Is anupama too old to adopt a 6 year old?

I feel we can see anupama negligence of CA in another way too

Women usually do not become a child mother after 40 years usually

As its tough to take care of kids as after 40 all sort of health issue menopause etc starts for women

anupama is too old to mother a 6 year old at 46 years

I mean taking care of 6 year old is no joke at 46 years age for a woman or man too

But woman more so as 80% responsibility of kids lie with them

Fathers responsibility is much lesser towards kid in a patriarchal society so its easy for anuj to say take care or i will be father

But will anuj cook, bathe, dress her up, feed her take her to school take her to susu poti etc as a 6 year old not really. Yes he may do it once in a while not everyday

How did he treat Mukku as a child at 11 years old when parents died? Not that good he left her on own and did not really mother father her much. So whats gaurantee he will become great mother father to CA?

Its a mother whom takes care leaving all office work outside work for a child usually be it india or USA majority times atleast till they are 13 to 16 years old

I have heard many mothers leave high paying corporate job to become teachers etc for child sake

Will any father leave his hi fi career to give time to child never i have never heard anywhere mostly 99% time its mother sacrificing career or taking leave

Fathers on other side give more time to office and only spend play time or watching tv with kids at home

Forget a human child try adopting a puppy or kitten after 25 years when you are working 12 hours a day in office and travel

Its tough to take care of animal babies only who grow up fast in 6 months and become independent and can stay alone by 1 year age

So taking care of human child for 13-15 years till they can be truly independent is no joke

May be that is why anupama neglects CA because she is fed up taking care of er 3 kids last 27 years now take care of another child for 15 more years

Its easy for fathers they hardly do much for children actually

One odd day they may cook or dress them up or drop them to school but mother has to do that 365 days for 15 years non stop

IF anupama is not caring for CA neither is she caring much for pari too after birth you see

Because at 46 years or more you cannot be as active as a 25 year old woman or 35 year old too, health issues start, age starts

Women age faster and have health issues faster than a man usually

Just watch most mothers today they have nanny, maids for kids even when they are 25 or 30 year olds atleast day times if not night or they leave kid in play home 8 hours or 12 hours whenever they work

Anupama may love CA but she cannot be like the 30 year old anupama that she was to her other 3 kids working 18/7 a day

Even anuj must understand may be and appoint lot of maids, nanny to help

Where are GK kaka and Malvika? They could help

GK kaka can leave CA and biring her back in car with driver

Malvika can help in home work of CA and play with her

I mean before grandparents and uncle auntys helped out a lot n prev gen so our parents managed to bring up 2 or 3 kids

Also regarding CA being saamajhdar child, most kids who do not have parents or anyone at home from family turn samajhdar by 7 year old. Watch in a metro city 7 year old cross busy streets and go to shop to buy grocery or pastry alone as parents are at work. At 7-8 years kids whose parents are busy working can heat milk on stove or put clothes in washing machine and wash it. Indeed 7 year olds go and bring 4 year olds from play home in metros to house alone. It may sound unbelievable but this happens even in new york orphan kids or single family kids do all this, even in india mumbai or delhi all this a 7 or 8 year old does or did etc.

No one pampers like anupama did her 3 kids till 25 years or 30 years in big metro city mostly. At 7 years old kids do what 17 year olds do. If ppl think thats making a child big and should not happen, middle class parents do not have luxury like anupama to go to work whenever as owner, they have company rules and boss to adhere too. Yes they keep maids but maid is maid cannot be parent so maids do not bother much where child is ow what it does etc they only bother abut salary not the kids

Happy new year to everyone on forum

Yes I felt that too. The adoption track was rushed. Anupama is in her late 40’s, she just became free of her duties from the Shah House that Anuj put another responsibility on her shoulders of raising a foster child. If Anu was healthy enough to conceive he would have made her pregnant. Something Anuj doesn’t understand how a woman’s body works. I understand he wants Anu to take priority for him, Anu, and CA also and I also agree with Anuj that she shouldn’t have to do everything. This depends on Anu and her alone.

Yes. MAA is 85 years old woman with osteoporosis when it comes to taking care of Anuj and CA, but she is 25 years old athlete when it comes to taking care of the century-old Baa and Bapuji.

Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD

Yes. MAA is 85 years old woman with osteoporosis when it comes to taking care of Anuj and CA, but she is 25 years old athlete when it comes to taking care of the century-old Baa and Bapuji.

😄😃😀

And kinju baby and her santaan. Have you not seen making her drink milk like a small baby, sleeping in her room.

I have not seen any dadi at least around me performing dholida Or dancing like devi aa gayi ho.

Originally posted by: myviewprem

I feel we can see anupama negligence of CA in another way too

Women usually do not become a child mother after 40 years usually

As its tough to take care of kids as after 40 all sort of health issue menopause etc starts for women

anupama is too old to mother a 6 year old at 46 years

I mean taking care of 6 year old is no joke at 46 years age for a woman or man too

But woman more so as 80% responsibility of kids lie with them

Fathers responsibility is much lesser towards kid in a patriarchal society so its easy for anuj to say take care or i will be father

A father who is earning money for kids only lives in other cities without family, does a single chore himself, and comes home after days, weeks, and months, run for their children, their small needs. They don't care about their health.... Really, it's much easy.

But will anuj cook, bathe, dress her up, feed her take her to school take her to susu poti etc as a 6 year old not really. Yes he may do it once in a while not everyday

How did he treat Mukku as a child at 11 years old when parents died? Not that good he left her on own and did not really mother father her much. So whats gaurantee he will become great mother father to CA?

Its a mother whom takes care leaving all office work outside work for a child usually be it india or USA majority times atleast till they are 13 to 16 years old

I have heard many mothers leave high paying corporate job to become teachers etc for child sake

Will any father leave his hi fi career to give time to child never i have never heard anywhere mostly 99% time its mother sacrificing career or taking leave

If they are capable of breast feeding their child then they can also take leave. Or if money is falling from sky.

They also wish they could sit at home and give max time to kids and family.

Time has changed so much. Today, fathers are also contribute in raising a child, even sometimes more than mothers.

My sister in the US for 4 mths, and her husband is taking care of her daughter.

My friend was in training for 2 months and most of the time outside for days

I used to be outside for days, even not off on Saturdays.

It's parents, father or mother takes care, it's on their understanding how do they manage.

Every time, grandparents are not there.

Even mothers go to their maaykas Or trips with their friends or siblings, husbands are there.

Leave cities, towns, in small villages also, husband supports their wives, and help them in the kitchen also.

Jab tak husband ghar aa kar, baby ko dekhte nahi hai, khana nahi banta.

Don't you think, it's a change?

But everything can't be changed in a snap of finger. even Rome was not built in a day.

Fathers on other side give more time to office and only spend play time or watching tv with kids at home

Fathers who spend 3-4 hrs in traveling even spend sleepless nights taking care of small babies.

Forget a human child try adopting a puppy or kitten after 25 years when you are working 12 hours a day in office and travel

Its tough to take care of animal babies only who grow up fast in 6 months and become independent and can stay alone by 1 year age

So taking care of human child for 13-15 years till they can be truly independent is no joke

May be that is why anupama neglects CA because she is fed up taking care of er 3 kids last 27 years now take care of another child for 15 more years

Its easy for fathers they hardly do much for children actually

One odd day they may cook or dress them up or drop them to school but mother has to do that 365 days for 15 years non stop

IF anupama is not caring for CA neither is she caring much for pari too after birth you see

Because at 46 years or more you cannot be as active as a 25 year old woman or 35 year old too, health issues start, age starts

Women age faster and have health issues faster than a man usually

Just watch most mothers today they have nanny, maids for kids even when they are 25 or 30 year olds atleast day times if not night or they leave kid in play home 8 hours or 12 hours whenever they work

Anupama may love CA but she cannot be like the 30 year old anupama that she was to her other 3 kids working 18/7 a day

Even anuj must understand may be and appoint lot of maids, nanny to help

Where are GK kaka and Malvika? They could help

GK kaka can leave CA and biring her back in car with driver

Malvika can help in home work of CA and play with her

I mean before grandparents and uncle auntys helped out a lot n prev gen so our parents managed to bring up 2 or 3 kids

Also regarding CA being saamajhdar child, most kids who do not have parents or anyone at home from family turn samajhdar by 7 year old. Watch in a metro city 7 year old cross busy streets and go to shop to buy grocery or pastry alone as parents are at work. At 7-8 years kids whose parents are busy working can heat milk on stove or put clothes in washing machine and wash it. Indeed 7 year olds go and bring 4 year olds from play home in metros to house alone. It may sound unbelievable but this happens even in new york orphan kids or single family kids do all this, even in india mumbai or delhi all this a 7 or 8 year old does or did etc.

No one pampers like anupama did her 3 kids till 25 years or 30 years in big metro city mostly. At 7 years old kids do what 17 year olds do. If ppl think thats making a child big and should not happen, middle class parents do not have luxury like anupama to go to work whenever as owner, they have company rules and boss to adhere too. Yes they keep maids but maid is maid cannot be parent so maids do not bother much where child is ow what it does etc they only bother abut salary not the kids

Happy new year to everyone on forum

Same to You Dear

On the basis of this serial and Anupama, saying anything is of no use.

These serials are just to make money by pleasing TRP audiences who do not try to come out of their comfort zone; for them, bahu is always victim and bechari , saas, and husbands are evils. ladies who are presentable know English and manage both house and family are cunning and over-smart. it is assumed that working ladies cant be good cooks, they cannot manage the house. For everything, they have maids. And homemakers are less educated or naive, they are meant for household chores. There is no house, not a single house where a maid does not come for mopping, or dishes. Forget about cities, in small towns, women do not do jahdu, pocha, bartan. Not a particular theory is applicable.

Now, in most of the families, the women take decisions, and they are controller. In small towns, you will see women sitting at shops or stalls.

May be, its a small change, we have a long road to go. but women are always not helpless or bali ka bakra everytime.

And in Anupama case, after getting married to Anuj toh bilkul nahi.. If a billionaire family who can hire driver, nanny, cooks, has secured future... if they cannot raise a child and that is a child who is big enough to do her basic work ..toh think about us middle class families, no financial security, little help, marriages also take place at late ages bcoz of so many reasons woh toh baby ka kabhi sochegi hi nahi.

And when she was ready to take full-time responsibility for her grandchild, so what the problem with CA. she does not have a blood relation with that child so CA is not on her priority list

yes, after an age, being preg is risky for both mother and child; there are chances that the baby can have some physical or mental issues. From that point of view, it becomes mandatory to think.

sorry, for long post and not to offend anyone

Is anupama really 46 i skipped most of the first epis by looking at she was in college it looked more like she was 18 when she got married.

She must be somewhere around 44yrs old now. Now i feel post ca track they might also bring track which shows anu being pregnant with anuj's child like badhai ho movie ppl starts tauntig her😊

In real life it might be difficult but on show anyways if not ca anupama would definitely work for kinjal's baby and become shah house unpaid maid. Considering that if she had CA that's much better than just shahs and unke bacche.

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

Is anupama really 46 i skipped most of the first epis by looking at she was in college it looked more like she was 18 when she got married.

She must be somewhere around 44yrs old now. Now i feel post ca track they might also bring track which shows anu being pregnant with anuj's child like badhai ho movie ppl starts tauntig her😊

In real life it might be difficult but on show anyways if not ca anupama would definitely work for kinjal's baby and become shah house unpaid maid. Considering that if she had CA that's much better than just shahs and unke bacche.

shes much more

because they said once toshu is 28 years

If anupama had toshu as a 20 year old pregnaant at 19 years one year after marraige

20+28=48 years old or min 47 years old