Loving the image vs loving the real

I found it very interesting how differently AbhiM and AbhiN met Akshara.

AbhiM heard her voice first and fell in love with that, followed by her looks. It was love at first site for him. Just based on her voice and looks, he created an image of Akshara. Alas! After he started knowing her more, he realized she has many qualities and values that don't fit the image he has of her. AbhiM started using all the weapons he had to shape Akshara into Akshara of his imagination, be it by yelling at her, abandoning her or divorcing her. He was never in love with Akshara as she is but the image of Akshara that he has. If she comes back to him, the process of him shaping her to fit his image of her's will continue suffocating her at every nook and corner of life. Akshara has named it aptly, ' Umarkaid'

AbhiN on the contrary met Akshara as a human being in need. I loved that there was no other emotion from AbhiN's side for Akshara. Only deep concern for her and her baby having to live without family just like him. Even when Abhir was born, he was straightforward enough to tell her than he feels connection with Abhir more than her. AbhiN gets to know Akshara as she is as they spends 6 years coparenting. Knows her flaws, her vulnerabilities and has still fallen in love with her.That is real love as I see it, required for sailing through the ocean of life together.

I know.. realistically.. it should be a beautiful love story.. A realistic nice mature love story..

But Abhira represents.. soul love.. twin flames.. true love..

For ITV and any other forms.. these kind of love gets more audience.

Agreed. I am too a character and story shipper than couple shipper.

It really depends on what kind of love you want. I do not agree with Abhi's love being like umar kaid, I really feel like that is something Ak said just to hurt Abhi. The thing is, everything from the first year is now being reevaluated and reimagined in a bad light. If you actually go and watch those episodes again with an open mind, maybe you can capture the feel of those moments again.

Love at first sight is beautiful but difficult and uncertain and requires a lot of faith. Of course, it also happens without fully knowing the other person. This does not mean that you are in love with an idea of the person. It's just that you love them despite knowing nothing much about them, and you want to learn. Abhi did do this and had a lot of faith in the concept of love itself. His whole idea was that he loves Ak, and that should be enough, he should be enough for her. Ak did not have faith in their love because, yes, it is all about faith. She gave a higher priority to her old relations, which is nothing wrong. At the end of the day, Abhira chose each other, imagined a life with each other, had dreams and wishes, and fought for their love whenever they could.

Their problems were like any young couple's problems, minus all the tragedies. The tragedies tested their love, and they failed because, honestly, they had no time to develop their relationship. Both were at fault during both the leaps/ divorce tracks. They both loved each other, but it's not enough to love someone, you also need to understand them. They never could understand each other because they never got a chance. Each time, there was a huge tragedy, and they were separated.

Ak-Nav, I am honestly baffled by. First, I have no issue with the slow-burning deep sort of love. But that usually happens when a friendship already exists and evolves into something more. That is not what happened here. As it is shown, Navshu co-existed for six years and managed the household and Abhir's upbringing together, but that is all. They weren't shown as being friends or even confidantes after six years. Does it take that long to be comfortable with someone and to allow them into your life? Even Nav was forced into the realization that he love Ak after six years by Neelamma for making the family permanent.

And you are saying that Nav fell in love with Ak after knowing her faults and everything, so it's a lot better. But how exactly does he know Ak? Ak kept everything about herself guarded from him. Never told him about her past or her anything, really. I am not just talking about Abhi, she never had any conversations with him about her family or about how she used to love music or anything. He only knows the version of Ak, who is angry at Abhi, and that anger defines her. In his view, he loves her not for who she is but for how she has made his life. If you listen to his monologues when he was in "love".

Abhira were in love with each other, despite being different people. Abhi liked a lot about Ak beyond just her music. Ak also liked a lot about Abhi beyond just his love for her. They were terrible together, and always hurt one another. But they liked each other despite that and still wanted to be together.

Nav likes Ak because she is what allowed him to have a family and the life he always wanted. Ak likes Nav because he allowed her to be free of the accusations and blames in Udaipur and gave her a safe haven without judgement. They like how they feel with each other, not each other.

O pl let's stop the soul love rant . It's not applicable for any itv couple .

Abhinav acted out of humanity ..he was selflessly caring and giving , that's what attracted akshu most bec she too is very much like him ...so even it's not passionate types I'm fine with it bec it comes with a lot of comfort , mutual respect and understanding ...

Akshu and abhimanyus love was teenage types..it was more of a crush which ended up in marriage n ended badly ..its not unusual , girls fall for such guys who show a little interest in them..and abhimanyu toh was head over heels like , Janam janam ke pyar ke promises ke saath he started this journey..I have no interest in watching the separations and reunions when the base itself is so weak.

I agree akshu was like a mirage to abhimanyu ..the perfect image of a woman is his mother , he looks for it in everyone..the trauma of Watching his mother suffer all these years has made manjari his top priority. He wants to keep her happy and nothing else matters....it's a deep rooted problem and abhira can never be seen separately without manjari ..otherwise akshu is not the type of girl who would have a failed marriage to her credit ..

Given a chance and everything is hunky dory , abhimanyu and akshu will have a great marriage..its not necessary ... Like I said many times situations keep changing but people don't....their basic nature stays the same..abhinav , even if he is impulsive at times will revert to his og nature and akshu to hers

Originally posted by: Krinya

O pl let's stop the soul love rant . It's not applicable for any itv couple .

Abhinav acted out of humanity ..he was selflessly caring and giving , that's what attracted akshu most bec she too is very much like him ...so even it's not passionate types I'm fine with it bec it comes with a lot of comfort , mutual respect and understanding ...

Akshu and abhimanyus love was teenage types..it was more of a crush which ended up in marriage n ended badly ..its not unusual , girls fall for such guys who show a little interest in them..and abhimanyu toh was head over heels like , Janam janam ke pyar ke promises ke saath he started this journey..I have no interest in watching the separations and reunions when the base itself is so weak.

I agree akshu was like a mirage to abhimanyu ..the perfect image of a woman is his mother , he looks for it in everyone..the trauma of Watching his mother suffer all these years has made manjari his top priority. He wants to keep her happy and nothing else matters....it's a deep rooted problem and abhira can never be seen separately without manjari ..otherwise akshu is not the type of girl who would have a failed marriage to her credit ..

Given a chance and everything is hunky dory , abhimanyu and akshu will have a great marriage..its not necessary ... Like I said many times situations keep changing but people don't....their basic nature stays the same..abhinav , even if he is impulsive at times will revert to his og nature and akshu to his.

abhinav characters is not humanity type ,which is done humanity sake,does not be mentioned again and again to guilt trip people or remind them each and every thing one does where abhinav remind every details what all he did for akshara or abhir

Originally posted by: sweta2005

abhinav characters is not humanity type ,which is done humanity sake,does not be mentioned again and again to guilt trip people or remind them each and every thing one does where abhinav remind every details what all he did for akshara or abhir

Why is anyone getting guilt tripped ? 😆Bec they did something to feel guilty ? Like manjari guilt trips akshu everytime , it was akshus mistake after all..

If abhimanyu acts entitled , he must be reminded of his mistake too and if he feels guilty it's a good trait. Only the heartless never feel guilty .

Abhinav is plainly stating the facts

Originally posted by: Krinya

Why is anyone getting guilt tripped ? 😆Bec they did something to feel guilty ? Like manjari guilt trips akshu everytime , it was akshus mistake after all..

If abhimanyu acts entitled , he must be reminded of his mistake too and if he feels guilty it's a good trait. Only the heartless never feel guilty .

Abhinav is plainly stating the facts

Abhinav is just self praising every time,if one doesnt agree self victimise himself like to akshara,main gareeb hoon,main aapke layak nahin hoon ,main langoor hoon just like male version of arohi

People can interpret him differently. For me, I do not feel, he plays a victim. He very comfortably stated that he is a guide, in front of Birlas. He knows who he is, hence simply states facts.