes them feel good about...

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MONEY!

Aish and co are actually broke. Contrary to what Aish says about poor people leeching off rich people, here,...

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Loved your writeup

I would love to read what you think about Vikrants family as well when we know a little more.. they are like the complete opposite of Raisinghs.

For now, I like how Neetu ARS equation is.

Originally posted by: Moor278

Loved your writeup

I would love to read what you think about Vikrants family as well when we know a little more.. they are like the complete opposite of Raisinghs.

For now, I like how Neetu ARS equation is.

Thanks! Hopefully Vikrant's family is interesting and not the typical boring family we see on ITV. I want some humour into Neetu ARS equation so that it does not get boring. The zingers need to fly by fast and be amusing so we can watch with popcorn! 🍿

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

Thanks! Hopefully Vikrant's family is interesting and not the typical boring family we see on ITV. I want some humour into Neetu ARS equation so that it does not get boring. The zingers need to fly by fast and be amusing so we can watch with popcorn! 🍿

I watched only 8 episodes ...Love the chemistry between ManVik...The friendship.of sisters ..currently not watching any serials , rest I will comment after watching ...About the ML's family usually they bring kalash see how it is going

Beautiful writeup🤩. Aishwarya is the odd one out in all settings and seems to have lots of skeletons in her closet. This makes the story interesting and infact without her the story might be stagnated. What fun it is if Mannat was indeed Shruti's daughter or Vikrant's parents were not indebted to her or Vikrant remembers his past or gagan's dad dislikes her and sees her true colors or Shruti was rich and didn't need liver transplant.

Aishwarya will be the one who will stir the pot with her hate towards Mannat, making mistakes, resulting in a domino effect. One by one all the skeletons will come out of the closet resulting in heartbreaks, sorrow, peace and happiness.

In short I love Aishwarya's character and she scares me every time she is on the screen 😂. Add to that the cinematography and bg music which makes it even worse 😨