AnupaMaa's misplaced priorities - Page 4

My cousin got paralyzed since he was 5 due to motor bike accident ahd after becoming adult he is still paralyzed not able to speak not even to walk on his own not even food take food on her own

But that doesn't not mean my bua will not attend function will not talk to anybody will not go out side for that time being just because her son is paralyzed

My bua still go out side and attend function

Maine paralyzed person apni aankhon ke samne experience kiya hai

Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD

Anuj ain't paralyzed for a year. It's only a month. With time Anuj will slowly adjust with his condition. But now Anuj is in an extremely vulnerable state mentally. He may not express it but during sickness people desires for safety and security the most. At least Anu can skip some occasions for the next few months as a gesture of basic decency. She can continue celebrating after few months.

This is exactly what they should have done. Then only some dialogues come to play

like Vanraj actually handling all alone without Anupama

Anupama actually not being available when her kids need her like Kavya said

Her kids yearning for her and then realizing her worth

Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD

Life is not heaven. You can not have everything. You have to choose. And Anupama is very lucky. She just have to take care of an extra ordinary human being who has just loved and respected her. Many women are taking care of abusive husbands while also earning for the family. The only thing Anupama requires is staying with Anuj for few days. She does not have to worry about cooking, cleaning, earning. I understand she loves Kinjal way more than Anuj but sometimes love needs to take a back seat and humanity needs to come first. Volunteering to stay with Kinjal in night when she very well knows her husband can not even go to washroom by himself is not only apathetic but also cruel.

Exactly. Many women are taking care of abusivehusband while also earning for family.

Anupama ko itna pyar karne wala pati mila hai ki shaddi hote hi ghar/business sab kuch pure respect ke sath apni biwi ke naam kiya ! Itna pyar ! Secure life! Financial security! After this , the only thing anupama requires is staying with Anuj till his recovery and pausing her social life for some time!

Very well said , it was cruel from anupama when she volunteered herself to stay with kinjal in night when she knows her husband can’t even go to washroom by himself.
As I said anupama is absolutely wrong and should learn to compromise . There is no harm to pause your social life for a time being.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

just because he is paralyzed

Umm excuse me, paralysis is not ‘ just because’ it’s not a joke or minor inconvenience. I have seen my mother’s cousin take care of their paralysed mother for not 1 but 14 years.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

My cousin got paralyzed since he was 5 due to motor bike accident ahd after becoming adult he is still paralyzed not able to speak not even to walk on his own not even food take food on her own

But that doesn't not mean my bua will not attend function will not talk to anybody will not go out side for that time being just because her son is paralyzed

My bua still go out side and attend function

Maine paralyzed person apni aankhon ke samne experience kiya hai

Yaha baat pati-patni ki ho rahi hai and aisi third class wife maine Aj tak nahi dekhi jo apne kal ke uthe, coma se nikle paralysed husband ko chod kar social life jine nikal pade.

Agar pati samne se bole toh bhi koi companion apne kal ke uthe, coma se nikle paralysed pati ko chod kar nahi jayega.

As I said pehli shaddi mu ek tang par khadi thi , dusri shaddi mai compromise ka sochna bhi nahi chahti.

Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD

Anuj ain't paralyzed for a year. It's only a month. With time Anuj will slowly adjust with his condition. But now Anuj is in an extremely vulnerable state mentally. He may not express it but during sickness people desires for safety and security the most. At least Anu can skip some occasions for the next few months as a gesture of basic decency. She can continue celebrating after few months.

Agar husband visibly itni vulnerable mental state mai ho toh koi nahi continue karta apni social life the way anupama is doing.

Very well said . Itna basic decency toh hona chahiye to skip some occasions.

There no decency from Anupama’s side.
Tomorrow they will cover this act by showing Anuj is insisting anupama to go and celebrate function.

Agar Anuj insist kare toh bhi anupama ko apne mann se celebration skip kar dena chahiye.

Well. If anyone from shah house was going through what Anuj is right now, anupama would have showed how one needs to be cared. Its a fact that all of Anupama's fans need to accept and stop defending.

I've cared for bedridden husband and mother in law and yes didn't attend any events for more than a year and offcourse didnt even feel like attending any while my loved ones needed me physically and emotionally.

Poor Anuj was trying to give little Anu a family while he himself doesn't have one yet, even after marrying the love of his life. While he was struggling for life, she was busy defending Mr. Shah in the hospital. That whole pakhi episode was biggest joke.

Vanraj took Anuj to the cliff and she just scolded him for 1 min. While Kapadias are being shamed for something that shah family tells her on a daily basis.

She is not a devi, she needs to be human first.

So just going out 1 hr is means wife is not caring for husband ??

What if anupama has to go dance academy or market ab kya anupama just because he is paralyzed anupama kya dance academy bhi na jaaye aur market bhi na jaaye

Bahut saare kaam hote hai jiske ke liye bahar nikalna hota hai then how is it possible to for anupama not to go outside side even though anuj paralyzed

Without going out side kya koi kaam hona hai.

Maanlo agar anuj aur anupama bilkul akele reh rahe hote to kya anupama kabhi bank nahin jaati kabhi market nahin jaati and I know market bank mein time lag jaata hai to kya anupama kabhi is jagah jaaye na,

Kal ko. Little anu ki parents meeting hoti hai wil not anupama go to school

It is impossible for anupama not to go out side kisi na kisi kaam k wajah se to. Anupama ko bahar nikalna hi hoga even she does not go to. Shah

I can only hope and pray noone else is as cruel as Anupama. My heart cries for Anuj.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

So just going out 1 hr is means wife is not caring for husband ??

What if anupama has to go dance academy or market ab kya anupama just because he is paralyzed anupama kya dance academy bhi na jaaye aur market bhi na jaaye

Bahut saare kaam hote hai jiske ke liye bahar nikalna hota hai then how is it possible to for anupama not to go outside side even though anuj paralyzed

Without going out side kya koi kaam hona hai.

Maanlo agar anuj aur anupama bilkul akele reh rahe hote to kya anupama kabhi bank nahin jaati kabhi market nahin jaati and I know market bank mein time lag jaata hai to kya anupama kabhi is jagah jaaye na,

Kal ko. Little anu ki parents meeting hoti hai wil not anupama go to school

It is impossible for anupama not to go out side kisi na kisi kaam k wajah se to. Anupama ko bahar nikalna hi hoga even she does not go to. Shah

Don't you realize that going to get groceries or going to office to earn livelihood or dropping kids to school is totally different from staying at night with a DIL or attending naming ceremony? Nobody is demanding AnupaMaa to stop living her life. She can eat, sleep, bath, take rest, talk to Shahs via video call or even go out for a stroll for few hours. It's just basic human decency not to celebrate any festival when your dear ones have just come out of coma and stuck in a wheel chair. While her husband is having paralytic attacks, she is enjoying life that too wearing heavy make ups and gajra. Sorry it's extremely insensitive.