Originally posted by: mango.falooda
re: shehroze & balance
have mentioned this before but a parent child relationship must evolve. when it doesn't and is stunted, you end up with issues. sadaf and sufiyan on one side, shehroze on the other. sadaf and sufiyan see their parents as personal ATMs and butlers -- the parents exist only to cater to their needs. so it is an unequal relationship where it is all "give me, give me, give me". this is why when raeesa and rafaqat ask anything of them, they throw a meltdown and say these parents are the worst.
then you have shehroze. here, you have someone who still idolizes his mom the way he did as a child. it is fine to think your mom is amzing as a child and can do no wrong. however, part of growing up is finding out your parent is flawed. as one kdrama beautifully put it, "parents simply mean they lived before you. but they are still human" . learning to accept that just as any other human, parents have pluses and minuses and may make the wrong calls and decisiosn. moving past to form mature relationships is what makes a parent-adult child relationship. if that doesn't happen, you do have problems.
look at his relationship with wahab -- he still hasn't gotten over wahab not being there for his childhood. why? well he can be as angry as a child shehroze but as an adult, it is time to keep that aside and see different issues and semanatics right? that hasn't happened. same with naima -- besides the caregiver issue, he has idolized naima to a point where she holds too much power over him. so it is difficult for him to see her as having flaws.
it will break his heart -- he still cannot accept wahab is flawed. how much more complicated it will be for him to realize that naima is also flawed.
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