There’s two kinds of meet cutes ….
One where u meet the person hoping to take this forward into a romantic relationship (the kind u see on tinder, bumble, rishtas; arranged marriage etc)
One where u meet the person without any such expectations and just organically happen to spend time with them (maybe ur doing a project together, or ur attending a wedding, or ur I the Same class / apartment building) and develop feelings because u like their personality / how they treat u…
In the former, it’s almost impossible to move to the next few dates if u don’t find the partner attractive because the expectation there is a romantic relationship ….the minute u put it in peoples heads that this is their potential spouse/ girlfriend / boyfriend there will be high exactions automatically …cannot just tell them “oh don’t expect too much…”….this process will always give priority to the superficial stuff people put on their profiles because, u don’t have anything else to go by…ofcourse there are people who genuinely click and some magic happens in the first meeting and they want to keep seeing each other …but that’s rare ….
Whereas the latter process is far more organic and people spend time without the burden of expectations …ur not imagining them to be ur spouse or girlfriend from the first meeting itself and are not judging them by those standards …
Edited by pathaka - 2 years ago
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