Some misunderstanding between Maan - Page 3

Originally posted by: strancho

I am apologizing before only. But if someone thinks MaAn is the definition of an ideal relationship, I hope you do not get into such an ideal relationship. From what I see, MaAn is an example of toxic relationship. And please do not be selective and say that makers ki galti hai and all that. I am analyzing it after considering everything that is shown

I know what it means to be in a toxic relationship and believe me Anuj does more than enough for anupama and Shah family.

Maan atleast trust each other and still have some form of communication.

Toxic relationship was anupama and vanraj

Originally posted by: suhaaana

I know what it means to be in a toxic relationship and believe me Anuj does more than enough for anupama and Shah family.

Maan atleast trust each other and still have some form of communication.

Toxic relationship was anupama and vanraj

AnuRaj was never a relationship. It was just a one-sided transaction from Anupama. I don't doubt MaAn's love and trust for each other. But from where I see, like in AnuRaj where Anupama gave importance to Vanraj and completely molded herself according to him, the same Anuj is doing here. I don't want to get started on his double standards with Shahs and Kapadias. Instead of making Anupama understand about boundaries, he himself is erasing everything. To me, it looks like he dances to her tunes. Where is that Anuj who encouraged Anupama to break the shackles in that bhumi pujan episode? Where is that Anuj who could not tolerate any insult towards his people? Where his anger for what Vanraj did with his sister? Just because vanraj is his wife's kid's father, he forgot everything? How could a man tolerate a guy who tried to use his sister? I have no issues with the kapadias being shown as evil and vile. But what did the Kapadias do that the Shahs didn't. Why I did not see this anger towards them? Even if it was shown, the next day it was like hum saath saath hai.

In all honesty, no man would be as dumb as they are showing Anuj to be. The sept to dec Anuj does exist in real life. But not the current one.

Originally posted by: YoungHeart

Oh yeah of course Anu left her husband who was fighting to his life for 15-20 days and went and chilled with the shahs right? Or did she not spend day in and night personally caring for Anuj when he was in coma and wasn’t responding? Taking care of all of his needs? Bathing, shaving, looking after him, her younger daughter, his business etc and handling his vile relatives etc? Day in and night? Oh of course yeah right… she was out partying and chilling or maybe serving the shahs huh? Was it not Anu who was completely hesitant on inviting shahs or rebuilding the relationship again? Oh yeah it was Anu who called and invited the shahs? Or was it not Anu who was hesitant to leave Anuj and choti Anu today and constantly looked back at Anuj and was in a conundrum.. until she got the approval, then she left. Again with this fd , we are jumping into conclusions. Of course we are. This forum is so so so biased. Why am I even surprised.

I agree people on this forum loveee using Anupama as a scapegoat. I'm going to go out on a whim and say that people seem to find it easier to criticize the female leads than male leads. I've observed it time and time again. No one criticized Anuj for going with Vanraj to talk despite Anu saying not to, or him telling her that they should adopt a child during their honeymoon which was like their second day of marriage? 🤦🏻‍♀️

Originally posted by: suhaaana

Marriage itself is a form of relationship. Anupama and vanraj were married and had children. This is enough to say that they had a relationship. Good or bad or toxic it doesn't matter.

And there are many marriages like Anuraj out there which are carried out just for the sake of society or children.

Yes, there are. And I myself know that very well. And how the abused person feels that I also know very well and can say they don't behave how Anupama behaves. I know this is maker's fault. But we love the character when she does something that is to be applauded. Likewise goes for criticism.

Originally posted by: suhaaana

isn't it what happens in marriage? One partner will have to adjust. It is always expected from a woman/girl to do that adjustment and anupama did that. Now Anuj is doing that for his and Anupama's marriage. I actually find it good that atleast this time Anupama doesn't have to do all the sacrifice. But from how anupama's character is written, she will still have some kind of adjustments with Anuj and she is doing it in small terms since the time they are married.

If in the second marriage the husband has to do all the sacrifices and adjustments then where is equality in this relationship? I agree that one person has to adjust more but the ratio should be 60-40 not more than that. Otherwise, the relationship dies. Be it any relationship.

Originally posted by: suhaaana

I can completely understand your POV but if we consider the situation as of now. Anuj is not well. Plus he feels indebted to vanraj for saving his life not considering that vanraj called him to cliff. It's the basic human character. I think with his progress he will become better with dealing with Shah's.

From where I see it, Vanraj did not save him at all. I mean they both fell. And what option did Vanraj have other than trying to save him?

Originally posted by: suhaaana

Malvika didn't listen to Anuj if i am not wrong. Zabardasti nahi kar sakta tha Anuj plus his guilt of his parents demise.

Anuj ke liye Shah's aren't that important why would he seek revenge from them. It should be Anupama. For malavika's case, it's malvika who should seek revenge.

For kapadia's, they crossed him and hurted his family when he wasn't in his senses. I think kisi upar peeche se waar karna jyada bura hai. Atleast Shah's muh par bolte hai, karte hain.

When did I talk about revenge? Yes, Mukku did not listen. But my question is as a brother shouldn't he feel angry with Vanraj for what he did with her? And he said Mukku was like his bachchi. His parent's guilt should make him feel disgusted with Vanraj for what he did with his sister. Well what can I expect from a guy who does not remember her sister in raksha bandhan as if she never existed. And as I said, I dont have any issue with Kapadias being vile and evil. Whatevr Anuj did with them is correct but why the free pass to shahs? That Vanraj said to her utha ke bahar fek dunga few days back

All the characters are ruined. None of them are consistent. And being a woman I feel disgusted that they butchered Anupama like anything. Feels like they take her to the top of a building just to throw her down. Anuj's character started going downhill since his accident or should I say since the first phone call of Mukku to him which he did not attend to despite not talking to her for 10 years.

Maybe only Vanraj is consistent that he is really inconsistent.

Originally posted by: strancho

All the characters are ruined. None of them are consistent. And being a woman I feel disgusted that they butchered Anupama like anything. Feels like they take her to the top of a building just to throw her down. Anuj's character started going downhill since his accident or should I say since the first phone call of Mukku to him which he did not attend to despite not talking to her for 10 years.

Maybe only Vanraj is consistent that he is really inconsistent.

@bold include Baa too. 😂

The only reason I watched anupama was because of a maan clip and binge watched it till marriage sequence.

The writers of this drama are high on weed that they don't even remember what they have showed 😅

I remember watching one interview of Anuj and Anupama and gaurav and rupali were clear that they even Don't know what they will have to shoot in next episode.

So can't really expect anything sensible from the makers.

Originally posted by: Kabhi18

I agree people on this forum loveee using Anupama as a scapegoat. I'm going to go out on a whim and say that people seem to find it easier to criticize the female leads than male leads. I've observed it time and time again. No one criticized Anuj for going with Vanraj to talk despite Anu saying not to, or him telling her that they should adopt a child during their honeymoon which was like their second day of marriage? 🤦🏻‍♀️

Originally posted by: suhaaana

@bold include Baa too. 😂

The only reason I watched anupama was because of a maan clip and binge watched it till marriage sequence.

The writers of this drama are high on weed that they don't even remember what they have showed 😅

I remember watching one interview of Anuj and Anupama and gaurav and rupali were clear that they even Don't know what they will have to shoot in next episode.

So can't really expect anything sensible from the makers.

I do not care anymore as this show is nothing different from what is being aired on other channels or other shows of Sitaara.

I do not agree with that. They do know but they may not know kya kab scrap ho jaaye.

But all in all, I can say both Anuj and Anupama are the worst leads that I have ever seen on ITV. I despise Ekta's shows but have to say her leads are lot better than this.

Originally posted by: strancho

Yes, there are. And I myself know that very well. And how the abused person feels that I also know very well and can say they don't behave how Anupama behaves. I know this is maker's fault. But we love the character when she does something that is to be applauded. Likewise goes for criticism.

If in the second marriage the husband has to do all the sacrifices and adjustments then where is equality in this relationship? I agree that one person has to adjust more but the ratio should be 60-40 not more than that. Otherwise, the relationship dies. Be it any relationship.

From where I see it, Vanraj did not save him at all. I mean they both fell. And what option did Vanraj have other than trying to save him?

When did I talk about revenge? Yes, Mukku did not listen. But my question is as a brother shouldn't he feel angry with Vanraj for what he did with her? And he said Mukku was like his bachchi. His parent's guilt should make him feel disgusted with Vanraj for what he did with his sister. Well what can I expect from a guy who does not remember her sister in raksha bandhan as if she never existed. And as I said, I dont have any issue with Kapadias being vile and evil. Whatevr Anuj did with them is correct but why the free pass to shahs? That Vanraj said to her utha ke bahar fek dunga few days back

May I come in?😊

On this note, I want to add something.

Earlier, I used to think –what could poor Anuj do at that time as Mukku was stubborn and did not want to listen to him.

But now…seriously AK poor, if a person having millions worth of money, power, and sharp mind is helpless then what about really common man? When he could use all his power and tricks to save Nandini from Her Ex, why could not for Mukku ( whom he calls his bacchi).

Other than his relationship with Mukku, a sister, He is also indebted to Mukku and her parents coz of them he has got this identity, education, and life. Was its not his responsibility to take her out of that trap. But what he did, left Mukku, even left home, hold pallu of Anupama and went singing “Meri anu meri anu” with her.

It's disgusting how can a man see his sister with a man of father's age dancing, trapping in name of love. when it came to pakhi, his anu's daughter, Man see his attitude.

Why different treatment for Shahs and Kapadiyas? why shahs are always entitled to special privileges? Playing with the sentiments and emotions of his sister who was already a victim of DV and in depression was less worse than what kapadiyas did?

As the Anu so as the Anuj, Not a man of his word and dumb.😈

Originally posted by: ChirpyKiya10

May I come in?😊

On this note, I want to add something.

Earlier, I used to think –what could poor Anuj do at that time as Mukku was stubborn and did not want to listen to him.

But now…seriously AK poor, if a person having millions worth of money, power, and sharp mind is helpless then what about really common man? When he could use all his power and tricks to save Nandini from Her Ex, why could not for Mukku ( whom he calls his bacchi).

Other than his relationship with Mukku, a sister, He is also indebted to Mukku and her parents coz of them he has got this identity, education, and life. Was its not his responsibility to take her out of that trap. But what he did, left Mukku, even left home, hold pallu of Anupama and went singing “Meri anu meri anu” with her.

It's disgusting how can a man see his sister with a man of father's age dancing, trapping in name of love. when it came to pakhi, his anu's daughter, Man see his attitude.

Why different treatment for Shahs and Kapadiyas? why shahs are always entitled to special privileges? Playing with the sentiments and emotions of his sister who was already a victim of DV and in depression was less worse than what kapadiyas did?

As the Anu so as the Anuj, Not a man of his word and dumb.😈

Yep. I seriously despise this version of Anuj who sees only his wife and his wife's relations. Suddenly on honeymoon, this janab realises that his heart never recovered from the fact that he did not have parents. Before that, I never saw him feeling like that. I am not saying that he can't feel that way. He can. Because sometimes adopted kids never could accept their adoptive parents but that does not pop up suddenly. When he never healed what does he think his daughter will feel? Sam, the makers did not even care to put a photo of his parents.