Originally posted by: Enlightened21
Imlie was equally wrong today. I agree and that is why I could make this post on her today.
But with Aryan, I can't neither blame him or defend him. Because, I am not sure whether he's doing it purposely or not. I think Aryan standing unflinched even after seeing Imlie ready to leave is causing me the confusion. Unless that is what he expected or that was his motive, how can he stand like that? 🤔😭
Firstly , to put it very very bluntly.. Imho ..after having observed Imlie for so long … Imlie is a classic narcissist.. her solo thought process is ..I know the best .. I know it all ..I will do it ..I can save evryone n eveything.. I will do it myself.. and You hv to go along with me , cuz what I say or feel is the one single truth .. this narcissism accompanied by the fact that she is a naive 20 year old , hailed by people around her as a pure hearted individual ( which she is largely), topped by her savior complex.. is a toxic combination..
her so called 50:50 partnership with Aryan also comes into play when either he proposes it ( to keep her safe ) or she has no other option left but to ask for it
Don’t remember seeing her aplogize for a mistake of hers.. like ever .. genuinely accepting and feeling sorry for being wrong…she refuses to acknowledge the fact that she can hv flaws,.she can be wring too .. Anyone that disputes that notion invites her illogical ire .. it doesn’t matter who that might be , even Aryan is not spared …
Aryan has been aware of her savior complex, her implusive nature, her seemingly pure heart .. he goes along with her antics ,as long as its not detrimental to her well being or for that matter even their loved ones .. in this process he duly states facts to her as well .. which Imlie btw never acknowledges , if there is a chance of her view being proven wrong ..
but there’s a limit to this insanity, specially if u can see what this can lead to, if not handled carefully .. this was that scenario for Aryan .. the stakes were damn high .. their child .. he could see Imlie’s implusiveness kicking into action again.. he could see it happening right in front of his eyes .. he kept warning her .. and wat he feared eventually happened .. I dont blame him for snapping.. at all .. the dam had to burst sometime .. which btw is totally different from their first miscarriage.. no one saw that coming , Imlie was not implusive then.. and Aryan reacted completely diff then.. did not hold her responsible..wS in fact her rock then.,
It was diff this time around..and the worst part was the moment Aryan called her out .. without any introspection , she vehemently opposed it ..Imlie had the audacity to blame him instead .. no mayter how illogical.. that was her mechanism of guilt shifting onto him .. so she can be absolved of any blame, as narcissism doesnt allow acceting any blame .. she has zero accountability even now..
What happened thereafter was the right thing to do .. we cannot discredit the pain of a father bcz unlike the mother they r not carrying the baby .. the pain was too big for Aryan to forgive easily .. and Imlie would hv never taken the accountability of her actions .. there was no reason for him to stop her from leaving .. had they stayed together right now , the relationship would hv only turned sour and painful ..love is an after thought right now.. pain is front stage.. they hv nothing to give each other right now .. other than space..
Edited by novice1 - 3 years ago