Originally posted by: lagjagale
I really don't agree that Manjari is one of the most toxic ITV mothers, infact she has been one of the least toxic amongst all of the shows I have watched. For me she is similar to the mother figure in tere liye, who was sweet and kind and had her heart in the right place but did some bad things due to MUs or due to love for her son.
It is in this show that I have seen mother figures being so villainized for no reason. Everything Manjari has done has had a clear reason which may not always be selfless or mahaan like the great FL, but it atleast makes sense.
I think that before the leap this show was reasonably modern, Birla family was shown as being reasonably modern too and Manjari esp. was shown to be compassionate and empathetic despite her being abused by Harsh. She also made several efforts to keep Abhira together, to the extent that she told Abhi to forget about her accident in which she could have died. After the first leap her entire perspective on Ak changed as someone who didn't love Abhi enough....which looking back doesn't seem wrong. Abhi is constantly the one after Ak, and the one who still loves her and cares about her despite all the insults and blames - just like Manjari did with Harsh for the longest time.
But they changed everything after the leap. They rewrote all the narrative to turn this into a backwards mother in law - daughter in law drama, which this really wasn't. So hence they villainized Manjari and turned Abhi into someone who only listens to his mother. Except their traits are still there...Manjari is still compassionate towards Ak, even if she prioritizes Abhi's happiness. And Abhi listens to Ak as much as he listens to his mom, while telling them both they are wrong when appropriate. He is his own person and does what he thinks is right.
Now they are trying to turn it back to what it was, but that isn't working cause they have already messed it up so much. From my understanding of today's episode, it seems like both Manjari and Ak want to wait to tell Abhir the truth until the court judgement. They both just think the truth is two different things, which they can fight over. But I don't understand why Ak couldn't just tell Manjari that she is planning not to tell until court judgement? Nor do I understand her and the entire goenkas blaming the birlas for this. Whatever happened, even if Abhi murdered, it was Abhi's decision taken without Birlas involvement. So why all the hate towards Birlas? Just cause they think he is innocent? What sense does that make?
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