Originally posted by BollyBabe75
Swati, while I tend to agree with you about the rave party I think you are being too harsh with him on the way he handled the aftermath.
For him to marshal all of his resources and do all of the things you say to do after he comes back from Panchgani over a one night stand I think is unrealistic. He had no idea his worst nightmare would happen and things would blow up in his face.
Girls, there is nothing personal here, please understand my point of view. I am going to put in layman's words here; you might have guessed it already, I have mix family background of strong bz and well as IT and I mentioned I run my own business too.
This story is of 2005 onwards in India or currently in 2015 in Mumbai, one of the fastest, most hi-tech city and business / financial district of Asia's most dominating country. If Arnav has grown from rag to riches in Mumbai and runs a conglomerate, basic expectation here from Arnav is to have the proper business companies, legal setup, with personal, business advisors, lawyers, security, wealth management team, counselors, and accountants / tax consultants and most importantly his complete inner circle (his hot line team) that knows everything about him and his schedules etc. This is what anyone does when they start a business and once they grow exponentially as Arnav.
Handling mishap is a drill run 100 times for different scenarios just like fire drill we run in our offices at executive level. There is monthly round table where such situations are discussed, current attacks analyzed and actions are prepared. Nobody reinvents wheel after mishap happens, they just get into action mode and do the needful. It is almost carried out as reflexes because of the drills they practice.
So if Arnav here is underprepared for any such situation for me is a complete bummer! Then he has nobody else to blame but himself, isn't it? You are part of Bollywood but you and your wife are NOT prepared for a scandal is a joke to me. They are recognized as Modern Day Fairy Tale, image built over years.
My educated mind and common sense tells me if Arnav is NOT established like this, he wouldn't be called an astute, sharp and savvy businessman but he is supposed to be the one. But the way Arnav handled Lavanya incident is complete amateur and newbie behavior or even worst. I would fire half of his hotline team, ha ha ha. Of course except darling Aman. Ok, I will try not to be harsh on Arnav so he may not be dumb but he has guaranteed become emotional fool. All he needed to do was call and inform Aman and he would have taken over.
Either this is shortcoming from his character or limitation of the story where this guy is depicted as an astute businessman but in real world problems, he crumbles like a leaf in seconds and panics... Which I will ask Arpita but it is what it is.
Please don't shoot the messenger for speaking the truth and not accepting nonsense.
Yes maybe if I keep my brains aside and treat this as Govinda or Salman Khan movie, I will agree. Keep joking about his boxer and get done. But if I am a good reader, critic and want my personal favorite writer Arpita to do wonders, I take it as a moral responsibility to write what I deduce from the chapters. And of course I have freedom too. I have no qualms calling my own stories so simple, silly and armature, it is what it is...
If you don't want me to respond to your comments, I will take care of that going forward, don't worry..
I glanced through the comments and was really shocked no one, absolutely no one called Arnav meeting La alone behind Khushi's back, keeping Khushi in dark when he exactly knows why he is meeting Lavanya is a broad day light cheating and it makes him characterless, sorry but the truth. Even in legal terms, this is cheating. But someone replied saying, he met only twice, seriously??? We do live in biased world after all, it's truly disappointing but I get it. Everything about Arnav, so many of us are already convinced he is innocent, defend to the level beyond bias is unacceptable and the irony is right from the beginning writer has established he is a flawed character.
I don’t believe he set out to deliberately hurt Khushi. As I’ve said over and over I think he loves her in his own f***** up way.
I for one don’t have a lot of conflict how he ultimately handled things. I just have trouble how he was prepared to handle the child. I just think all facets of a child’s welfare trumps all. His mental condition which he doesn’t seem willing to deal with in my mind, makes him cold and heartless in this regard. He got lucky she wasn’t pregnant. Now, he has to deal with a lying *****.
I don’t think he has a soft spot for Lavenya although, in my mind, she is worse than Manali. She’s the one that pursued and slept with a married man. Unless we learn some weird thing, Manali is doing her job like Aman and that is protecting her employer.
No, I don’t think he is a horrible person. He’s just a horribly scarred, mixed up man with mental health issues. And because he has not gotten help which he acknowledges he may need, he has ruined his and his wife’s life by his very, very misguided actions.
And please don’t come after me ( not you, Swati, but the other Arnav lovers ) because, I know if you have mental health issues you are often not thinking straight enough to seek help. But he is rational in other parts of his life so it is possible that he could stop, reflect seriously on his condition and take action.
I was the first one to give him slack on his ill-treatment after Chapter 11a, because I know the mental health background and seen people in self destruction mode and he is one of them. He goes in loop and his poor decisions make him a weak, horrible man who threw his most beloved wife under the bus.
His putting it to Khushi is a start because they both need intense therapy now. Khushi could have used counseling before but because of Arnav’s actions she is so broken she needs much more intense help.
Shyam, La and Manali are distractions here. No one else breaks anyone's marriage, yes sometimes accidental ONS or adultery brings the dent but the marriage must have had some problems by itself for sure. Here 99.99% problems undoubtedly start with Arnav and will end only when he wants to fix them, at least that's how I see his character being built here.
Ironically in this story Arnav and Khushi went from rag to riches together but Khushi's character is written in such a way that she is epitome of loyalty (shares nothing negative about Arnav to anyone), beautiful inside out, sophisticated, kind hearted and believes in charity more than glitz world, stays connected to her roots, loves family, always there for them and stays grounded. She never judges Arnav, never digs old graves after he told about Anamika even after 10 years of marriage and invested in her husband fully no matter what.
We all were wrong all along, Arpita is in love with Khushi, not Arnav! What direction it is taking Arpita's personal love story??? 😛 😛
I have always refrained myself from commenting on Shyam, below my standard and Khushi should have never met him, period.
Originally posted by: Learrntowrite
oh thank you for saying this!!! Seriously thanks a lot!! I am not sure there’s any Arnav lover here who would say that he’s a saint. He is not. He has made absolutely horrible decisions which have hurt Khushi.
For me his cross is explaining to Khushi why he thought all she wanted a baby. Has she not displayed her utter devotion to him. I understand the guilt. I don’t understand pulling away. Not talking. Stonewalling her.
The only thing where I harshly react is the name calling. Khushi gets all the benefit of doubt in the world but he needs to be better than god!
Arnav doesn't need to be god, he just need to be human using common sense and kindness. How he behaved with her was crass, insanely inhumane and this has been established by the writer herself.
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