Episode discussions # 9 episode 111 pg 147 - Page 68

Arrey sabko jhappi denge toh uss mein ladkiyan bhi honge. Kanika, Anaya bhi toh hein.... Kya pata Vidhi ko jalan honge Kanika se toh nahi par Anaya ko Dev jhappi dega toh jealous ho sakte hai

Originally posted by: Telly_Addict

thats cause Age plays a big role in longevity of relationship.... he saw Satya being loely after his dad died and he doesnt want same to happen to Vidhi....

so adding so much emphasis on Hum Umra is for that reason... so that she wont be lonely if anything happens to him... this all based on jitna main samajh saki aaj ka dev ke emotions ko after one watch... 2-3 baar dekh ke fir kuch nikalta hai to batati hu.

he was sad and gloomy ke wo society se se lad sakta hai par bhagwan se nahi...aur Vidhi ko apne baad akele rehna pade aisa wo katai nahi chahega...

though ye kisi ke satah kabhi bhi ho sakta hai... but still older you are you are more prone to leavig this world sooner than the younger counterpart

thats the thing. Anupreeya wrote a beautiful piece on this

Thanks for the tag. It's not just about death and lonliness afterwards. It's about being old, frail and weak for a good part of your relationship as well. Growing old together is one thing, both are more or less equal in pain and taking care of each other. But here there is a difference. Burden of care will fall on Vidhi after some years and when it's time that she grows old and needs care, Dev won't be there by her side.

Instead of adding any more of my thoughts here, adding excerpts from what I wrote on behalf of Dev (it's an elaborate version of Dev's letter to Vidhi) -

"24 saal ka faasla hai humaare beech...... 24 saal...... Yeh faasla bahut bada hai aur duniya ka koi pyaar isse tai nahin kar sakta......... Aur darta hun ki ek pal ke liye agar iss faasle ko tai kar bhi liya, toh aage chalkar kahin tumhe pachhtawa naa ho.......

Tumhaari umra sirf 21 ki hai abhi....... Dekha hi kya hai tumne zindagi mein....... Shayad tumhe aaj humaare beech yeh umra ka farak naa dikhe, par ye umra ka faasla waqt ke saath badhta jaayega, kam nahin hoga....... Main nahin chahta ki tum apni aadhi zindagi mera khayal rakhne mein bitaa do, aur baaki ki zindagi akelepan mein......... Main jaanta hun tum kya kahogi, "aap toh ekdum fit hain Sir"....... Haan hun, aaj hun, par kab tak reh paunga? 10 saal, 20 saal? Par kabhi toh zindagi ki raftar se haar hi jaunga na? Tab kya hoga? Socha hai? Maine socha hai, bahut socha hai........ Aur isiliye yahi sahi hai ki mere dil mein jo bhi hai, mere dil mein hi dafan rahe, humesha ke liye........ "

But then it's the same present vs future debate all over again. Do you sacrifice such once in a lifetime compatibility and love for the fear of what future might bring, which is unpredictable anyway or do you enjoy the present and prepare for the future (burden will be on Dev here, he needs to keep himself fit and try to be healthy, many people are very healthy at very old ages).

Originally posted by: Nany

Apna bande ko hi Bade sokh he🤣Lips pe to nai touch hua par jo bola na ruka tha vo to he...

Me bol ri hu bht shaitan he dev

Hahaha

Dekh Liya

Jaha iska hath ruka tha, wahi wo lips pe touch bhi Kiya.

Ab ye Vidhi lips se roti hai Kya, ?

Aaj to microscope miss kar gaya.

Originally posted by: Angel_Shweta

Milapini maa ne in dono ki jodi banayi hai toh dono ko saath layegi bhi. Society ko face karne se pehle dono ki soch mein jo fansla hai woh khatam hona chahiye. Dev ke maan ka jo bhi darr hai woh bhi chala jayega, eventually he will give in to his feelings and accept their relationship. Also, in initial promo, it was dev only who has no issues with anything. He even said Jab barish humari umra mein farak na karti hai toh hum kyu karein? ❤️

@BOLD

Very true! Good observation about the promo as well.

And I am so impatient to see his transformation to the promo wala Dev. Hopefully justice kare thoda ismein.

Originally posted by: Geeta06

I can feel dev today.. He was absolutely right at his part..... Dev mature hai to vo aise hi react krega... Jab vidhi se pyaar nhi tha tab bhi vo vidhi k liye itna protective tha.. Ab to he loves her... So ab to vo bilkul bhi nahi chahega ki vidhi ko koi bhi problem ho... Nd ye longevity ka factor sabse pehle aata hai...

Both are acting as per their age... Vidhi bhi bahut ache se handle kr rhi hai... She is still hoping ki one day they both will be together...

@BOLD

Very true! Age and experience is what has made Dev so gloomy about the future and the lack of it has made Vidhi hopeful. Life experience ka impact hota hai insaan par.

Originally posted by: bhshre95

Yeh baat bilkul sahi hai😭 thats the biggest problem with age gap stories. One is bound to be left behind alone😭 unless they are incredibly lucky and the older partner manages to live a long as well as healthy life.

Shayad Dev ne aaj dialogue bhi bola ki ek esa humsafar chuno jo zindagi bhar tumhare saath reh sake. Probably that is his biggest fear even more than society not accepting the relationship that he wouldn't be able to live with her all her life.

@bold- very true!! There is no guarantee that if Vidhi marries a person of her age voh bhi uske saath reh paaye poori zindagi. What if something happens to him in his young age?What if Dev manages to outlive everyone?Life is very unpredictable. Kab kisi kya hojaye kya pata. Life is all about that gamble.

Moreover quality of life also matters. She may want to live a great life with Dev full of happiness for a shorter time than living a long life with a person she might not love.

@RED

Exactly! And the way he loves Vidhi, it's rational to fear this.

@GREEN

Wahi na! Future vs Present ke beech kisko importance dein. The age old debate with no right answer.

Originally posted by: Saumya19

@ bold maine na yeh bahut suna hai ki hum umra hona longevity of relationship ke liye accha hota hai. Dev sir ko kissi shaheed soldier ki wife milavana parega. Ya phir accident, floods, cancer or aaj kal ka latest heart attack. Sach yeh hai ki kon jaane kab kiska number aa jaye aur kyoun aa jaye. To yeh practical Aur logical dono lagta hai par hai chalava.

Mujhe ek aur cheez lagti hai Dev talked about generation gap today. Actually that is a very very risky thing. Kabhi kabhi mere liye meri choti jo cousins bees saal choti unki baton ko samajhna bahut mushkil hota hai. Unki harkatein to More often than not sir ke paar chali jaati hai. Food preferences, dress preferences, living style preferences everything has a gap between me and them. One my cousin proclaimed her self a swifter yesterday. Mujhe laga shayad tez daudti hogi pata chala she was a Taylor swift fan. Jab meri shadi hui thi 2003 mein to 4 lakh per annum Ka package mere husband Ka TCS mein tha kan parta tha par kam chala hi lete they. Meri cousin ne saaf keh diya bhaiya 40 lackh se kamke package wale se shadi nahi ho sakti. Hum umra na mile to ten year bade se byah do par money matters. I was happily surprised at her clarity. I love roses meri niece who is 22 said rose is poor man’s flower. She said mausi rose is more like massy and carnations orchids lilys ets are classy. It was another jhatka flower kab se classy aur massy hone lage.

so sankshep mein generation gap is real , tangible and difficult to navigate.

Having said that I also believe While Debdoes love Vidhi but he feels she is still in the infatuation phase or admiration phase. Aisa mujhe lagta hai I may be entirely wrong.

@RED

Very true! If you watched Kuch Toh Log Kahenge, usme ek disco sequence thha, they tried to show taste and thinking difference due to age gap there.

Yahan toh inmein soch aur taste ka difference hona impossible lag raha hai. Same to same Hain dono ke dono.

@BLUE

Mujhe bhi lagta hai, because as he said today, "Umra ke saath insaan ki soch badalti hai, aage jaake tumhe pachhtawa naa ho"

He thinks that she can get over him with time and that will be best for her.

Originally posted by: Dreamzz

Hahaha

Dekh Liya

Jaha iska hath ruka tha, wahi wo lips pe touch bhi Kiya.

Ab ye Vidhi lips se roti hai Kya, ?

Aaj to microscope miss kar gaya.

Aur Dev babu sab bhool ke aage badne ko keh rhe hai. Haatho pe to control hai nhi dil pe bada hoga.

Originally posted by: Revutty

Yeh kaun see show hai? Iss mein hamari bitiya khatarnak lag rahi hai

I think its Thapki pyar ki 2😆

Originally posted by: Dreamzz

Hahaha

Dekh Liya

Jaha iska hath ruka tha, wahi wo lips pe touch bhi Kiya.

Ab ye Vidhi lips se roti hai Kya, ?

Aaj to microscope miss kar gaya.

Haan maine bhi dekha🤣 twitter pe uss slomo video mein lag raha ki he touched but episode mein lag raha its due to camera angle🤣 lekin anyway him wiping her tears and holding hand itself was not needed after he said sab khatam karte hain☺️🤣 phir bhi voh kia🤪 he is a gone case already 🤣