Maa ki mamta - Page 2

Originally posted by: yellomellow

Every post becomes about him. I thought it was best to get out of the way so we can actually discuss something other than him lol.

If we want to get logical than child abuse also exists. Lying to a child about their identity is psychological and emotional abuse. In my field, I have read many studies (mostly on adopted children) that are lied to about their paternity suffering life-long anger, abandonment and attachment issues. Here, he isn't even adopted his birth mother lied to him to fill up photo frames for a man she met on the bus. So, she kept him away from a "toxic" environment to give him life-long trauma and identity crisis at the age of six lol. I'm pretty sure forging a birth certificate is also a crime, but it's ok to commit crimes if you are a mother and your husband is poor.

She didn't talk to him. She told him what to think and how to feel about the situation. Her response was to ask if he didn't like his fake papa. What kid would say no to that? Then she proceeded to ask him why is he thinking about others. That's textbook gaslighting lol. She didn't ask how he felt. If he was sad? Or angry? Or worried? She still doesn't even recognize his frustrations or give him an outlet to express himself. That was Abhi. She invalidated his feelings then made him guilty for thinking about his real father. He agreed to her request then what happened? He stopped his quest for his real father momentary then started again. He wants to grow up faster so he can find about his real dad. Does she care or even notice? No. He is praying to God because she is hopeless lol.

He might hate him. Who knows? Personally, I hope the makers go with this route. A father winning back his son's love is a million times more interesting the situational poverty and child abuse being disguised as a "happy" family. We'll see I guess.

Hi Yellomellow,

@bold This is not Abuse. If it was Abhi who has done all this then only it will be called emotional abuse. 🫡

Completely agree Abhir is the best parts of them. I meant Abhir is similar to Abhi in dealing with toxic situations. His bottles up his feelings, investigates on his own, unwavering faith in his mother, prays for a resolution, and then he does what to make others happy.

Abhinav should feel guilt towards Abhir. That's my point. Neither of them thought once about how Abhir would feel about this truth. All that matters to them is that their family is complete. Abhi didn't live with them for six years. He can't be responsible for their own disinterest in their own "son."

Abhinav did worse than judge him. He lied to him, pretended to be his friend, and then used him to get what he wanted whether it was the pooja being successful or Abhir's surgery. Also, Abhinav didn't let him into his home. He had no choice but to accept it because Abhi is his father lol. No matter how much he cries he can't change that fact. Also, who is he to judge anyone? After what he did to a child.

You can't come back and claim something you never gave up in the first place lol. They made the decision for Abhi without his knowledge or his consent and now they are dealing with the consequences. He has no one to blame but himself. Telling the truth complicates lives, but lying doesn't. Okay then.

Originally posted by: R.G.C

Lets be honest, in my opinion this is extremely biased. No, Abhir is not at all exactly like Abhim, he is a mix of both. And Abhim is no angel either. Both Ak and Abhim have done wrong. Abhim has impulsively acted out throughout the show and shoved his opinions on others and also failed to show trust towards his partner and also shown 0 empathy towards someone he claimed he loved and left her at her weakest moments, while Akshara has hid multiple things and made really wrong choices, always giving preference to people without judging their intentions. If we are to point out mistakes, lets point out both sides, instead of the bias. Abhir on the other hand is a child who has shown great maturity for a 6 year old throughout. He is outspoken like Abhim at the same time has a gentle and kind side like Akshara. About Abhinav not feeling remorse, why should he? He has known Ak’s side of the story, and believes Abhim wronged her. He has been there in that phase when Abhim was not receiving Ak’s calls and was not ready to listen to her. As a stranger anybody would sympathise with a pregnant woman who is all alone over the husband who left her alone. Still Abhinav did not judge him, and after 6 years took the reveal very easily. He is letting the ex husband stay with their family, with all the past still accepting Abhim, despite Ak showing so much hatred for Abhim, Abhin did not let that affect her feelings on his. Now after 6 years if any guy who you saw rejecting the wife coming back and claiming the child, any father would get disheartened. He is showing insecurities too recently, but still treats Abhim with respect. Abhim’s mom comes up and talks all that nonsense, he cries but does not disrespect her or Abhim. So why is he bad? About Ak not caring about Abhir’s feeling, I don’t believe thats the case. She wants to tell her son the whole truth when the times are reasonable. No matter how mature the kid is, he is still a kid. Telling the truth complicates his life, and at the same time also Ruhi’s life. She worries about her husband, thats very natural too. According to me, right now, during the current track, nobody is wrong (other than Manjari for obvious reasons), but situations already turned bad post their divorce 6 years back and the events that followed, what they are dealing with right now are the repercussions of the same. What they could have done better? Abhim could have listened to her instead of acting out in anger or at least tried finding her more once he cooled off. Ak could have tried more than just calling to contact Abhim, or maybe tried calling other family members like Shefali or someone. Abhin could have tried contacting her family and let them know she was going through a complicated pregnancy.

Originally posted by: yellomellow

Completely agree Abhir is the best parts of them. I meant Abhir is similar to Abhi in dealing with toxic situations. His bottles up his feelings, investigates on his own, unwavering faith in his mother, prays for a resolution, and then he does what to make others happy.

Abhinav should feel guilt towards Abhir. That's my point. Neither of them thought once about how Abhir would feel about this truth. All that matters to them is that their family is complete. Abhi didn't live with them for six years. He can't be responsible for their own disinterest in their own "son."

Abhinav did worse than judge him. He lied to him, pretended to be his friend, and then used him to get what he wanted whether it was the pooja being successful or Abhir's surgery. Also, Abhinav didn't let him into his home. He had no choice but to accept it because Abhi is his father lol. No matter how much he cries he can't change that fact. Also, who is he to judge anyone? After what he did to a child.

You can't come back and claim something you never gave up in the first place lol. They made the decision for Abhi without his knowledge or his consent and now they are dealing with the consequences. He has no one to blame but himself. Telling the truth complicates lives, but lying doesn't. Okay then.

Originally posted by: chaipaani

Hi Yellomellow,

@bold This is not Abuse. If it was Abhi who has done all this then only it will be called emotional abuse. 🫡

It would also be called SLY manipulation to "lure" people over to his side if Abhi did any of this😆.....but yes, in Akshara's case, it's just her being "protective mom"😆

Like clockwork, Abhi is again being called “manipulative” and “impulsive” for wanting to tell Abhir the truth 😆

Meanwhile Akshara continuing to hide the truth for her own convenience is “maturity” 🤪😆

Akshara is anupama ki first original photocopy

1)Choti wala hairstyle

2)Cringe dancing

3)Giving speech on women empowerment when clearly she should be the last person talking about it

4)False sense of entitlement to poke nose into other's matter

5)False sense of always being right

6)Except her no one can be called माँ

Originally posted by: yellomellow

Abhi is all things evil and bad. Abhi is responsible for global warming, flat tires, traffic, bad hair days, and printer jams. Everything is his fault. Understood.

So, can anyone explain to me why the loving parents don't care about Abhir's feelings? Not any ounce of guilt from Abhinav, a orphan who grew up without a family (excluding the magic family members that appear randomly when it's convenient to the story). He felt bad for an episode then it's back to "mera beta" with absolutely no shame whatsoever lol. When Abhir needed surgery Abhi had do his "duty" as a father for all the years he missed. Did Abhi know he was a father? No, but but logic doesn't matter. Abhi did drop everything to save who he thought was his ex-wife's child with her second husband only to find Abhir was his son much later lol. Emotional support? Abhi was there for him. Medical bills? Abhir paid for them. Life-saving surgery? Abhi performed it. I skipped a few weeks, but I don't remember Abhi signing away his rights as father or giving Abhir up for adoption lol. It's "my son, my wife" with him. All he cares about his "family" being complete. How it happens and whose expense doesn't matter.

I never expect anything from her character because she was always used to prop up other characters. She never had a story or character arc that's why she is easy to manipulate depending what the writers want to show. It was fine before when she wasn't a mother. Now it makes no sense, because why is a mother's first instinct protecting her husband and not her child? Why is her first thought her husband's feelings and not her six year old son? Every single situation she put Abhinav above Abhir. Abhinav can't wear old torn shoes, but Abhir can. Abhinav an adult can't handle the consequences of a lie he willingly participated in and benefited from, but Abhir a child needs to be understanding and not hurt his stepfather's feelings for a lie he had nothing to do with. She altered his entire life and feels nothing about it. The most ridiculous thing about this leap is that she can move on happily with Abhinav and let Abhi be a part of his son's life. Her happy family with Abhinav and Abhir having a relationship with Abhi aren't mutually exclusive. Both can happen at the same time lol.

Neither Akshara or Abhinav thought about how Abhir would feel? Not once did they think from his perspective or how a child would take this news? Abhinav only thinks about himself and she only thinks about her husband's feelings.

I don't think Abhir will hate anyone. Makers basically made him a six year old version of Abhi lol. He will feel sad, shed a few tears, and have his feelings invalidated by everyone then he will do whatever makes everyone else happy. It's obvious this track will end up like all the others, but it's just funny that the "evil" character is the only one to care about Abhir and Ruhi's feelings.

Again, Abhi is selfish and cruel. I can't prove it, but I'm sure he is responsible for the dinosaurs extinction as well. It still doesn't make sense why the loving parents don't care about their "son."

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Originally posted by: LadooCandy

Akshara is anupama ki first original photocopy

1)Choti wala hairstyle

2)Cringe dancing

3)Giving speech on women empowerment when clearly she should be the last person talking about it

4)False sense of entitlement to poke nose into other's matter

5)False sense of always being right

6)Except her no one can be called माँ

Lol yes all this forced gareebi in Kasauli track definitely seems inspired from Anupama

Makers really thought they could suddenly create an Anupama out of rich heiress Akshara? 😆 She does not have the middle class background of Anupama who can still get away with doing sabji ke liye mol bhaav type stuff. Akshara trying to project herself as some paidaishi gareeb is next level comedy.

Anupama still atleast looks the part of Maa. Lol Akshara anyways looks too young to be believable as the mom of a 6 year old and on top of that seeing Maa waale bhaashans from her sounds more laughable 😆…

Makers have messed up by trying to make an Anupama out of Akshara. Doesn’t work for the world of this show 🤷‍♀️

Actually, to me she does look convincing because in real I have seen girls who appear young but are mother as well . And in television industry actresses at the same age and even younger have played the role of mother .

16-17 year old girls play the role of love interests to men which I don't like , but that's what it is in itv , pranali is 26 , she is fine for the role

Originally posted by: LadooCandy

Actually, to me she does look convincing because in real I have seen girls who appear young but turn out to be mother as well . And in television industry actresses at the same age and even younger have played the role of mother .

16-17 year old girls play the role of love interests to men which I don't like , but that's what it is in itv , pranali is 26 , she is fine for the role

I thought she was 23.

Anyways, I don’t find her mannerisms as a mother very convincing in terms of acting. She has a way of waving around her hand that looks put on or maybe that’s a Mrs. Sharma thing 🤷‍♀️. She ends up looking like his elder sister more than his mom, especially ever since they’ve reduced the heavy kaajal in her eyes. She looked older with that 😆

I understand there can be very young looking mothers but in Akshara’s case they hardly show her with her son that much other than worrying about how Nav needs him 🤷‍♀️…..so she ends up looking like a guest in her son’s life rather than being deeply attached to him.