TERE BIN -Yumna Zaidi-Wahaj Ali DT#5 (Geo) "Mere Saath hi Lagalo, DIL" - Page 27

The reason I say I don’t relate to these two is not because I don’t believe there are people like this. They may be people like this, and probably are. But they are not relatable.

For me, if they are not relatable, unless it’s excellent storytelling which in no way I think this show is, they are not even believable or in the sense I don’t feel for either of them.

I am literally being as superficial towards the show as it is to me. My fascination with Murtasim’s shawl is as metaphorical as you can get.

For someone like me who has grown up for some time in a joint family, brought up by a single mother, lost my fiancé when I was young, had a boyfriend who frankly I was unloading my emotional baggage on, and then rejected his marriage proposal. I can fit a lot of stereotypical stories we see on ITV and Pak TV. I have become very adept in compartmentalizing what I get from shows. I want to be able to enjoy different things from different shows.

For e.g. I am watching currently quite a few shows on TV

Katha Ankahee - I totally believe and feel for the main leads. I don’t know anyone like them but I don’t mind analysing their behavior. I totally relate to some aspects and thoroughly enjoy the office athmosphere for a change.

Kuch Ankahe - I know loads and loads of people like the ones in this show. In fact in many ways, my siblings and family are very similar, this show has my heart. Highly relatable for me.

Mere Ban Jao - Can’t relate to the characters, most of the times, I am wondering what the heck…som situations are not quite believable BUT the storytelling is excellent, the way the characters have been written and portrayed - hit it out of the park. Love to read more analysis of that show.

Lagta hai yeh weekend Mujhe shawl nahi milne vaali

I think Murtasim knows meerab way too well then she knows her self , it’s probably one of reason he was so adamant and said no to marriage, where he says he is saving her from himself ( ahem for himself) and when Anwar says u afraid of Bhagavat from women ? He gives him a stare and walks away . We know the answer Murtasim the man can take meerab as his wife but the khan can’t as she has to be bended to fit into the role which he knows is not what meerab would like.

And on relating to character aren’t those fictional OTT else who in real world dump there child on someone else only to bring her back to family as daughter in law and whixh 21 yrs old will say yes to forced marriage and even if she does will put silly conditions and do men like Murtasim marry girls like meerab to practice celibacy??

Yesterday I saw a dream where Meerab and Murtasim were having a conversation about her law studies. Now i feel, i should stay away from this forum 🤣 This tere bin is getting into my head for no good reason.

Originally posted by: Winterberry

I think Murtasim knows meerab way too well then she knows her self , it’s probably one of reason he was so adamant and said no to marriage, where he says he is saving her from himself ( ahem for himself) and when Anwar says u afraid of Bhagavat from women ? He gives him a stare and walks away . We know the answer Murtasim the man can take meerab as his wife but the khan can’t as she has to be bended to fit into the role which he knows is not what meerab would like.

And on relating to character aren’t those fictional OTT else who in real world dump there child on someone else only to bring her back to family as daughter in law and whixh 21 yrs old will say yes to forced marriage and even if she does will put silly conditions and do men like Murtasim marry girls like meerab to practice celibacy??

You should DM wahaj for Murtasim’s shawl🤣

Originally posted by: Winterberry

I think Murtasim knows meerab way too well then she knows her self , it’s probably one of reason he was so adamant and said no to marriage, where he says he is saving her from himself ( ahem for himself) and when Anwar says u afraid of Bhagavat from women ? He gives him a stare and walks away . We know the answer Murtasim the man can take meerab as his wife but the khan can’t as she has to be bended to fit into the role which he knows is not what meerab would like.

And on relating to character aren’t those fictional OTT else who in real world dump there child on someone else only to bring her back to family as daughter in law and whixh 21 yrs old will say yes to forced marriage and even if she does will put silly conditions and do men like Murtasim marry girls like meerab to practice celibacy??

This is my point, for me to analyze why a certain character is behaving or reacting a certain way, either I must be able to relate to the character OR the story should be so well written for me, that I can feeel for the character. Right now, I don’t.

I don’t feel for Murtasim when he was running everywhere looking for his wife, ..yes I found him really sexy doing it,…but I didn’t “feel” for him. I loved the scene where he took care of his wife by wiping her feet etc, it was lovely. But I was ready to get manipulated cos there was romance attached to it. When he did that whole dialogues about men and women needing each other to complete each other, I laughed all the way to Timbaktu and back, I felt nothing, unless you count uncontrollable mirth. So what I do feel for Murtasim…hmmmm idk….all I know is that he is handsome, he obviously wants his wife to love him and obey him. Is that feeling for him? It’s not!

As for Meerub, I relate to her more for sure, there is the gender bias of course and yes to a large extent, I am the mufat person too.

Do I want them together….for sure…yes….because boss I have totally bought into their manipulation given the cackling chemistry, but do I want ti figure out why each did what they did…then it breaks the chemistry which is the only thing I have bought into.

Originally posted by: Moonks

You should DM wahaj for Murtasim’s shawl🤣

usse voh auction karega for sure!!!

and my bidding will be too low.

Originally posted by: Mari_y

Yesterday I saw a dream where Meerab and Murtasim were having a conversation about her law studies. Now i feel, i should stay away from this forum 🤣 This tere bin is getting into my head for no good reason.

Omg tots you should. The amount of time we are wasting analyzing this …frankly the show doesn’t deserve it.

hum log timepass ka bhi vaat laga rahe hai,

Originally posted by: ABBY_JERAN

And if this story indeed is about a man and how he is balancing everything

Then I would say Alhamdulillah for this change on tv

Coz all we saw on Indian and pak tv was men coming from office for too long now

Let the dynamic shift a bit plz

Also in one of the few threads someone here said it's just wahaj one man show....ladki koi BHI hogi toh chalti

Lol....I strongly disagree to that also

I don't think any XYZ ladki wouldn't been able to bring the fire to meerub

Koi bhi Nahin chalti

That was said by me. I am sorry for that. This was in early days...maybe walima episode time.

And i am happy to say I was very wrong. Yumna has proved me wrong. She brings too much talent to the table not to be valued. 😊😊

Originally posted by: Winterberry

Bang on! Meerab so far has been opposing injustice and fight against outsiders so she she thinks it’s okay to do it publicly . But within family / marriage you don’t do it like that. It’s just not acceptable be it Murtasim or anyone else.

Look back when she goes hitting that maids husband ,no body opposed her but it was the way she handled is what then all went ballastic about. Waqas says u shld hve told me or called police . She says I did but they were late so I took up stick but if u see the scene again it’s maid who first starts the fight and hitting the guy.

Even during wedding also she walks off like that in front of all she could have asked him before too when she says yes to marriage .

Her walima fiasco she says what’s wrong if I danced for my happiness ? I am like wait werent u unhappy with marriage and just yest walked off in front of everyone saying no yo put down some silly contract? And how is anyone suppose to think u didnt do it for revenge purpose ?
And even then he ensure her respect is intact does a nazar Uttarna and hands over but never throws the money, then pulls her out and warns her in private and then immediately cools down when she says it’s her reaboth him and Anwar point out to maa Begum what she did was wrong in private. This is how it happens in all upper and elite classes .

All this Tamasha in front of everyone is more not so classy . Yes she tried to talk in private and he brushes her off so does he deserve this humiliation infront if his propel ? No and this is what she has to learn if she wants to have a say in things she has to cool him before putting her POV she can’t bring on her activist side so harshly and Murtasim if he wants his izzat intact he has to start sharing and communicate more openly with her .

Yeah thats the reason most of audience finding her brat,she is not bratty,actually the way she opposes,muratsim also do with her.

But we all grew up in society and being liberal and progressive still we tend to keep our mouth shut as we are brought up like that where we are taught to voice out opinions but samay aur jagah dekh ke...

But when People see her defying that basic sense of respect we are instilled since childhood to voice out her opinions they term her as bratty which she is not,I'll again say she is not bratty aur ziddi.

Murtasim also opposes her in many things but he does that in walls of their room to which people relate we defy her elders at home,so we don't find big deal out of it.

But Meerab is that way becoz she was brought up like that to voice out her concerns, irrespective of how will it affect her near dear ones,becoz waqas always loved her to the point where he just catered to her demands.So her doing things publicly is also not her mistake.