Originally posted by: twerping
So I see it like this...
This decision to divorce I think comes from a different place for Basit. When he had almost raised his hand on Ayesha after she told him of divorce, he had not been as emotionally invested in her as he is now. Following his mother's death, he drew closer to Ayesha and that in itself made him vulnerable in a way completely unfamiliar to him. For someone like him who had been a confirmed bachelor in his heart and soul till now, he suddenly found himself needing this other person, a wife he had hoped to maintain a very polite formal sort of relationship with. She was getting under his skin. This could not have been easy for him to accept and as soon as he found this reason (his belief that Ayesha was cheating on him) to cast her aside, he took it as a lifeline to get back to what he felt to be his comfort zone, being single and independent.
While he could tell Ayesha that he was serious about maintaining the marriage at a time when emotionally he was less invested in the marriage, it became far more difficult to embrace the idea of being married to a woman to who he was increasingly finding himself becoming emotionally attached to in a way he had always believed to be potentially dangerous.
That is why he had quickly decided on the divorce. Then after his talk with Fahad, I guess he had given up the idea of divorcing Ayesha but he found that she was not going to just come back to his life. For a man who had never had to ask twice for something he wanted, it must be very difficult to accept that Ayesha was not going to easily return to him. So the fact that he does not come clean to Mansur uncle and just tell him that I will not divorce Ayesha, it is him trying to save face, protect his ego and his heart from the potential shame and pain of rejection. While earlier he had told Mansur uncle that he did not care about what Ayesha wanted, that the divorce was what he wanted, he now says that he will talk to Ayesha and find out what she wants (his first point of retreat). He tries to get her to say that she was back in his life when they meet to talk at the end of ep 22 but of course, his move of gifting the apartment is a bad one exacerbated by Ayesha's own total loss of hope of ever winning a place in Basit's heart where he cherishes her for who she is. He wants Ayesha to be the one who refuses the divorce so that he doesn't come across as someone who is not firm in his decisions.
And I think Mansur uncle knows and understands this and is actually trying to corner Basit too into admitting that he doesn't want a separation from Ayesha. Basit does have a lot of pride, perhaps not misplaced either. But he must bend a little here if he wants Ayesha back. If Mansur uncle did not bring it up, Basit would have gladly buried the whole thing. But Mansur uncle is doing this because he too must be wishing to make Basit understand that decisions like a divorce could not be taken at the fall of a hat. I mean what guarantee is there that Basit will not do the same thing again if he once again suspects Ayesha of being loose at some future point in time? I mean initially when Mansur uncle first came to see Basit at the hospital he is serious when he says that he will not handle Basit's divorce case and then he sees how Basit is behaving towards Ayesha. Later when he visits Basit at home, he asks if he will send the divorce papers to Ayesha because now he knows that Basit will not be divorcing Ayesha anytime soon.
Anupamaa
