Is Anupama a narcissist?

Firstly, I apologize, I don't mean to do armchair psychology. I am talking about narcissism as a character trait, not a medical disorder.

Why is Anupama so self obssessed? I know the popular opinion on this forum is that Anupama doesn't prioritise Anuj and Choti Anu enough. But today's episode is a testament to the fact that Anupama doesn't prioritise Kinjal.

If my partner cheats on me while I am heavily pregnant and I find out, my emotional state would be so bad that I would require my mom's presence by my side all the time. I am an adult but during times of emotional distress, I need my mom and I want her to prioritise me above all else.

Today, Anupama kept harping about how she is leaving behind her pati and beti to stay at Shah house. She usually comes to Shah house for nonsensical reasons but today, kinjal really needs her. Unfortunately, for Kinjal, Anupama is her pillar of support, not Rakhi. So why is Anupama recounting her sacrifices and how she is so inconvenienced by what's happening?

Coming back to the topic, I don't think Anupama is doing this due to her love for Anuj and Choti Anu. The only thing Anu wants is to feel like she is mahaan, like she is balidan ki murti, and that's why she makes the choices she does.

P.s. am I the only one who thinks MaAn romance is super cringey now? Its the chaudah saal ka nibba-nibbi wala pyaar. Can the makers please show mature, elegant romantic scenes please?

Usko wrong time pe hi yaad aata hai that she is making sacrifices,like u said har 2-3 din mein toh bahaana dhoondti hai to come to SH even if the Shahs don't call her,but when she is really needed she remembers that she is being unfair to CA & Anuj like dude itna hi guilt feel ho raha hai then why stay,tell them u can't stay & go back uske baad se shayad voh bhi nahin bulayenge. About MaAn romance seeing pallu pati onscreen nowadays is enough to irritate me.

Yesterday vanraj come to Kapadia house and urges anupama to come to shah house .when anupama totally refuse to go to shah house remembering what doctor has told anupama about anuj

Then both Anuj and vanraj urges anupama to go to kinjal .vanraj said that he will send samar to care of Anuj in absence of anupama when she will be in shah house

So in Yesterday episode first vanraj come and urges anupama to come out shah house

Even Dolly was saying how can I handle kinjal without anupama

Even kinjal.use to said to anupama during pregnancy ki mummy aap mere saath rahengi na .remember that when kinjal ko doctor ke pass le jana tha to sub kaise anupama se naraaz they ki why she was late

Even when anupama come late during name ceremony baa was scolding anupama why are u late Maine tumse kaha tha na ki subah jaldi aa Jana phir tum Der se kyon aayi tumhe dadi ka farz Nibhana nahi aata

And also rakhi was telling anupama ki promise Karo ki tum meri beti ka saath dogi

Even kinjal was urging anupama to stay with her in labor room

And vanraj Even told anupama ki to take care of kinjal during pregnancy

Yeh baa vanraj khud chahte hai anupama inke Ghar aake saare kaam sabhale magar jub anupama apne man ka karti hai To in sub vanraj baa toshu pakhi ke ego hurt hote hai to kehte hai ki yahan mut aaya Karo

Are bhai khud bhul jaate ho kya khud hi kehte ho anupama se dadi ka farz nahi nibhati ho Maa ka farz nahi nibhati ho jub anupama nibhati hai to kehte ho yahan mut aaya Karo

Yeh baa vanraj toshu pakhi khud hi anupama ka peecha nahi Chodte hai baar baar use shah house bulate hai phir kehte hai ki yahan mut aaya Karo

Anupama is not naracasstic but aise koi baar baar insult karega baduda dega to frustration to jaagega

..if anupama only self obsessed of herself she wou have not take care of shah family for 25 years and even run away from house but use apni chinta naa ki Barabar i rahi aur parivarar ki chinta rahi to parivaar ke liye anupama ne 25 year tuk insult tolerate Kiya and even did not speak word for herself

Yes she is. She was always a self entitled hypocrite selfish lady. The only thing she is concerned about is her Devi image. She neither cares for her husband, nor kids, nor her own mother and brother.

She claims she stayed there for Kinjal but she spend only 5-10 minutes with Kinjal. Most of the time she was busy fighting with Pakhi and Baa to show how right and responsible she is.

She could have taken Kinjal and the baby to SH with her and care for all of them but obviously that would mean leaving Shah house which she can't think of. So she stayed there to show how good a mother she is but kept regretting about leaving her husband behind to show how dutiful a wife she is. She always finds some way to show her supremacy.

Priority is in reverse gear:

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Anupama is don't wan prove herself Mahan but yes usme realy mein sacrifice Kiya Hai yes she is really balidan ki Murti

Agar anupama aisa sochi hai ki ki usme sacrifice kitya o isne usme khuch galat nahi kaha hai

Anupama care of meenu ( her nanad daughter ) along with her three children .Dolly Job karne karne aati thi to woh apne beti ko shah house Ghar mein chod ke jaati thi .anupama has to take care 4 children along with baa bapuji and vanraj

I am glad anupama pointing out towards family that what she is done for family and when she really care did .even after ovarian cancer operation when she need to take rest for 2 month even during cancer and after cancer operation she use to wash utensils and make 50 gobhi ka Parathas for family

To jub anupama ne wakai itni hard work Kiya Hai for family to aise mein anupama agar sabse kehti hai ki Maine parivar ke liye Kiya to then nothing wrong in this .

It is good Jo anupama Har baat pe apne aap ko Doshi maantti thi usne aopni aatprashansa Karni Shura kar diya

Mujhe to lagta hai anupama ki apni aatmprashshansa jyaada se jyaada Karni chahiye ki yeh nahi ki Leela aur pakhi khuch bhi anupama ke baare mein khuch bhi bakwas karte Rahe aur anupama bus apne aap ko Doshi Maan kar chup Rahe?

Originally posted by: Potato_couch

Firstly, I apologize, I don't mean to do armchair psychology. I am talking about narcissism as a character trait, not a medical disorder.

Why is Anupama so self obssessed? I know the popular opinion on this forum is that Anupama doesn't prioritise Anuj and Choti Anu enough. But today's episode is a testament to the fact that Anupama doesn't prioritise Kinjal.

If my partner cheats on me while I am heavily pregnant and I find out, my emotional state would be so bad that I would require my mom's presence by my side all the time. I am an adult but during times of emotional distress, I need my mom and I want her to prioritise me above all else.

Today, Anupama kept harping about how she is leaving behind her pati and beti to stay at Shah house. She usually comes to Shah house for nonsensical reasons but today, kinjal really needs her. Unfortunately, for Kinjal, Anupama is her pillar of support, not Rakhi. So why is Anupama recounting her sacrifices and how she is so inconvenienced by what's happening?

Coming back to the topic, I don't think Anupama is doing this due to her love for Anuj and Choti Anu. The only thing Anu wants is to feel like she is mahaan, like she is balidan ki murti, and that's why she makes the choices she does.

P.s. am I the only one who thinks MaAn romance is super cringey now? Its the chaudah saal ka nibba-nibbi wala pyaar. Can the makers please show mature, elegant romantic scenes please?

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You are not alone 🤣

Mujhe bhi cringe lagta hai i mean thoda mature dekhao ye kya beach par nibbi nabba ki tarah dance kar rahe the

I maan you such a cheesy dialogue

And still some maan fans calls this nibba nibbi romance true love 🤣

She is a self sacrificing martyr devi maa who is the solution to everyone’s problem

So Yes - she is a narcissist

Rakhi is Kinjal’s mom NOT Anupama. PERIOD.

Rakhi needs to be helping Kinjal not Anupama.

Anupama is not narcissit because narcissit only dominate and think of what profits them and can throw anyone under bus

But she definetly loves shahs and if fine even if they murder

whereas for anuj and kapadias there is another set of rules