Originally posted by: Deviant_Pixel
Yeah my main thing with Soundarya with regards to Gautam is she is misleading the narrative.
One thing is to explicitly state that hey this is who I am, I have male friends and I am physically affectionate or whatever, take it or leave it. One example of this would be Hina who was dating in BB11 but was very physically affectionate with both Priyank and Luv. I think that’s fair enough, then it’s upon your potential partner to see what they can handle or what they can’t.
The issue here is Soundarya did not do that. She embraced physical affection with Shalin, but tried to make it seem like she was being hit on and is uncomfortable therefore Shalin is a creep. This is not okay in anyway. You can’t just manipulate situations because you want to retain Gautam as a side piece.
Now that being said, Gautam doesn’t cross the line but also hugs Archana and everyone else which Soundarya doesn’t have an issue with. I would dare to say that if she did the same he might not be okay with it because he clearly doesn’t trust her or has double standards. Similarly he can’t force the person he likes to align with how conservative he is, if she doesn’t he should simply move on but she hasn’t told him clearly to F off and stop policing her.
Bottom line is either stand by your preferences and say it upfront or play the dumb card where in the other party feels you are some damsel who was sexually harassed to put it bluntly.
100 percent! initially, soundarya was enjoying the attention from several guys and had no problem with it. when shalin kissed her or whatever, she was fine but then gautam made an issue out of it so she started speaking negatively about shalin to remove herself from being held accountable in whatever gautam had an issue with. she kept doing it again and again where in front of shalin, she wouldn't say anything but behind his back, she'd complain about how he makes her uncomfortable. i think when shalin had kissed her, she had even gotten upset with gautam for creating an issue and had said to shalu or someone else that her equation with shalin is pure and they are friends, etc. i don't remember thr exact words but this was the gist of what she had said. phir jab shalu ki beizzati hui weekend pe is when she completely flipped and said she was never interested in him but he was interested in her. this is where she went wrong. if someone is genuinely making you uncomf, you need to say it to their face. you can't pretend to be friendly with them to their face and say these things behind their back
second thing is that she hasn't sternly told gautam that this is who she is and he shouldn't try to change her. i don't at all agree with gautam's possessiveness and desi larka mentality and if i were in her place, i'd tell him to buzz off bc who tf are you to haq jatao on me in this way but she hasn't told him to stop or told him to buzz off which makes him think that she may be fine with it :/ if you two have different perspectives and expectations as to how you and your potential partner should behave with other people, it's okay to talk about them which i think gautam did but she didn't do. & if those expectations don't match and you don't wish to change, then you should move on. gautam isn't right but she's not helping her case by not stopping him.
edit - this being said, i don't think the two of them deserved what they got from kjo this weekend. bb is encouraging priankit and shatina k love angles to inko bhi karne do jaise unko thek lag raha hai. don't try to act like you care about soundarya's image when we know that you probs just want gautam to create an angle with someone else lol. & ugh manya disgusts me with the stuff she said to soundarya after kjo left
Edited by vibecheck - 3 years ago