Sunn Mere Dil (GEO) #11 - Wahaj Ali, Maya Ali, Hira Mani - Page 109

Originally posted by: wildflower9

i don't think her mother is pressurizing her or she ever will.

she is just giving her opinion. she even said i won't stop you i want to get divorce.

also when does sadaf listen to her mother? she wanted her to accept bilal's proposal but she didn't listen and married ammar.

her mother's opinion doesn't matter to her but it usually turns out to be true later.

Sadaf’s mom’s opinions have been really problematic. Is it just me who thinks that? She knows Ammar is with another woman and yet tells her daughter that she needs to fight for her marriage. She acts like Ammar is making small little mistakes and Sadaf is making a mountain out of molehill. She tells her to go back home when she comes over to get away. She definitely doesn’t force Sadaf to do anything but she isn’t supportive in any way at all. If she really thinks there’s something worth saving, call Ammar over and talk to him. Don’t just pressure your daughter to shoulder all the responsibility of trying to make this work.

Maybe her mom thinks she made this decision on her own when she was against it so now she has to make it work. Still, I feel it’s not really supportive of her mom. Sadaf made a bad decision, does that mean she has to stay in the marriage no matter how toxic it is?

Originally posted by: unicornhugs

Sadaf does usually do what she wants but she may be second guessing her decision making power now. Right now she’s pretty adamant on leaving Ammar.

Sadaf’s mom’s opinions have been really problematic. Is it just me who thinks that? She knows Ammar is with another woman and yet tells her daughter that she needs to fight for her marriage. She acts like Ammar is making small little mistakes and Sadaf is making a mountain out of molehill. She tells her to go back home when she comes over to get away. She definitely doesn’t force Sadaf to do anything but she isn’t supportive in any way at all. If she really thinks there’s something worth saving, call Ammar over and talk to him. Don’t just pressure your daughter to shoulder all the responsibility of trying to make this work.

Maybe her mom thinks she made this decision on her own when she was against it so now she has to make it work. Still, I feel it’s not really supportive of her mom. Sadaf made a bad decision, does that mean she has to stay in the marriage no matter how toxic it is?

her mom's advice looks awkward at the moment but writer might end up making her right in the end.

ammar is with another woman but not to the extent that he can't come back. probably bcoz her mother knows he doesn't love dania 🤔

and her mother was right. why did sadaf slap dania first? she could have slapped ammar instead.

and her mother thinks the way sadaf was talking about bilal abdullah doesn't seem right in this situation. i shouldn't have rejected his proposal and all.

her mom is saying what she thinks is right. don't know how will it affect the story in the long run.

I don’t find the advice right personally but this is the general advice from all elders in south east Asia. No mother will tell you leave the husband whatever the reason is. However grave the situation is, compromise is expected only from the girl. Here at least mother is saying don’t leave your husband because of the better person waiting by the wings. I know families where they will blame the girl and accuse her of not working her marriage because of some other guy waiting.

I feel if Sadaf walks out of this shitty marriage her mother is going to support her. Which is by our standard is a courageous thing to do.

I agree that it is not a ml centric show. I keep wondering why Wahaj agreed for this cameo after the tremendous success of Tere Bin. Wasn’t he aware that lot of earlier/ new fans will be looking forward for his next big project? I came here because of Wahaj but this has saddened me.

I joined India Forums during the craze of IPKKND and somehow felt the same how it ended. I have started to believe that this stars have zero interest in fan’s expectations. And I am not a kid fan who is having an interest in his personal life. I just want to watch good work by the actors I like.

Originally posted by: dennisdmenace

I agree that it is not a ml centric show. I keep wondering why Wahaj agreed for this cameo after the tremendous success of Tere Bin. Wasn’t he aware that lot of earlier/ new fans will be looking forward for his next big project? I came here because of Wahaj but this has saddened me.

I joined India Forums during the craze of IPKKND and somehow felt the same how it ended. I have started to believe that this stars have zero interest in fan’s expectations. And I am not a kid fan who is having an interest in his personal life. I just want to watch good work by the actors I like.

I understand what you are expecting...but see lot of factors depend here..I've seen some of the IVs of Wahaj and according to him,he wants his character to be impactful I feel..instead of the screentime.. Specially after his last project Mein,where people said he was wasted,he wanted to play a character which is heroic and also impactful..right now everyone is rooting for Bilal Abdullah even with the least screentime..

Also since the show is dragged,his screentime is also dragged..what can he do if the storyline doesn't demand his presence...(though I feel the director could have added lot of his scenes)

And also from producer's POV,they have marketed it in the name of Wahaj which is totally wrong.

Many scenes between Bilal-Sadaf are yet to be aired..so the hope is still there that his part will come towards the last 1/3rd of the show.

You are such a positive and hopeful person. I just hope and pray that our wishes of bilal Sadaf scenes come true.

Originally posted by: dennisdmenace

I don’t find the advice right personally but this is the general advice from all elders in south east Asia. No mother will tell you leave the husband whatever the reason is. However grave the situation is, compromise is expected only from the girl. Here at least mother is saying don’t leave your husband because of the better person waiting by the wings. I know families where they will blame the girl and accuse her of not working her marriage because of some other guy waiting.

I feel if Sadaf walks out of this shitty marriage her mother is going to support her. Which is by our standard is a courageous thing to do.

@bold: this is the more apt explanation. i don't find her mother's behaviour wrong because any mother would say this only.

if sadaf wants to take divorce, her mother won't go against her but she will definitely object if she starts bringing bilal in her conversations and life before divorce.

Originally posted by: dennisdmenace

I don’t find the advice right personally but this is the general advice from all elders in south east Asia. No mother will tell you leave the husband whatever the reason is. However grave the situation is, compromise is expected only from the girl. Here at least mother is saying don’t leave your husband because of the better person waiting by the wings. I know families where they will blame the girl and accuse her of not working her marriage because of some other guy waiting.

I feel if Sadaf walks out of this shitty marriage her mother is going to support her. Which is by our standard is a courageous thing to do.

Originally posted by: dennisdmenace

You are such a positive and hopeful person. I just hope and pray that our wishes of bilal Sadaf scenes come true.

bilal-sadaf scenes will be shown for sure. that too very soon.

Originally posted by: unicornhugs

Agreed that many mothers may try to tell their daughters to just make it work. I do think that there are mothers, South Asian Muslim moms too that would support their daughter’s decision to end this type of marriage. They may attempt reconciliation tactics but they wouldn’t just say go back and forgive, it’s not that big of a deal. They will acknowledge that this is a gig deal. I agree though that it’s common for elders to expect daughters to compromise no matter what. My argument isn’t so much if this is realistic or not or second guess her love for Sadaf. I guess my point is, that I would hate for her mother’s advice to end up being right. It would really bother me if the narrative ends up being that Sadaf is wrong, her mother is right, and she should just compromise in this marriage.

@bold: everything will fall into place if sadaf gets divorce before getting romantically involved with bilal. otherwise they might end up making her mother right. because not much difference will be left between sadaf and ammar.

sadaf can't wait even a few weeks/months. how can she be so desperate being the female lead. most of the KRQ female leads aren't white characters anyway.