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Originally posted by: Lostin90s

Don’t worry Ak had ample time to check his nature and character during her pregnancy and see she never had to regret her decision.😇

My point is this if a guy has no background means being an orphan is not a problem and I have respect for everyone. But a stranger without any background what if he is a criminal on the run?how safe is it marrying him on a short notice even if its after 6 months of meeting him? 😊

Originally posted by: NoraSM

In real life, any woman would go back to her family, she doesn't have to live with them if she doesn't want to, she has a huge amount of inheritance to her name from her mother, grandmother etc, she comes from a family of generational wealth. She could have moved to another city and delivered her child there, met Abhinav and could have married him for love

Running away from family when you are pregnant, risking your child's life again and again, the fact that she didn't even have proper vehicle to reach a hospital tells you about the life she chose for herself. They glorify this to an extent that I wanna bang my head because people are prepared for situations like this. She was pregnant, hospital should have been the first thing in her mind 😆

After delivering a child, most women goes through something called postpartum depression. There's a scene in FRIENDS where Rachel agrees to marry Joey because she panicked and didn't think anything through and told Ross that she would have said "YES" to anyone and Ross told her that he doesn't want to be "ANYONE". One has to understand psychology of a woman who is in that situation, Abhinav took advantage of the situation knowingly or unknowingly and got a family for himself which he always wanted. He is benefactor of the situation not a victim. His life changed from working in a tourist company to owning one, having a wife and a child to come home to, someone to call your own and live a happy life with them.

This is what I meant.

Also, i am not even talking about those 7 months yeh woh.

Just why would a person starts to Live with an unknown person. If how bad her family is like everyone is saying - i agree to that

Why is she like letting Muskan marry into that family.

Why this much of hypocrisy

Originally posted by: focus7

In real life , Are we all new to the concept of arranged marriage where the girl meets a guy once and gets married or they get to interact for a month and then they get married.

In comparison, Akshara got nearly 7 months to gauge the character of abhinav before she got married.in no point did abhinav stop Akshara from reuniting with her family. Is it so hard to understand this?

Hard to understand is the fact that i am no where questioning Abhinav? Who is he? Why should he decide?

I am asking a simple question why Akshara didn't go to her family and if her family is so bad why letting muskan marry into that insensitive family.

Why this hypocrisy.

They didn’t just meet six months earlier, they lived together during that duration. If one couldn’t judge the basic nature of a person while living with them for six months, one should rather never enter into a relationship.

Originally posted by: chaipaani

Agreed with your pov. Also thanks for not typing in a passive aggressive way. 😂

@bold This is what I am saying alot these days too. The execution is so bad that I stopped liking Nav too.

I am okay with anything that's going to bring entertainment now.

Originally posted by: Lostin90s

When landlord asked them to move out for living together without getting married, Ak said she would move out then AbN asked her if she didn’t want to live with him that’s alright with him but she had to promise that she would go back to her family as it was dangerous for her to live alone in that condition. And Ak chose to live with AbN and moved to Kasauli.

AbN never held her back and repeatedly asked her to reconcile with her family. It was Ak’s choice to stay with him and as such we have to respect whatever decision she took no matter how irrational or illogical it may seem coz this is Ak’s story whether you like it or not.

Point me out the post where i ask did Abhinav stoped her.

I know this I watched the show. I was supporting Akshara in staying away from her insensitive family but now she is here dancing with them

Full on supporting Muskaan to marry in thr same family she couldn't go back to during the most difficult phase of her life.

What does that mean for Akshara is my question?

Not for abhinav not for abhimanyu or kairav or muskan or aruhi or abhir or ruhi and so on

For Akshara i have this question.

And my post is simple

Marriage ka outcome no one knows but getting married to abhimanyu was sane considering they know his family.

But living with a stranger knowing nothing is plane stupid. He turns out good wow but what if he doesn't.

What's up with this execution is my point here

Hope i made it clear now

Maaykewale usko sir par bitha kar rakhte the jab se pata chala woh pregnant hai. Maayke wale khushi se itne pagal ho gaye the jab pata chala ki Akshara pregnant hai. Akshara bhi khushi khushi maayke gayi thi when she was pregnant and maayke mai sofe par baith kar apni cravings bata rahi thi.

Clearly maaykewale extremely loving and caring the jab woh pregnant thi and waha aati jati thi tab.

Maaykewale Neil ki death ke din bhi extremely caring the akshara ke liye. Akshara ko bade pyar se pakad kar khade the Neil ki body ke paas, akshara ko apne sath ghar le jana chahte the yaha tab bol diya tha unn logo ne.
Neil and babies ki death sequence par sab ke apne apne opinion the lekin kisi bhi maaykewale ne Akshara ko mooh par yeh nahi bola tha ki tumhari wajah se neil ki death hui ya tumhara neil ke death mai bahot bada share hai etc.

She never went back to her family for her personal benefits.

Because usko birla family se dur rehna tha so woh nahi gayi wapas, apna mind change karne ke baad usko abhir ka sach birla family ko nahi pata chalne dena tha so woh nahi gayi wapas , usko Udaipur se dur rehna tha so woh nahi gayi wapas ! Isme goenkas kya kare! Uske dadaji gaye the usko Pathankot lene.

Akshara sirf aur sirf apne personal benefit and reasons ki wajah se maayke wapas nahi gayi thi.

Isme maaykewalo ko kyun bura banana?!

Kuch bacche aise he hote hai, apne personal benefits and choices ki wajah se unko apne gharwalo ke sath nahi rehna hota hai lekin bura apni family ko banate hai sab ke samne khud sympathetic bann kar.

Originally posted by: NoraSM

In real life, any woman would go back to her family, she doesn't have to live with them if she doesn't want to, she has a huge amount of inheritance to her name from her mother, grandmother etc, she comes from a family of generational wealth. She could have moved to another city and delivered her child there, met Abhinav and could have married him for love

Running away from family when you are pregnant, risking your child's life again and again, the fact that she didn't even have proper vehicle to reach a hospital tells you about the life she chose for herself. They glorify this to an extent that I wanna bang my head because people are prepared for situations like this. She was pregnant, hospital should have been the first thing in her mind 😆

After delivering a child, most women goes through something called postpartum depression. There's a scene in FRIENDS where Rachel agrees to marry Joey because she panicked and didn't think anything through and told Ross that she would have said "YES" to anyone and Ross told her that he doesn't want to be "ANYONE". One has to understand psychology of a woman who is in that situation, Abhinav took advantage of the situation knowingly or unknowingly and got a family for himself which he always wanted. He is benefactor of the situation not a victim. His life changed from working in a tourist company to owning one, having a wife and a child to come home to, someone to call your own and live a happy life with them.

Rachel instantly realized her err and backtracked.. If Akshara continued to rely on Abhinav there must have been a reason, then how is Abhinav the one to take advantage? He has always maintained stance to let Akshara and Abhir free if they ever need to go away from him.

My understanding has always been that Akshara did not decide to make him give dad's name out of blue, it did seem well thought decision, no matter how stupid it sounds, but she did get enough evidence before calling him father.

She refused to acknowledge child had father.

She observed Abhinav seeing her sonography images emotionally

He SAVED her child and her. He held on to the baby for good 3 days while she laid weak! He gave her baby back as soon as she was up.

Nurse came by who told Akshara that this was first time where child held dad's kameez and slept...

Personally, I think it was a journey and not a decision based on single event or point!

Rachel - she had all the resources to grow and handle a child but she still stayed with Ross till things went awkward, in India staying in similar way wouldn't be taken too positively, I mean it was bold even in Friends era, but in the show their relationship was already questioned by landlord who asked them to leave and Abhinav was shown to face a lot just to help a stranger.

I still feel writing and execution was pathetic but they did try their best to show that journey!

Let me be romanticist and indulge me - the moment Ak met AbN, she felt an affinity with him which she never felt with anyone. Hence, she didn’t have any hesitation to live with him and once she knew what a gem of man he is, she decided to marry him. Is this good enough a reason?

Originally posted by: Lostin90s

They didn’t just meet six months earlier, they lived together during that duration. If one couldn’t judge the basic nature of a person while living with them for six months, one should rather never enter into a relationship.

While it's true that living together for sometime can reveal a lot about a person's character, it's not always the case. Some individuals are good at concealing their true nature, even under the same roof. Its good being cautious and taking time before jumping to marriage, especially if the person's past is completely unknown. I’m talking in general about marrying strangers not just Nav.it’s my personal opinion.