Originally posted by: lagjagale
I don't think so. See MJ makes the same mistake over and over again. She goes too far in anything she wants to happen. Everytime her thoughts behind something are not entirely wrong. But the way she imposes it is. And that is the crux of the current issue acc to me.
Even before MJ's issues were always valid with Ak in terms of not loving Abhi or not being a good wife and stuff. But after the leap she became much much worse. She became an active person rather than a passive person basically in the absence of the OG active person Harsh Birla. They made her fill that vacuum.
First for Abrogi, her thoughts were not wrong, but her implementing it with so much force was. If Abhi and Arohi are saying no she should drop it. Then custody and stuff same thing. If Abhi is working out some form of co-parenting with the Kasauli ppls why does she have to throw a wrench into it? Asking Nav to give up Ak was wrong, even though her reasons were right. It went too far. Same during the custody, her reasons for not allowing Ak were right, but her enforcing the order was still wrong. She again went too far and it lead to tragedy.
Now again she is going too far. She should have accepted things when Abhi moved out. In Neil's case, she didn't like Arohi and Ak had shown everyone that Arohi was marrying for money/status. But still Manjari accepted her back for Neil. Here also she needed to drop her issues and most importantly not go so far as to put her own son in prison in front of her grandson.
Point is she goes too far always. And now the water is over Abhi's head.
I don’t disagree with what you have said. I did indicate that MJ made a lot of mistakes and had also written previously that, even though indirect but she was ultimately the reason why OGAbhira separated. But I do think it was just one side of the problem. Almost all the key characters, MJ, Abhi, Akshu, kept going too far in situations where they were supposed to take step back and calm down. All of them had good intentions but their actions were wrong.
Since the start, she has been single-minded in her attempt to ensure Abhi did not get the same fate as hers. She kept making mistakes as she kept going overboard in trying to make everything perfect for Abhi. As Abhi once wished that hope MJ was not unreasonably weak. But he also had unreasonable reactions to that weakness and in his attempts to protect her even when he knew she was being unreasonable. If MJ kept making mistakes, it was not necessary for Abhi to take it so far ahead that there are irreparable consequences. One of the main reasons why Neil felt isolated when he got to know the truth was also how Abhi supported MJ and pushed him to accept that what MJ did was best for him. To exclude someone else’ hurt and pain just so that you can achieve a stable outcome from unstable circumstances will always be wrong. He did not have to choose all the time. He never let Mj deal with Akshu on her own and always interfered. Akshu’s decisions and her own mistakes, even if innocently done, did end up causing pain and hurt to MJ. Especially her leaving Abhi. There were three people in those circumstances who were all equally responsible for what happened to them. But if I have to look at just MJ, she was unreasonable in blaming Akshu about those incidents and most importantly expecting Abhi to side with her.
After the leap, same thing continued but yes like you said she did become worse and more unreasonable. Abrogi – I felt it was Ruhi who was running the show with her childish tantrums but agree on yours more she should have dropped it. In fact I hated that part coz I still believe Akshara finally decided to think about her marriage after Abhi announced his engagement in front of her at Mimi’s party. At that moment, he should have just shut up but his monologue destroyed everything. He went too far too.
Rest with the Sharmas, I felt she pretty much gave voice to what Abhi was thinking and what was being unsaid by others. She was made to look like the villain but she was the only one who was thinking about Abhi while he was being made the sacrificial lamb in every situation. Too much time has been wasted, too much was lost and too much was being unsaid, just because she gave voice to it, she looked bad. She said to Akshara that she only said that to Nav coz she knew Akshara did not move on. The order was clearly wrong but by this time, many things did not make sense in the story as character arcs were being changed to suit a particular narrative. She crossed lines but Akshara also crossed many lines.
Even now, all this redemption for Abhi is meant for him to get things into perspective and not react when things go bad. That does not mean he does everything only for Akshara. MJ went too far with the abortion thing, but Abhi also went too far in leaving home for it. Akshara again went too far in trying to go in for the abortion and then manipulating Abhi. But now the story is no longer making sense. All is being done to show something for next gen so I don’t think I would be able to analyse properly what all are doing right now.
But my point is despite all this, MJ agrees that she was and is wrong. I wasn’t saying MJ’s actions were correct. Infact the discussion point was that MJ was right in her place even though her actions were wrong. MJ may make the same mistake over and over again, that’s her character but people around her took worse decisions than her but other than Abhi no one is owning up to it.
Edited by Emeralues - 1 years ago
. This is what I feel. 
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