Raghuvanshi Family ????? - Page 3

Originally posted by: kushikumari

@ bold, what role will Katha play in all this then? She has to, has to look super fantastic.

With regards to Viraj and Teji's marriage, I agree, Seema cannot be blamed for it. She is part of it, yes, but is probably not the reason for the marriage falling apart. The two are solely responsible for their actions and ultimately had to face the consequences.

@bold - exactly. That is the point.. I will blame a woman to break a marriage only when she has done something deliberately to actually break the marriage, like actually create some misunderstanding between the couple.

Originally posted by: Rsrockz

Then we stand on 2 different POVs, EMA for me is the physical/carnal relationship a man or woman has out of their wedding with another person, while still having the marital relationship going on. Forgive me perhaps for my lack of sympathy and empathy for such people or relationships.

I diagree with your statements(IN BOLD)

1. Teji was initially shown to be idolising Viraaj but Viaan was found to be having issues with his mum's love.
2. Irrespective of the status of Teji and Viraaj marriage Seema with all good intentions shouldn't get into relationship with her married boss. Ransacking a house because the doors are open, still amounts to theft and robbery, similarly it isn't OK to get into an affair with the boss, just because boss isn't getting on well with his wife.

Of course we have two POV.

Everything isn’t that simple even EMA. Considering how long it can get to finalise the divorce by court, I can understand why would anyone get into another relationship after filing a divorce petition. It’s normal and it never considered as EMA.
@bold - IMO any marriage ends when both agree to end it, or when one of them wants to end it. Filing a divorce petition is practically end of the marriage relationship.

Any way, we all can agree to disagree.

I lost my interest in Katha's character since she couldn't see Teju's side of the story!

Viaan has no brain of his own!

There was no need of a press conference !

Viraj couldn't wait , Seema & Vuraj wanted to get physical fast, I think that attracted Kaavian more 🤣

These people doesn't know what true love is!

Teju even though controlling and manipulative still better than Seema and Viraaj

She should have let the son meet father !

That can be forgiven, because shevwas scared to loose the son too!

Another thing I noticed Seema madam appeared to be too good to be true kind an " too sweet " person 🤣

What is there to complain for Seema!

Teji wanted to secure son's future so she got properties... she secured rest by chasing Seema out of the picture

Seema wanted " Love & S*x" she hit that from Viraaj

Wealth for Tej

Love ( physical & spiritual) for Seema

Fair enough...

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I want to beat Viaan right and left , want to take him out of Katha addiction

Any addiction is bad , Viaan proves that

Only one regret ... why do these creatives destroyed the " original beautiful love story "

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Let's take real life example. Salman Khan once called his step mother Helen part of family. But he accepted his step mother only when his real mother accepted it.

https://www.tribuneindia.com/news/entertainment/salman-khan-speaks-about-father-salim-marrying-helen-i-was-10-and-hated-mom-waiting-for-dad-to-come-home-342253

It would be disrespect towards Teji if Viaan start considering Seema mother without acknowledging the feeling of his own mother. But Teji portrayed Seema wrong after Viraj death. What Viaan did is only to correct the sin of Teji. If no media is involved at the time of Viraj death, then I guess Viaan just able to forgive Seema and move on.

Viraj is an interesting character. I think Viraj married Teji only for money. Teji might be rich and her dad offer initial investment for Earthcon. That make sense when Viraj offered whole company to Teji at the time of divorce. Otherwise who will leave his whole lifetime work just like that.

Anyway Viraj start dating Seema before divorce petition filed. Then he think of divorce and immediately moved out. He and Seema didn't give Teji time to work on their marriage first. In the same scenario Yuvraj would have file for divorce and move with that girl if Katha wouldn't interven and asked Yuvraj to give atleast his wife a chance. I will consider this EMA. If a person is romantically involve outside marriage then it is EMA. I don't considered EMA right or wrong. People may have different reason for their affair outside marriage. In most cases people are not happy in their marriage life. Cheating might be different because they are doing without telling their spouse.

I will still say 13 year of marriage is very big time. In any circumstances, Viaan should understand the pain of his mother and stand by with his mother, doesn't matter whether Seema has some illness.

I reiterate a physical relationship outside of marriage when the person is actively married to someone else is an EMA. I work in UK law enforcement, the policy guidance has clearly been marriage should be considered active and valid until its certified null and void by the courts. Infact these days referring couples seeking divorce to couple yoga sessions has become the norm. I am also a NED in a charity offering relationship help in difficult marriages. I have seen several men getting into affairs with their younger colleagues or younger women they have met at fitness classes or some otehr social settings, surprisingly with right counselling the men went back to their wives and the young girls involved felt estranged and had to deal with heartbreak eventually, so getting into an affair with a person in a complicated relationship only complicates matters and hence to me Seema is a guilty party.

Originally posted by: SakZ

Of course we have two POV.

Everything isn’t that simple even EMA. Considering how long it can get to finalise the divorce by court, I can understand why would anyone get into another relationship after filing a divorce petition. It’s normal and it never considered as EMA.
@bold - IMO any marriage ends when both agree to end it, or when one of them wants to end it. Filing a divorce petition is practically end of the marriage relationship.

Any way, we all can agree to disagree.

Again from a law enforcement POV until the existing marriage with Tejji beomes null and void, Seema shouldn't get into an affair with Viraaj.

Originally posted by: SakZ

@bold - exactly. That is the point.. I will blame a woman to break a marriage only when she has done something deliberately to actually break the marriage, like actually create some misunderstanding between the couple.

Originally posted by: Rsrockz

Again from a law enforcement POV until the existing marriage with Tejji beomes null and void, Seema shouldn't get into an affair with Viraaj.

This should apply to Viraj. He being a married man should have been more sensitive, ethical and maintained a boundary. As some of us have been saying, we are as much in the dark regarding the back story, as the writers. Who really knows Viraj’s character? What his role was in the marriage falling apart and what his role was in eventually living with Seema? Besides this story is based in India, mango did share some info on how things work here. Call it extra marital affair, or a legal relationship.
The ridiculous point though is in the way it was made public- zero emotion, lack of discrimination, insensitive, disrespectful, like robots… moving on to the next thing called romance.

I didn't mention Viraaj as the culprit now because his culpability has never been disputed and its been unanimously agreed. I totally agree with you(IN BOLD) my complaint with any other women involved in these kind of EMA matters is A man unreliable with one woman can't be trustworthy of emotions or affections of someone else. Calling the entire thing not an EMA trivialises and distracts the entire discourse and dialogue surrounding an EMA.

Finally CVs should have left the issue as it is instead of trying to justify POVs because Tejji and Viaan have been wronged and the haphazard execution only spoiled it for the viewers.

Originally posted by: kushikumari

This should apply to Viraj. He being a married man should have been more sensitive, ethical and maintained a boundary. As some of us have been saying, we are as much in the dark regarding the back story, as the writers. Who really knows Viraj’s character? What his role was in the marriage falling apart and what his role was in eventually living with Seema? Besides this story is based in India, mango did share some info on how things work here. Call it extra marital affair, or a legal relationship.
The ridiculous point though is in the way it was made public- zero emotion, lack of discrimination, insensitive, disrespectful, like robots… moving on to the next thing called romance.

Originally posted by: Rsrockz

I didn't mention Viraaj as the culprit now because his culpability has never been disputed and its been unanimously agreed. I totally agree with you(IN BOLD) my complaint with any other women involved in these kind of EMA matters is A man unreliable with one woman can't be trustworthy of emotions or affections of someone else. Calling the entire thing not an EMA trivialises and distracts the entire discourse and dialogue surrounding an EMA.

Finally CVs should have left the issue as it is instead of trying to justify POVs because Tejji and Viaan have been wronged and the haphazard execution only spoiled it for the viewers.

@ bold, not necessarily the case with all men. They are reliable and definitely trustworthy in relationships that work for them or they want to make work. I wouldn't generalize! And it is much the same with women too. We have all kinds of people in this world...

A second, third, fourth... relationship is what it is. It does not trivialize the challenges that come with it. There is always alarm bells sounding off around such people, and the family has its own set of challenges to face in society and at home.

Like I said before, EMA should not happen, but the reality is, it does. A strong moral compass doesn't necessarily rule in all. And not in all cases can one blame the other woman. Lack of awareness, made up stories, any such thing can lead to getting involved. This does not translate as being a home wrecker.

Kushi ji, keeping legalities and morality aside the consequences of EMAs may not be good for everyone involved, agree with you that nobody intentionally gets into these kind of scenarios. IMO mistake always remains a mistake irrespective of the no.of ppl supporting it.

Many ppl may not be happy with the justification, because if Seema isn't wrong then Teji isn't at fault either.

Originally posted by: kushikumari

@ bold, not necessarily the case with all men. They are reliable and definitely trustworthy in relationships that work for them or they want to make work. I wouldn't generalize! And it is much the same with women too. We have all kinds of people in this world...

A second, third, fourth... relationship is what it is. It does not trivialize the challenges that come with it. There is always alarm bells sounding off around such people, and the family has its own set of challenges to face in society and at home.

Like I said before, EMA should not happen, but the reality is, it does. A strong moral compass doesn't necessarily rule in all. And not in all cases can one blame the other woman. Lack of awareness, made up stories, any such thing can lead to getting involved. This does not translate as being a home wrecker.