Power imbalance in the pairings

Not a hate post for nav or abhi so kindly hold on to your horses.

When ak was introduced, she was the victim in her family where aro can step over her and none will come to her rescue. She left home, came back and heard taunts of her sister everyday. she and abhi got married then after lots of drama. on paper their relation is of equal- big families, money, mutual love, sibilings accepting their new in laws (except aro which is understandable).

and yet, the power imbalance was there, on surface it looks like abhi has it- he is the man and he has a powerful voice which seems like shouting. his lion roar is legendary in this forum😆 ak is softer but can go toe to toe in many topics. but as their marital life progressed, it was visible how akshara actually has all the power. she can take decisions like fixing manju/harsh/abhi relationship when the dude used to beat abuse his wife and kids. when abhi vent out on that she said he was behaving like harsh which hurt him. the pregnancy thing is a separate topic of its own. during the khera thing too, she took a decision to go with him with her brother leaving the families clueless. she came back, didnt clarify her stance, and the families got ready with remarriage. during WD, she left home and met nav, married him and they made a fmaily of their own,

with nav its more disproportionate. when ak was pretending to be poor it was fine, but during abhi's health issue nav could see what was her wealth, her family background and everything. the dude has muhboli sister and some aunty, his house and cab driver job. it was glaring when abhir's custody thing was ongoing, ak and her family threatened abhi /manju multiple times to stay away from abhir, filed restraining order, was confident they will win the case. the moment they didnt win, they took a cruel way to send abhir away. ak had the power to establish abhir/nav connection, then in one single chance she severed it. yeah nav gave the idea to break it, but she could have done a different thing as abhir's mother. afterall, as per her words nav was way more connected to the kid. she didnt think how it will impact abhir or what will be nav's mental state when hes away from abhir.

akshara has everything yet pretends like victim which is such a mismatch when you look at the story. whatever drama is ongoing now, the threats she had made for abhi, as a husband she should have talked to him, discuss rather than just doing her usual chants of "meri happy family kasauli jayegi, aap hi papa ho". nav is intelligent enough to know hes the dad, but abhi is too. he was ready to tell the truth at start, he was guilty everyday and left a voice message. what about akshara? is her idea of happy family is such where only she can take decisions and her husband should just go as per flow? just like what happened with her ex one? if tomorrow manju taunts her that whatever is happening- staying away from abhir and the kid being sad over it- is her own karma, what if tomorrow nav tells her its her own fault to not agree for coparenting before court took over, will she clarify her stance? will she let him even speak?

Like all others she's poorly written character . Yet , a huge section of audience sympathize with her plight bec of her past.

Why so much expectations from akshara and abhinav , we know , the writing is pathetic so it Is for everyone.

Everyone knows the solution to these problems is not yelling at each other and blaming , at least the elders could sit down and talk bec they were still at good terms.

Women being able to take autonomous decisions after discussing and disagreeing with their partners is power imbalance equitable to— lemme wait— "Meri baat kyon nahi maanti" *slam-upturn bed to the side of a miscarrying woman* *machismo machismo* *emotional outburst emotional outburst.*

Beautifully penned post! :)

Basically, she wanted Abhi to be her YES man, allow her to take decisions and support her no matter what. When Abhi couldn’t do that, it was not at all ok for her.

Divorce happened due to Neil and unborn kids death due to her foolishness in pregnancy.

When she figures that one of kids is alive, she marries a stranger Abhinav ( who’s an insecure man child and Yes man ) and successfully manages to keep her child away from his biological father.

IMO, this is first time in ITV wherein FL is a delusional, egotistic and gaslighting vamp.

P.S. I wish HC dumps this show or gets a new FL.

Akshara is weakest fl all the shows that i have watched. She can never be a good example for any women.

She failed to take actions when it's necessary. I am not saying because she got married to abhinav. But the way she is dealing with everything is wierd and illogical.

Finding a father.

Finding a funder for her child.

Insulting her ex even after herself acknowledging that he is a good parent.

Acting inhumane towards others.

I am only comparing her with typical fl. Not with real life characters. There is no difference between what she is doing or what kamolika would have done if anurag rejected her 😂

With the current narrative,even arohi looks sensible and mature infront of akshu even though she is the worst character of yrkkh.

Originally posted by: Deltablues

Women being able to take autonomous decision after discussing and disagreeing with their partners is power imbalance equitable to— lemme wait— "Meri baat kyon nahi maanti" *slam-upturn bed to the side of a miscarrying woman* *machismo machismo* *emotional outburst emotional outburst.*

You don't get it. She took decisions without talking with her partner, that is the problem. That has always been the problem. No one thinks women need to follow everything their husbands say. It's just she unilaterally took decisions that affected everyone negatively and didnt even talk to Abhi about them so they could fix things together or at the very least so he wasn't blind sided. And when she was questioned she turned it into this respect nonsense.

This is just not how marriages or any real relationship functions. And to label it as a feminist issue is wrong.

Originally posted by: Deltablues

Women being able to take autonomous decision after discussing and disagreeing with their partners is power imbalance equitable to— lemme wait— "Meri baat kyon nahi maanti" *slam-upturn bed to the side of a miscarrying woman* *machismo machismo* *emotional outburst emotional outburst.*

So eloquently put. Never have I ever seen power imbalance being used in a sentence so unscruplously.

Originally posted by: lagjagale

You don't get it. She took decisions without talking with her partner, that is the problem. That has always been the problem. No one thinks women need to follow everything their husbands say. It's just she unilaterally took decisions that affected everyone negatively and didnt even talk to Abhi about them so they could fix things together or at the very least so he wasn't blind sided. And when she was questioned she turned it into this respect nonsense.

This is just not how marriages or any real relationship functions. And to label it as a feminist issue is wrong.

Abhira from the insta love, to the suicide emotional coercion to the very frequent divorce farmaans are a very toxic and abusive dynamic. Akshara has always been punished in that relationship.

Akshnav on the other hand, discuss and disagree with each other. They even go against each other's wishes to each other's detriment. Abhinav bypassed Akshara's very valid concerns to not go to Udaipur. Akshara bypassed his wishes to reveal the truth to Birla at the very beginning. And yet they manage to not emotionally, verbally, or economically abuse each other just because someone effs up a few times.

And then let me not get into the Schrödinger's independence of women where they are not independent for remarrying but also turning their husbands powerless simultaneously

Originally posted by: Deltablues

Abhira from the insta love, to the suicide emotional coercion to the very frequent divorce farmaans are a very toxic and abusive dynamic. Akshara has always been punished in that relationship.

Akshnav on the other hand, discuss and disagree with each other. They even go against each other's wishes to each other's detriment. Abhinav bypassed Akshara's very valid concerns to not go to Udaipur. Akshara bypassed his wishes to reveal the truth to Birla at the very beginning. And yet they manage to emotionally, verbally, or economically abuse each other just because some effs up a few times.

And then let me not get into the Schrödinger's independence of women where they are not independent for remarrying but also turning their husbands powerless simultaneously

Akshara victim hi hey pretend nahin karti abhimanyu uskey saath bahuut kuch kiya dil dukhaya.khera case me akshu abhimanyu keliye wo sab kiya khera ki dhamki ko sunna padha sirf abhimanyu key khaathir usskey khushey keliye kiya par phir bee dil dukha diya abhimanyu ney.akshara abhinav ney hee abhir ko paala hey tho abhir unn logo key saat khush hey uskey face pey khushey har wakt dha.

I don't think that I make more illogical statements than saying that a woman has all the power in her current relationship because she allegedly made mistakes in her previous relationship and did not wait around to talk things over with her ex after being handed a predrafted divorce papers, after being accused of not only her own miscarriage but also the death of her own mother by him.

So when should she have waited to talk to Abhimanyu? Before he signed the divorce papers or after he said lo ho gaya divorce?