Virat is hated just because of Sai and her being the FL and the way her side is presented that's it otherwise even fictional practicality doesn't allow this.
Sorry for the late response. Many hate Virat because of the way he behaves. Not because of Sai. Yes, he gets irked with her when she does not listen to him even if he is right. Sai is partly responsible for people hating Virat, but not fully. On most occasions, people hated Virat for his misbehavior what Sai. Tbh, I didn't like Sai when she pointed out fingers at Virat's character in the Shruti track. But then even Virat did the same when Ajinkya entered their bedroom to share the notes with Sai. He didn't enter by himself. It was because of Pakhi's insistence.
That's what I have said na you also had other options to term her only as PL or pakhi but why this ex factor came specially when you were dealing with the day when pakhi was being bailed out, just to tease Virat just because Sai and Karishma started using this term you should not be following this because of hate for Virat because Virat's only love was and will always be Sai and he is extremely loyal wrt love to her what if I will always address jagtap as her lover not even ex , will it seem morally correct to term the couple who have been separated not because of divorce but their marriage becoming void by law and because of Sai's decision to not return home if you are sensitive towards Sai's end wrt to her self respect then you should or you must also address this things when it comes to Virat just because Virat didn't get offended in all these scenarios, Sai even no one has a right to abuse him on a relationship pre marriage this is what the scenario is.
I am not the only person to say ex. Many people in the forum say that. Even in YT, I see in the comment section naming Virakhi as devar-bhabhi. Yes, Sai and Karishma used that term, but they copied from those comments. If anyone terms them as past devar bhabhi, I don't think they are wrong. It is not only Virat, but the whole Chavan men have that trait of sidelining their wives before their Vahini. Even Ninad used to support Vahini against Ashwini before Sairat helped them to patch up. Virat could not do that all these years. If her in-laws are together in mind and heart, Sai's efforts were more. Even Omi gave more importance to Kaku, but Sonali supported her husband because she wanted to be in her Vahini's good books. Jagtap was neither Sai's lover nor her ex, but Virat and Pakhi were in love when they were on a yoga retreat. Sai never had a past like Virat and she too was loyal to him, regardless of their argument, the difference of opinion, etc. I don't understand why you say that I am sensitive about Sai. But if I tell you that you are sensitive about Virat, you will react the same way as me. Sai left home because no one thought from her viewpoint.
So what about this that all what they did was with the impression of Sai was no more and whatever Sai did was being conscious about everything and then also rooted for misunderstandings ,ma'am it's just like I am not the one who likes pakhi, no not at all but at the same time I am the guy with mentality of rating things as they are what I get disappointed about is that you hated pakhi that's ok but why are you hating her now also, she is not a material to be used at all whatever she did she paid for it in 7-8 years leap she was just a slave in that family and that's why family started loving her later she is just a mother though being a boy I can sense this all but what about other ladies ,it's not about punishing someone for me infact that person should change and be guilty that's it and that's why I somewhere pity Pakhi, whoever she was you can't change the fact that a time came when she started loving Samrat and they were happy together but his husband died then pakhi's present situation that in an accident she got in a situation when her uterus was removed and she will never be able to be mother of her own child and she is having only adopted child Vinayak now, who really loves her and this is fact that PL is more than a sagi mother to Vinayak but Sai also wants monopoly over him and if you believe me or not everytime something like these major incidents happened the reason though indirectly was Sai , I am not saying Sai did it with bad intension but these are those pains that overshadows all those realities and everytime you don't need to be wrong for being wrong ,you just need to be in association of that that's it, just like how in Kamal sir's death Virat was so badly balmed by Sai though he also cried for him and he also had deep connection with Kamal sir but he accepted that and Sai was too bad mouth there, this is what I am saying I am not saying Pakhi was right and Sai was wrong and nothing conclusive like like this but many times situations was neutral for pakhi where she did nothing wrong but she faced this type of pains infact if you will consider Virat's case also, Sai also break promise of expecting anything from him and also started loving Virat though she was like our marriage is deal, this somehow is right in my eyes because a husband and wife is allowed to love each other whatever is the condition but you knew everything about Pakhi's feelings but never tried to handle her this side with those bold plans she used to take for others, infact Sai was like why are you crossing your lines Pakhi when her own name wasn't Sai Virat Chavan but Sai Kamal Joshi and she hesitated whenever she was associated with Virat as his wife there are many dimensions as well as layers of Sai also that needed to be somehow understood if not blamed directly but it was always ignored just because pakhi had a negative past pls atleast think with this way also you will really get to know this deep insight of this show that if you will compare Pakhi's pain with Sai it is really almost same or even more but point to be noted is that whenever Pakhi had all those experiences in her life she didn't deserve that but in Sai's condition it was all somehow because of her own decisions or someone associated with him or destiny also.....
Sir, Pakhi was good as long as she was sure Sai would not enter CN again. Whatever Pakhi did in that 7-8 years leap does not change the fact that she was obsessed with Virat. It does not change the fact that she forcefully became a surrogate mother of Vinayak. Yes, Pakhi is getting back what she did. It clearly says you cannot build your house on other women's ruins. Sai wanted to tell Vinayak properly that she was his real mother. That's why she took him privately to say to him, but Pakhi came in between and spoilt it. It is not only Sai doing monopoly; even Pakhi is doing the same.
Pakhi went to the extent of not even sending Vinayak to school because of her insecurity. She insisted Virat accept the transfer because she wanted to have Virat and Vinayak. She also went to the extent of taking Vinayak, to Mumbai, much against the wishes of the family. Just as Pakhi blamed Sai for Samrat's death, Virat blamed her for Samrat's death on the day she left CN. Virat was the first to say that his marriage with Sai was a deal and he loved Pakhi. He told her that she should not expect a husband's love from him. Sai kept telling him their relationship was a deal because he consistently enforced his right over her. The Chavans never accepted her as a bahu but wanted her to do all household chores while going to college.
In the same way, Virat only enforced his right over her in the initial stages but never expressed his love for her. It was only his friend and Ashwini who made Virat realize his love for Sai. Yes, Pakhi began to love Samrat, but it was on compromise. Samrat was always a second choice for Pakhi. Virat was her first choice.
Similarly, Pakhi was Virat's first choice, and Sai was his second choice. Pakhi returned to her obsession after Samrat's death and gave bad dua to Sai, which caused her miscarriage. Pakhi had all these experiences, but one cannot deny it was her choice. Pakhi always knew that Virat loved Sai, but she wanted to have him at any cost and never even realized whether it would be helpful to her.
Who said that she need to be quiet ma'am I have already said in my message that it was wrong from elders side for that behaviour towards Sai but at the same time Sai's behaviour wasn't like she deserves sympathy but some gyaan to handle the situation which she never asked nor accepted ,you are not a kid you are an adult and this personality is not at all tolerable that's what I said why you put those stuffs that are already cleared, infact whenever Virat scolded Sai for this behaviour she really crossed lines there and if you will talk about what I wanted from her in that situation is that she should have atleast be silent when they are doing whatever or whoever they are and let this side of them get opened to Virat when they would have started crossing lines this would have taken care of both Sai's manner wala point but also at the same time their opposing end as everyone knows Virat and his anger when he founds reality and in association with the love for Sai how he reacts that could have been the best possibility for both of them but instead Sai was like this is my starting point and there is my destination and in this course let's forget about process and journey and specially who Virat is for me this hurted me the most infact the reason for all that she should not be 10 on 1 with elders atleast they are right in their place in some sense that they got you as their daughter in law when they expected much from Virat's end and his wife but they got this, atleast you should have shown some maturity and not shown that stubborn attitude of not accepting anything from Virat's end, he was ready to teach you or do any other arrangements but she was like this is who am I and I will be this always that's what I found wrong.
The elders disliked Sai for no reason. If Sai behaved severely with them, even if they misbehaved with her. Just because they are elders, it does not give them a license to act in any way with the youngsters. Yes, Virat scolded Sai when she crossed her limits, but Sai accepted her mistake. But he also confronted Kaku and others for misbehaving with Sai. If Sai needs gyaan to handle that situation, then I will say that it is all said than done. Any woman in her place will find handling that toxic environment and jerky family challenging. Pakhi never behaved that way because the family pampered her. But the day Kaku accepted Sairat's relationship and confronted Pakhi for breaking Savi's nameplate, Pakhi called for women's welfare, saying she got oppressed by BK. Times have changed. It is not a golden age or silver age or even the copper age that people respect elders regardless of whether they are good or bad. It is a give-and-take policy. Give respect and take respect.
I answered it the way it should have been dealt above and what matters is that Virat was always there for her and that mattered the most in front of her, every barrier in Sai's path didn't belong to Sai infact it was Virat's problem first that's how Virat was.
Sir, that is all fine, but even after Sai brought Pakhi's misdeeds to light, Virat didn't take a stand for Sai. He started insulting her. Virat called her an orphan and whatnot? That is more important. He never understood from Sai's viewpoint. After that bus accident, Virat was guilty of not stopping Sai from leaving CN by taking a stand for her. Even during Sairat's hug in the cafe, Virat agreed with Sai that he should have taken a stand for her.
This is not even a question when Virat is there.
Whatever Virat did I don't know whether others noticed it or not, he didn't even reacted the way a normal guy would have reacted in his place ,infact because of his love for Sai he showed pity and even apologized to her not because he was wrong because Sai was his love and somewhere for his negativities and Sai's emotional side made him do that, I am not saying everytime.
My first question is that did Sai allow him to get to that point of what to do with this mess infact she was so quick with his bold decisions to take away vinayak without feeling once for Virat that she didn't see what Virat would have taken actions against Pakhi and everything and if talked about living in a nuclear family was nor Sai's intension neither Virat's ofcourse his family is his life and why he should leave because of the deeds of one family member and Virat also addressed this as far as I remember ma'am he said one of the best and the most underrated lines there is that
Rishto ki dorr itni kamjor nhi hoti Sai ki kisi ek sadasya ki gakti se wo tut jaaye correct me if I am wrong here but this hit me hard that Virat is not like mera bachcha mera bachcha he was always humara and though being in that state of shock he didn't only prioritised the father inside him but also family's reputation he wanted to deal with both the issues but Sai was too emotional there from my POV.
Virat did have a chance. He should have taken the initiative and told Sai that he would also join her and Vinayak. But he did not do that. When Pakhi goes to jail, it is the family's reputation but doesn't; throwing a bahu out of the house in the middle of the night does not affect the family's reputation. Even Sai was saying humara bachcha.
Ma'am you took it wrong I didn't say about what Sai did when jagtap came second time but during leap period and after leap also I said that because you said Virat always chose family over law and for that I had given a valid reason which is understandable and countering to it I have just taken up this hypocrite side of Sai where for her Jagtap wasn't a criminal that she didn't file a case against him because he was a murderer and the least possible punishment is lifetime imprisonment infact he would have hanged but she didn't take any action against him infact somehow being actionless she allowed jagtap in her life and specially with savi when at the same time her father Virat was trying to kill him in this belief that Sai and Vinu died, infact he was being deprived by his daughter's awaited childhood because of Sai ,this is what I said but what you had taken it ma'am I am not showing love towards Virat if you will gonna see you are not even able to address this phase or side that also exists, it means you never thought in this way, sorry but it's truth.....
Yes, he chose family over the law, not on one but two occasions. The first occasion was in Pulkit-Devyani's marriage, where Omi bribed the clerk to tell Virat that Pulkit married Madhuri. Even after knowing the truth, Virat only got miffed at Omi but didn't take any action against BK, Pakhi, Ninad, and Omi. The second one was bailing Pakhi out. It was not Sai who allowed Jagtap; it was her Usha maasi who allowed Jagtap. Just as you hated the previous Pakhi, I hated the previous Jagtap. Only at a later stage, Sai allowed Jagtap because he came out clean.
In marriage there is bride and a groom and in most of the marriages wives compromise sacrifice, etc but in Sairat's case it was only groom who has taken a lot of efforts and nothing from Sai's side and it was Sai's personality and the way she used to react that lead to most of the disturbances between them.
If Sai never compromised, is Pakhi any better? Virat never wanted Sai to treat Vinayak, but Pakhi kept contacting Sai to treat Vinayak for the latter's happiness. Pakhi kept manipulating Virat.
Firstly as you said that Virat needed to perform that for his tai ,as you know that Virat didn't knew anything about Pulkit and Devi tai's history and the only source that remained for him to be authentic and should be blindly followed was what his elders would have spoken and that's what he did and just tell me ma'am if I will be taking what majorly happened there wrt to Virat's end is that Virat only encountered Pulkit and Devi's meeting and them crying then Virat supported there when he got to know that they loved each other once and the chavan family didn't support their marriage just because Pulkit had no identity but only being the son of one of their servant, nothing else was exposed there, but just this, pulkit was like I will gonna bring baarat the way we wanted to marry devi and then all that drama happened from which Virat was totally unaware, Sai only took that to herself and when he came he got the news that Pulkit didn't come for devi tai and she felt betrayed and then all the elders and that fake evidences and just tell me ma'am why Virat- a brother will not be angry when he was in a state of being informed all bad towards Pulkit by his elders specially the mother of devi tai and he didn't come because he was being afraid about being exposed and when Virat further investigated he found in the register of the college as madhuri his wife in his profile and when he visited his house other ladies of the chawl was like I don't know what is there between Madhuri and Pulkit when they were residing from years together having a relationship that is not acceptable in front of society and then harini called her ma and all that, after all these Virat concluded that no one will now gonna discuss anything about that man and family supported him that he just wanted to take revenge from them about whatever they did with him by using devi, if it was clear that Virat is not showing any further interest and definitely why he will when this is the scenario ,why Sai planned a marriage of devi tai behind his back when she is mentally ill and was not able to take her own decisions during Holi when Virat was intoxicated and wanted him to understand when really his mentally ill sister's marriage was going on behind her and they were doing pheras this is where you want him to understand with this side and she was like if I will get back home and discuss with Virat he will gonna understand and see the further things but how??? Really I was amazed that you did what you find right and never understood what Virat's end is ,infact started showing attitude like if I am right then why I will make you understand what the past was ,just being emotional to whatever Virat said and when that guy really accepted your long time awaited proposal that you were always like
if you will be like this Virat sir I will leave home
then just leave ...... Virat accepted your application
that's what Virat did for me, he was totally right there and when he investigated after that he got to know the reality that his family was there behind all this and Pulkit wasn't that guy which all witness and evidences concluded that's why he said sorry to Sai, not because he was wrong just because he wasn't right and he also loved Sai when you say that why he investigated later, ma'am in investigation criminal is not considered for witnessing his side you can't just be like if I am right then anything is allowed from my end whether I will be living in a room with a bachelor girl and a daughter and let's forget about society let her call Madhuri ma let's not even find your love for 10years when she was there in the mansion only and specially Sai in the course of destination you should not forget about process aisa to nhi tha ki pulkit bhaga ja rha tha ya phir devi tai but no they all want Virat to write the exam and pass that when he is not even aware about the syllabus this is not how blindly every thing works......
Virat got to know Pulkit-Devyani affair only from Sai. All these years, he never spent time with his tai to find out what she wanted. Sai got Devyani married to Pulkit only after ensuring that he was the right guy for Devi and assumed that all her problems would get solved once she married Pulkit. Yes, Sai got Devyani married to Pulkit against Virat's wishes, but still throwing her out of the house in the middle of the night cannot be justified in any way. He didn't even let her take her luggage, which was too much. @bold Virat first does the wrong, then comes to the same page. If he loved Sai, he would have understood from her viewpoint. Even if I accept that Virat loves Sai, I don't see that he respects her. Virat respects Pakhi more than Sai. He should have done that investigation first before concluding about Pulkit. @bi That is the mistake Virat made. But he admitted that he didn't stop her from leaving by taking a stand for her. Even now, he is guilty. If Sai hid the fact that Savi is their daughter, then even Virat hid it from Sai after knowing that Vinayak was alive and with them.
I am really not able to understand why you are always concluding your messages with the view that I love Virat and not even tackling or eliminating what I have discussed I have always said that I am against Sai not in favour of Virat and I am just putting neutral and Virat's side that also exists but not being highlighted and definitely you want to discuss pls discuss with me what he certainly brought upon himself when I am truly practical and giving a wide range of scope to your understanding to what you see and what really the scene is, you are not even giving an eye towards all these.....
Even I'm not favoring Sai or Virat. I am only putting my views on what I understand. I said that Virat brought these upon himself because he made many wrong decisions and acted impulsively. He said something and did something else. Knowingly or unknowingly, he did injustice to both Sai and Pakhi.
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