Originally posted by: jhustju
See this is why I get so triggered. The excuses are oh he called her back the one time, oh he gave her water. It does not make up for the shit that he pulled that day and after that. OK at that moment emotions were heightened but Abhi was still a dr right? He should have known the physical and mental trauma that his wife, the love of his life was going through at that moment? How many of you know how much it hurts to have a miscarriage? I am not talking about the mental pain? I am just talking about the physical pain here? It hurts like crazy. Not to mention the emotional part. Even without anyone reminding you, you are very well aware that your body failed you very badly. Your body could not do the one thing that you wanted it to do the most. Take care of your child. Believe me when a woman goes through a miscarriage they are already beating themselves up very badly. The biggest loss is for the mother, because it is her body that is doing the growing and nurturing. To the father the baby is just an idea but the mother is actually carrying that child. Her pain is much much larger than anyone elses. Here not only was she not getting the emotional and physical support that she needed, they were beating up on her with that fact. On top of that the twins were possibly Akshara's last chance at becoming a mother considering her complications so imagine her pain and trauma at having lost them. If Abhi marries again he can become a father, for Akshara that chance is slim. No one is saying that she did not make a mistake. But the way Abhi treated her that day and after that are unforgiveable. Akshara has always apologized whenever she has made a mistake, you remember how pissed abhi was when Akshara expressing how sorry she was that her relationship caused Manish's heart attack and she apologized for hurting him (Abhi was an idiot to react that way), she apologized when she inadvertently caused Manjari pain by celebrating her anniversary. Abhi still has not said sorry for how he threw her out of his house, his life and made Arohi and Manjari his priorities and cut Akshara out.
The writers really need to show us that Akshara does get that apology. World over mothers have miscarriages and very few people understand that pain or even sympathize. To show that a woman is treated the way Akshara was after her MC and not have her even get an apology is unforgiveable.
i find it absolutely ridiculous when we say that ak s pain is greater because of miscarriage.
yes abhi is at fault for divorce , and EA but that doesnt make her pain greater than abhi who just lost 3 lives because of her decision.
and whats with we dont know miscarriage, yes i have not been married but i have seen preg women who can turn around the whole world just to keep their babies safe , and have also seen women and couples who pray for years to be blessed with a child. and there are unfortunate mothers who go through miscarriages not because of repeated mistakes.
aks miscarriage was not an accident it was a foolish descision of betting 4 lives in which two survived and its not a mistake because she had done it during picnic too. also whats with this narrative of fathers pain of loosing their child is not great as mothers because of physical toil.then can i ask you can you say the same thing about SURROGATE MOTHERS because they dont experience the pain and journey of 9 months but still their love is as great .??.
ak pain apart from divorce and EMA was because of her choices and foolish bravery . which could have been avoided.
comparing it with miscarriages of real life women who go through hell and regret all their life because even after taking care of everything they suffered. is foolishness. because its not caused by carelessness or foolish bravery.
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