Whether or not Abhi wants to get intimate is his choice. No means no. There is never any circumstance where anyone has to accept any form of intimacy. My POV.Red: I agree. Not all kisses are seeking intimacy- some are comforting, supportive and affectionate.
When one partner in a loving and giving relationship is trying to make amends by hugging and showing affection I feel you must accept it - you may not be in a frame of mind to reciprocate but don’t shut off physical contact like it’s a punishment for good/ bad behavior. Your issue is with the behavior, address that but if you are in a loving giving relationship you will accept comforting affection.
Again my POV only
I understand not everyone will agree.
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