Originally posted by: Shree15
As people are discussing Ashwini's behaviour, I've slightly different opinion regarding her behaviour and the views regarding Vinu's accident and blame of it on Sai........
Firstly, I am against the normalisation of blaming any particular person for the accident, Accident is called accident for a reason, it doesn't have any intention to cause harm but it happens without the control of situation, here People are discussing that Sai will be or should be guilty when she comes to know about Vinu and his situation but I'm in a view that why should Sai feel guilty or anybody should make her guilty, did she know about the accident, was it in her hands, the Answer is No, here Sai is equally the victim of the situation as the Vinu, she's also Victim, then how can a Victim be accused and why it is normalised.....
I'm slightly differing and talk about a real life situation which I myself saw, one of my friend had a car accident, the driver of the car was his younger cousin and unfortunately his cousin lost the life but my friend survived, now the thing he blamed himself for the accident bcoz it was his car and it was him who asked his cousin to drive, he blamed himself for his death and was in depression for a very longer period, so it's very sensitive, the Accident usually affect the pyche of Survivers, and it's extremely problematic when Accident Survivers are blamed for the death of the Accident deceased or for the situation, they're in guilt that why they survived and hence the care is needed from the family members to let them come out of that zone.........
And coming to the show, it's extremely problematic if makers are setting the narrative to blame Sai for all that happened or if people are thinking that she should be guilty, and also I'm content that she didn't go back to Chavans, coz they are certainly not her family, they would've accused her instead comforting her, she would have been guilt ridden for taking the life of her own son, which was not even in her hands, and that guilt would've certainly killed her and her foetus, so what she did was extremely right, she not only saved her life but Savi's also .....
Now coming to Ashwini, I find her extremely shallow woman with a weak personality and morals, her all the reasons to hate Sai and ask Virat to move on with Pakhi are completely baseless, earlier I was able to understand her pov when leap started but now No, her all actions are Petty and make her heartless human, because the fact the she's still badmouthing and cursing a person, who is not even in the world after so many years of her demise, people generally pray even for their enemies post their death, here she's still cursing Sai, whom she considered her daughter, let's forget her, but Sai, she did consider her a mother figure, and what an insult to that stature.....which mother badmouths their child post her death, and if the reason is Vinu's demise and Virat's condition, then the First person she should hate is Pakhi, she was the major reason behind all this, she should've thrown her out of the house, but no she's all pally with her and hence her reasoning to hate Sai becomes totally shallow, if she would be hating both Pakhi and Sai for creating rucks in her Son's life, then I would sympathize with her and understand her, but not now.....
And what Ashwini as a mother should've done after Sai's presumed death, was to ask Virat to forget all the bad memories with Sai, remember only good times with her, to ask him remember the happiness and contentment she brought rather what she took away, it helps when person is suffering from extreme trauma of someone's death, she should've told him to accept the reality as a call of destiny and God, should've asked him to pray for the peace of his son and his wife's soul that they get contentment in another realm, should've turned him to spirituality, these things sooth the heart and help in lessen the pain of closed one's death but rather what she did, constant blaming and shaming of Sai for taking away Vinu and going away herself, constant crying and screaming and pushing him towards Pakhi who was the main reason for all the fiasco, asking him to forget Sai, these things instead of helping Virat, pained him more, his pain became more sharp, and he stopped opening up to her, coz he certainly didn't like her ways........
So as far my understanding Ashwini is a bad bad mother to Virat, forget Sai, she's not even mother to her, but she wronged her own son, her ways were extremely problematic to deal with his Son's grief and that instead of helping him to recover that grief, that grief became more and more painful to him......
Ps: Sorry for long post 🙃
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