Originally posted by: mpks1
One thing I want to say to all those unmarried girls here out in the IF who read this post and are active participants in this forum (I have no qualification to say anything to TT and IG fans who always read this EDT and make fun of me as an aunty, because they seem to know everything in life and has seen it all, so this is definitely not for them, don't even bother reading it. I am requesting you all to stay away from my posts😕) 
Your respect in your inlaws place is established only when your husband respects and supports you. If it doesn't happen, then you will be treated like how Raavi has been treated all along that everyone will take you for granted and always waiting to put you down. No matter what you do, they will never be happy.
Raavi has heard it from all of them at some point and not been able to give it back because they take her for granted and she has no standing or respect in that house. And today we saw she was standing there alone with no one to support and tomorrow Shiva will throw out the food which will again be justified and she will be called a liar by him until she apologizes.
I am 20 turning 21 by end of this yr, never been in relationship but this is something I fully agree on. 
Your respect at in laws place is how your husband treats you. 
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Raavi won't ever get respect and treated like human as Shiva doesn't do it. 
I have seen my mother, she is an absolute sweetheart ❤️ bas apne baccho per gussa karti hain 🤣
My parents tells us that when they were newly married and till the time my brother was born they used to have a lot of guesting and it used to be really hectic for my mother as no one from the guest used to help her. 
But whenever my father used to return home they used to pretend that they are helping as my father can be really rude at times 😆. My mother never complained but we as kids saw that. 
There were no insults but as my mother is youngest in their generation so they all have a big age difference, my buas have taunted her not bohot zyada but kiya hain, I have 4 badi mumma and all have been through this but they never degraded each other. 
Mera bada man kiya hain to reply them back when I got older when I hear these stories but couldn't ever do as phir Mumma ko he taane milte. We told this to our father as we just knew that ki yeh cheez galat lag rahi bhale I didn't understood as I was really small and he used to reply back, later we shifted to Gujarat waha toh barely guesting thi as it was soo far away. 
When we again returned back to Delhi then again guesting started but this time, it used to be a healthy environment and not that hectic for my mother.