these illicit relationships and the boundaries of whats acceptable, morally correct is so grey. In my head i have a black and white but reading all this makes it seem like to people, many things are acceptable to others. I cant really understand it. I can buy that people lose track of "appropriate" conduct when they experience love, lust, passion. but its tricky to think about what's legally acceptable or not. And what we as society sanction as acceptable. On the one hand people dont bat an eyelid also about multiple heterosexual relationships but people have a huge problem with same sex relationships even if its one of full commitment. And why is there a religious color to all this. the laws pertaining something like this should ideally be same. Marriage has a religious significance- yes but more than that its a legally binding agreement. Varna people could just live in with each other or with multiple people and leave when they have issues. why to create a legal document of marriage certificate and submit spouse name as dependent everywhere! and why arent some of the laws change to reflect changes in society. In some religions and also in olden times in general they may have permitted more than one wife but not the other way around because at that time men were earning and women were financially fully dependent on men so such a unilateral rule was perhaps ok. Also it was about king having multiple progeny from a lot of women so that there would always be a claimant to the throne even if some calamity struck. but now times have drastically changed so how is it cool to follow those rules anymore and how is it only selectively used. Even in hindu religion, maharajas who used to have multiple wives- Like King Dasharath had more than 1 wife but Lord Ram had only one wife. Several gods are also depicted as having multiple wives. but the present day law is only applicable selectively. aisa kaise.
Also I guess I am really idealistic but to me the whole aspect of being involved with multiple people is just wrong. people can have more than one partner but not at the same time. thats just disrespectful.
The way i think of marriage is like a full time job. You can only work one job at a time. And to take a new job officially, you can interview with other organizations but you can officially be employed there only after you resign from the first job. And theres due process to follow for that, you need to serve a notice period but for the most part its hassle free. Rarely your first job will compromise or adjust to match the other job and coax you to stay but mostly they will let you go.
Edited by Nja91 - 2 years ago
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