Originally posted by: Moonks
But I find this drama close to reality, I have seen women’s like MB who always wanted their sons to get married but then don’t want them too close to their wife. Then women like Meerub too exist where to prove that they are right they would do anything, you all are talking about how she is behaving right now, but I couldn’t relate with her before marriage too, I mean why she agreed for the marriage? I understand She had no place to go, but she was shown as an educated girl, she could have gotten a job or a house on her, but then she chose to get married for teaching them all a lesson for god knows what cause if anyone in the show who deserves to be shown the mirror was her parents and Anwar not Murtasim and it would all have made sense if she had run away after saying no, what was the need of the contract? And then Men like Murtasim too exist, they wants their wives to do everything they ask without any question. He has a reason to behave like his words are law cause people around him does what he says, he came from that power so it’s natural for him to expect the same from his wife. He never had people opposing him and when Meerub is doing the same he is refusing to think it in any other way except that she is undermining his authority. And when you are in power, a small no is enough to undermine your authority and power. Just think of it as politically, like in MahaBharat when Yudhishthir was staking the other Pandavas they could have openly said no but they didn’t cause he was the king and if they are refusing to accept his decisions then it would term as rebellion and Murtasim though not in this sense but is still a political head so challenging his decisions in front of entire village only has one meaning that is challenging his authority, his position and no one is going to take it easily. We need to see Murtasim in two light, one as a husband and one as a leader, I don’t know what you all think about him as a husband but there are many instances when he has listened to her, but then what he did in the village instances is purely politics, even though he has used “Izzat ke badle Izzat”, he did what was needs to be done to prevent such further instances and to show that no one can cross him and go on without facing any consequences. They are following feudalism in their village and there words of the lord holds much much more importance than law. Even though we think that marriage should have equality, Meerub would never be Murtasim’s equal in the political sphere. Politic works differently than marriage, they have not whitewashed Murtasim’s character, they have justified it politically.
As someone gave the example of balance of power between the Jodha and Akbar without ruining their character but it was easy for them to show cause Jodha came from political family and she never underestimated Akbar’s authority as king and when she did she faced the consequences. They knew the power both of them holds and respected that fact. And it is clearly written in the description that Murtasim came from power and this power was all about his political position and Meerub was shown as the girl who challenges what she finds wrong, she knows law but in Murtasim’s world his words are law. You can challenge one’s ideology but if you challenge one’s power then there would be consequences. We all are seeing it as only a romantic show but when we take other aspects in consideration the script and characters are not as faulty as we see them.
@B-Yup..thats it,its not regressiveness on his part,its mostly tge way to exist safely and keep his loved ones safe in that kind a society system.
And people here I see that think about things on individual basis they tend to forget that we co-exist in a societ which is driven by certain rules which changes every kilometre,every city,every society,culture,state and country.
They all are not progressive,many of them have flaws and need changes and changes are occuring also continously but that doesn't mean that in present people will not ensure their safety becoz for now it is very very wrong or unjustified in the hope that after some decades it will change.
Muratsim has 2 characters one is of husband and other is of leader to his village people,what he has done was very wrong but think in a way that if leader's wife can get abducted in his presence and bodygurad's than how risky it can get for normal females of his village,he had to ensure their safety and we can clearly saw that poloce has not much say in this feudal system.
Meerab is also right that in this conflict why women are suffering she was thinking more on social change,in frame of possibilities and foremost to protect the one female in front of her.
Murtasim was thinking more about current socuetal norms,what is present situation and safety of many women of his side.
Still in this regressiveness he tries to maintain some justifications,ek teer se do nishane.
Hus problem us he want meerab to liten him without questioning as well as understand him as others do.
But he doesn't get that meerab had no exposure to these things he need to take her in confidence and slowly a day may come where she will trust enough to not question him regarding his leadership decisions.
If you have seen she tend to trust him as husband.So its not like she doesn't trust him,its that she is strange to his political ways and how things work there.
And one more things I want to add,he just doesn't want meerab to respect in front of people,he expected the same from his mother for meerub becoz thats how it is at the end.
There are many things you find wrong is your parents ways becoz of generational gap,you have more broad mind but that doesn't mean you will go on public humiliation to them but at the same time its also parent's job to explain things otherwise it ill surely create conflict between them and us.
Edited by Nephy1 - 2 years ago
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